The problem is my husband and grown child like the size of the church because it offers some anonymity and some comfort in not believing without pressure. They want to come to God in their own time and the amount of people offers a comfort blanket for them.
So, I have prayed about it. I am a believer. They are not. Does it matter how I feel if the church may benefit them?
I can't tell if God wants me to stay for their benefit or leave for all of our benefit or would it just be for mine? They say they like it there but they don't know the difference between this church, versus others, and are still learning about things.
Disclaimer: Opinion ahead.
We aren't the bride of a particular Church, we are the bride of Christ as a whole. Going to Church has a few reasons, 1) to worship God, 2) to serve and love others, 3) to fellowship with people that are like-minded and by this be sharpened in God's Word and built up by His Spirit in brothers and sisters.
I don't see committing to a Church per say, but to Christ. You can't know if you are missing the best experience you've had unless you go have those experiences, and this isn't trying drugs out or bar hopping we are talking about... it's simply Churches to meet people and experience what God may do there. It doesn't seem to me it can be harmful to know a few more brothers and sisters.
I don't think an unbeliever can know what is good for them (no presumption on them), as it is hard to hear our Heavenly Father if one isn't interested in hearing from Him. Those of us who know His voice know that it is a still, small, quiet, and very gentle voice that will not force itself on someone, but is evident only to those with their attention whole-heartedly on Him. It seems as though giving them what they want is leaving them in the stagnant zone, and while forcing anyone is not God's way, if they are willing another environment that showed them a more interpersonal and loving experience may open their hearts to God's love and goodness.
Lastly, I don't think it has to be a you or them kind of thing, at least not in the proposal in conversation. Relationships, and primarily marriages, are about compromising if there are differences between the two people and love is present between them. A husband does not always want to go shopping for dresses or curtains or handbags, but will if he loves her and it brings her joy to do that with him. A wife may not want to go to a car show or other event she finds uninteresting, but if she loves him she will happily go with him due to the love that lives in her heart for him.
Obviously, this is not something anyone from the outside can fully explore or resolve, but maybe more communication, the sharing of what's in the heart genuinely and gently, a few visits if the communication goes well to other Churches, and see where it all goes from there. Switching Churches for a week doesn't mean one is bound to stay there for life, and while I don't believe in Church hopping, I do believe there is a place where a person belongs, and people make that place, not the building, or itinerary, or the programs, or music.
It is a rock and a hard place for sure. I'm praying for you.