James 4:2-3 NKJV
2 You lust and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You fight and [
a]war. [
b]Yet you do not have because you do not ask. 3 You ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss, that you may spend
it on your pleasures.
How were you and your friends born again? You never asked for salvation?
Not asking is irresponsible, then fewer are saved. Our parents asked for our salvation, our forefathers asked for revival, even cried out. St Monica asked for Augustine's, her son's salvation and he became a bishop.
You quote God's promises of giving, if you want them, you must ask for them.
Sons ask their fathers.
We pray, come Holy Spirit. And you Kingdom come.
It may be that another asks for you. At church intercession results in you receiving.
Luke 11 NKJV
1Now it came to pass, as He was praying in a certain place, when He ceased,
that one of His disciples said to Him, “Lord, teach us to pray, as John also taught his disciples.”
2So He said to them, “When you pray, say:
Our
[a] Father
Luke 11 NKJVin heaven,
Hallowed be Your name.
Your kingdom come.
[c]Your will be done
On earth as it is in heaven.
3Give us day by day our daily bread.
4And forgive us our sins,
For we also forgive everyone who is indebted to us.
And do not lead us into temptation,
[d]But deliver us from the evil one.”
A Friend Comes at Midnight
5And He said to them, “Which of you shall have a friend, and go to him at midnight and say to him, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves; 6for a friend of mine has come to me on his journey, and I have nothing to set before him’; 7and he will answer from within and say, ‘Do not trouble me; the door is now shut, and my children are with me in bed; I cannot rise and give to you’? 8I say to you, though he will not rise and give to him because he is his friend, yet because of his persistence he will rise and give him as many as he needs.
Keep Asking, Seeking, Knocking
9“So I say to you, ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 10For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. 11If a son asks for [e]bread from any father among you, will he give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will he give him a serpent instead of a fish? 12Or if he asks for an egg, will he offer him a scorpion? 13If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him!”
So ask for the Father to give you the Holy Spirit in Jesus' name and surrender to the indwelling presence for the fruit. Even ask for the grace of surrender.