You assume when you see a couple together that they are intimate.
This is what Kate says about how people of this world can see a couple who is in a close relationship. But physical intimacy is not real intimacy.
Ones assume that sex is intimacy. But we see what happens to a lot of unmarried and married partners, though they have had sex. There is even more than a fifty-percent divorce rate of married people who claim to be Christians. So, even from this statistical standpoint, I think we can see how sex is not really a measure or guarantee of intimacy. And so, if ones are mainly attracted because of feelings for sex, they likely are being tricked.
Sex, then, is not a reliable measure of maturity, or of advancement in relating well in love.
And I have been able to imagine having sexual activity with women; but this does not make me truly loving and caring for them. In fact, it can be simply a selfish way to feel pleasure. And then I can break down in my weakness for seeking the pleasure. Instead, I need to first care about every woman I see and think about, caring in prayer for every one. My attention needs to be first to loving, not merely to what a woman looks like or how charming her voice can sound.
You can see the pattern > undeveloped people take a shortcut to sex, instead of learning how to love > ones married can do this, too. They do not first make sure they get with Jesus and God's real correction to bring us into real loving Matthew 11:28-30, Hebrews 12:4-11. And so, in their weakness for the pleasure they also keep on staying weak so they can suffer all the pain they do, and broken relationships.
Because you need to be strong in love, in order to do well in a close relationship. Pleasure can not keep you satisfied enough to stay together; pleasure certainly will not make you strong enough to stay out of arguing and frustration and unforgiveness and bitterness and and loneliness and other torments of fear and worry > only God's love with His almighty power can keep us from fear and its "torment" > 1 John 4:18.
But ones can stay with each other, in hopes of using each other. But, this does not make them truly loving and truly intimate. And so, in their weakness they will keep on giving in to arguing and frustration and hurts, if they stay with each other, and unforgiveness.
But the immoral sex is not the real enemy!!!!
"if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" Jesus says in Matthew 5:46.
There are plenty of married couples who are mainly about loving only their own spouses and children and certain friends and favorite family members. But this can have them staying in worldly love, versus how God's all-loving love will have us caring even for any and all people > following the example of Jesus on the cross.
So ones are isolated, not intimate, with only certain ones they care about, perhaps because they hope to use those ones they choose to love. Ones can really love the pleasure they use another person to get. This is a major problem, how various people have a preference not for God and being all-loving, but their preference is for pleasure. They are not about producing children of God who know how to love.
So, this is another thing. Whom are you first trying to please? God wants "godly offspring" > Malachi 2:14-15 < who know how to love, because of your example feeding your children how to relate in a close relationship.
So, first you need to feed on God's example through Jesus, and all His word says about how to relate in His love, and this will have us more and more intimate with God and others who are doing this with us >
1 Corinthians 6:17
Ephesians 3:17
Philippians 2:13-16
Ephesians 4:31-5:2
Colossians 3:19
1 Timothy 2:1-4
Actually, any scripture can be used by God to help us find out how to love the way Jesus wants. And as we become more mature in deeply caring for any and all people, this makes us intimate with Jesus our Groom so we are compatible with Him so we can spend eternity with Jesus and one another > 1 John 4:17-18 >
"And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma." (Ephesians 5:2)
So, what can be wrong, about immoral sex but also other selfish things, is what we are not doing, that we need to do.