I feel at 25 I still somewhat cringe I guess because Idk maybe I'm not emotionally ready. But I also feel my anxiety has walls built around me to where I can't feel anything, you know?
I just feel weird bc everyone my age is just going crazy about sex ...and one of the reasons I don't mind not having a bf is because I feel sex would be apart of that relationship and I just don't crave sex as much as other people...my libido is very low.
I just wonder as a Christian what is a healthy view of sex? I don't see it as dirty..I think its beautiful with the right person and under the right circumstances..
I just ask this question because I can't get the guy I had sex with out of my mind(first and only) and I felt numb, no connection at all...and I worry ...in the future if I happen to find a great guy if my anxiety will prevent me from making that connection that's made during that intimate moment. And it worries me, that's one of the reasons I don't want to be in a relationship because of the pressure of sex
Please no immature answers, just honest thoughts.
I was in a relationship for about 14 months. I was engaged, with the purpose of being married in the future. At first we started out with "not ..." It was my view as a Christian I should wait until marriage. But somehow things happened, and we started to be intimate. In the back of my head there was this voice telling me that it wasn't right, but we were engaged right, shouldn't that make it all right? A few months ago we parted and now I'm thinking: "Ok, I have been intimate, and now we aren't even together, so what good came out of that?"
I believe that is a good reason why to wait until marriage, because then you know and have made a promise to God to be together your whole life. So I'm more sure now about my "No sex before marriage - opinion." I also believe that a relationship can turn out wrong if you start out with being intimate. You have to know each other very well first, and sex can be an hinderance for really knowing each other and learning to love each other for the right reasons.
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