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dating advice

  1. S

    Can LCMS date church member?

    Here’s the background story: Single LCMS pastor, never married, age 40. Newly divorced woman, in her 40’s, member of the church and attends church regularly. This woman’s ex is a non-attending member of the church, and he only became a member for the school tuition discount. This church has a...
  2. S

    Can a Pastor date a member of his congregation?

    Here’s the background story: Single LCMS pastor, never married, age 40. Newly divorced woman, in her 40’s, member of the church and attends church regularly. This woman’s ex is a non-attending member of the church, and he only became a member for the school tuition discount. This church has a...
  3. bèlla

    Dating is Harder

    Nearly Half of U.S. Adults Say Dating Has Gotten Harder for Most People in the Last 10 Years —Pew Research Center (download report) Among those who are on the dating market – the 15% of American adults who are single and looking for a committed relationship or casual dates – most say they are...
  4. H

    Advice for meeting LDR boyfriend?

    Hi family, it’s my first post here and I would love some advice with my LDR :) my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. He was an exchange student from Asia in the city where I study in Europe. We met at church and had an instant connection, but we developed our friendship for...
  5. I

    Question for Young Women: If I Sent You This Message, What Would You Think?

    Hello! I have a question for the Christian lady readers... So there's this girl - Sommer - that I'm thinking about asking out soon. I've never actually met her before, but I know about her through my high school athletics team. My options for contacting her are: a) randomly showing up at her...
  6. D

    Confusing aspects of dating a European girl

    Please don't judge me to be a homophobe, I certainly am not. Even so, I think I’m completely losing all feelings for a girl after she told me she was questioning her sexuality, maybe even a bit emasculated too. Please excuse any ignorance towards lgbt in this post from being raised in a very...
  7. Kevin-D.77

    Premarital Counseling... That big a deal?

    I am kind of torn on this one. A lot of people who I have talked to and seen online bring up starting premarital counseling almost immediately after entering into a serious relationship. I know that I would like to do it, and of course not at the very last second, but I'm not sure when to...
  8. Kevin-D.77

    Type B Man Dating a Type A Woman

    Good evening brothers and sisters in Christ. Reaching out just to hear others' input: I definitely have a Type B personality (flexible, low-stress levels, relaxed attitude, even-tempered, laid-back, tendency to procrastinate, patient) and I have always been attracted to women who exhibit Type A...
  9. B

    I want to get to the heart of the issue (dating life)

    First of all I would like to say this is my first post and this may be in the completely wrong section of the forum so I apologize for any inconvenience. I wanted to reach out to a Christian group of any sort to get some help on thoughts I might be able to sort out with some affirmation. There’s...
  10. E

    How to talk to Christian friend about her relationship moving too fast?

    My friend is 20. Her partner is 24 and a new Christian. I'm concerned for her because they are almost engaged and, while he's experienced a lot of growth in the past year, he still shows many areas of concern. For instance, he's very financially unstable (even though they just started Financial...
  11. A

    Prayers for Discernment in Relationship Partner Selection/Question about GOD'S VOICE

    So, Proverbs 11:14 says there is Wisdom in a multitude of counselors. James 5:16 affirms that the fervent Prayer of a Righteous individual avails much. I need both right now. I believe in mutuality, so if you can Pray for me then leave a Prayer request at the end of your reply, and I'll Pray for...
  12. Archy

    Should I break up or stay with my atheist boyfriend?

    I started the relationship in May 2018, and later on accepted Christ in December 2018. He seldom talked about religion, and after accepting Christ, I learnt that it was because he hates God. I've been trying to show him the real God whom I love, but it's hard cause I've only just began my...
  13. bèlla

    10 New Terms to Add to Your Dating Dictionary

    Courtesy of Ask Men. Vulturing Just like a vulture circling its wounded prey, some people out there can sense when a relationship is on its last leg. That’s their signal to swoop in, using that opportunity to pick up the pieces and make everything better. It’s important to note that simply...
  14. Matisyahu8898

    Books and Resources on Christian Dating

    Does anyone have any material I can read about dating in way that reflects Christ, and how to carefully navigate a romantic relationship? I'm a man, so books about dating women especially would be helpful. Any advice you can share personally is very welcome as well. Thanks! Matt
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    Should my friend continues dating a Man with a child

    Hi there. I am new here. I signed up for this forum for my friend. I am married while my best friend, Karen (not her real name) is still finding the right one. I was there with her since we were in high school. So a couple of years ago she ended her 9 year relationship with her high school...
  16. Kilk1

    Scriptural qualities a potential wife should have

    Hello! I was wondering what qualities, as a Christian young man, I should look for in a wife. If you have advice, it would be appreciated, but I'll require that you support the qualities you suggest with book, chapter, and verse. Thanks!
  17. bèlla

    Marriage Readiness

    Is there a point when you realized your readiness for marriage? Was it an internal alarm, sense of peace, craving, or something else? How did you know its time? :-)
  18. Lybrah

    Can we date divorcees?

    I am middle-aged and I know what the bible says about divorce. However, at my age, most of the dating pool is full of divorced men. Aren't I limiting myself by not wanting to date divorcees?
  19. J

    My partner cheated on me

    Hello, so I have been seeing this guy for about 7 months, previously we used to be really big players and he was a really big player before we started seeing each other, but i asked for 3 conformations from God to show me if this guy was the man he wanted me to marry and yes I did see the 3...
  20. T

    Relationship with someone of weak faith

    I’m a Senior in HS and going to the same college as my girlfriend (coincidentally)... I’m in a serious relationship with this wonderful girl. She makes me happy, loves me unconditionally, we respect each other immensely, and always seek to understand each other, and I can talk with her about...