Ephesians 5:22-25
The following video of a street preacher reminded me of that Bible passage. The comments for that video seem to be overwhelmingly supporting the preacher. (so far I haven't found any negative comments)
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I was wondering what Christians think about that passage being used to encourage men to have more power in a marriage...
It's a fundamental misunderstanding of the passage to use it to teach that men are supposed to be "the boss" or act in some authoritarian way in the home.
The thesis of this portion of text is "submit to one another out of reverence for Christ". In most of the older manuscripts the following statement which is translated as "wives, submit to your husbands" actually lacks the verb "submit", so that literally it is "wives, your husbands". This isn't a problem grammatically in the source text, because the verb is effectively being "borrowed" from the previous statement. Essentially it's like this, "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ; wives, do this toward your husbands". But it doesn't stop, a few verses later it moves from speaking to wives to husbands, instructing husbands (and this is still in the context of "submit to one another") to love their wives in the way Christ loves His Church, in laying down one's life. Christ came as Servant, "The Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many"--that is instruction given to husbands. Wives are called to submit to husbands, and husbands are called to submit to their wives--to view themselves not as masters but as servants, serving their wives in the general call to mutual submission.
This isn't about control, this is about loving one another; it's about not viewing oneself as chief but as servant. In marriage both husbands and wives are to see themselves as servants, serving and caring and loving the other. It's not about power dynamics--it's about
love. And this whole discussion continues beyond husbands and wives, as it continues in chapter 6 in the discussion of children and parents. Children are called to honor their parents, and parents are called not to provoke their children, but love them. Again, this is a call to mutual submission, to viewing oneself as a servant, with the goal to be love, to be an imitator of Jesus. And then, also, the text speaks of the relationships even between slaves and masters; going so far as to call masters to view themselves as slaves of their slaves; thus actually eroding and functionally abolishing the slave-master relationship altogether.
The text is a subtle subversion of ordinary interpersonal social politics within the ancient world. Wherein Christians are to understand themselves as having a distinct mentality toward each other, as brothers and sisters. There is something radically subversive, but Christians are never called to outright disrupt and destroy the social order; yet the kind of life they are called to have is one that places them at odds with the ordinary social order. This can be found again and again throughout the New Testament. Even as Paul tells Christians to recognize governing authorities as existing because of God's authority; yet Christians do not live in such a way as to confess that Caesar is lord, but rather to live in such a way that Christ is Lord. Thus while the Church does not pick up torches and pitchforks to Caesar's doorstep, yet in quietness and peaceableness, the Church confidently proclaims Christ, not Caesar, as Lord.
The systems of power, the powers and principalities of this fallen world in all their varied forms, are confidently declared to be overcome; yet it is not with the call of revolution that the Church proclaims them fallen--it is in the confidence of the Risen Christ who is seated at the right hand of God, who by His Cross He has defeated the powers. That is true all the way from the cosmic scale, where Christ has even defeated death itself; all the way down to the microcosms of our everyday life--where we exist in all our ordinary social vocations--as friends, neighbors, spouses, parents, children, etc. Because of the Victory of Christ over the cosmic powers of darkness, then our lives are defined not by the power of this fallen age--but by the hope and life of the future age. Thus we do not lord over one another, we do take one another to court, we do not compete with one another except in living honorably and in godly charity toward all. We should not be a people who strive against each other, but cooperate; who do not envy, but rejoice together and share and are endlessly generous with one another.
It is a radical kind of life that the New Testament calls Christians to have, a life defined by Jesus, His Cross, His Empty Tomb, and the hope of the Age to Come.
-CryptoLutheran