Advice for meeting LDR boyfriend?

[HopeToMeet]

Hi family, it’s my first post here and I would love some advice with my LDR

my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. He was an exchange student from Asia in the city where I study in Europe. We met at church and had an instant connection, but we developed our friendship for 3 months until we DTRed and officially starting dating. Since then he went back, and for most of our relationship we are LDR, but when we have breaks we visited each other and met with respective friends/families. I still have 2 more years of graduate school, and he has a bond to work for the government for 2 more years. However, we are committed and have already talked about marriage with our families.

Soo the thing is, we couldn’t meet at all in 2020 due to Covid, but right now I can potentially travel to meet him. However, I strongly felt I shouldn’t meet him in his country but a neighboring country. I don’t know if it’s because I’ve visited him there for 3 times already, or that when I visited I felt uncomfortable (I don’t have any friend/family there and I couldn’t resist when he crossed physical boundaries last times). But in the neighboring country I have many more family and friends. However, he insists that my feelings are irrational/not from God and I should get over it, since it is easier for me to travel to meet him than otherwise. Of course, if i have no other options to meet I would still travel to him, but if possible I really prefer to meet elsewhere. We’ve had some heated discussions on this and I would love to hear some godly views!

 

[Albion]

He doesn't really sound like your "Prince Charming," does he?

 

[HopeToMeet]

Well since I am visiting the neighboring country for my family first, he did say he is willing to pay for my flight ticket from the neighbor country to his. Although for me it’s not really about the money..

 

[HopeToMeet]

And he did regret for pushing the physical boundaries and promises to honor me this time. But it’s been over a year since we last saw each other, I’m not certain we are strong enough to resist the temptations. His church leaders aren’t very involved in our struggles etc, so I just don’t feel very safe.

 

[xaris]

I wouldn't go where my conscience throws up red flags.
Oh, btw, what is LDR?

 

[HopeToMeet]

LDR=long distance relationship

 

[Lost4words]

I once had an LDR. I was taken to the vet because of it!

 

[Sketcher]

Hi family, it’s my first post here and I would love some advice with my LDR

my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. He was an exchange student from Asia in the city where I study in Europe. We met at church and had an instant connection, but we developed our friendship for 3 months until we DTRed and officially starting dating. Since then he went back, and for most of our relationship we are LDR, but when we have breaks we visited each other and met with respective friends/families. I still have 2 more years of graduate school, and he has a bond to work for the government for 2 more years. However, we are committed and have already talked about marriage with our families.

Soo the thing is, we couldn’t meet at all in 2020 due to Covid, but right now I can potentially travel to meet him. However, I strongly felt I shouldn’t meet him in his country but a neighboring country. I don’t know if it’s because I’ve visited him there for 3 times already, or that when I visited I felt uncomfortable (I don’t have any friend/family there and I couldn’t resist when he crossed physical boundaries last times). But in the neighboring country I have many more family and friends. However, he insists that my feelings are irrational/not from God and I should get over it, since it is easier for me to travel to meet him than otherwise. Of course, if i have no other options to meet I would still travel to him, but if possible I really prefer to meet elsewhere. We’ve had some heated discussions on this and I would love to hear some godly views!

Is it possible for him to meet you in that other country? Is it merely inconvenient for him to do so, or is there a good reason why he cannot travel right now?

 

[com7fy8]

It sounds like a young relationship. Go easy, I would say.

Stay with people you trust.

 

[DiscipleHeLovesToo]

Asian customs can differ significantly from what we see in the US, so be careful - i'd say stick to your idea and have him meet you where there are family and friends.

 

[Heavenhome]

I definitely would never go anywhere that you feel uncomfortable about going.

And to be perfectly honest I wouldn't be contemplating overseas travel of any sort with Covid19.
Your safety comes first.

 

[Joined2krist]

Stay safe. If you have to go, your best option is to stay where you feel comfortable

 

[HopeToMeet]

Thank you family for the replies and advice We prayed and talked it through. If circumstances allow, he is willing to travel to meet as well. The borders are still tight, so I’m waiting for the best time Thank God though for the agreement!

 

[Daniel Marsh]

Hi family, it’s my first post here and I would love some advice with my LDR

my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. He was an exchange student from Asia in the city where I study in Europe. We met at church and had an instant connection, but we developed our friendship for 3 months until we DTRed and officially starting dating. Since then he went back, and for most of our relationship we are LDR, but when we have breaks we visited each other and met with respective friends/families. I still have 2 more years of graduate school, and he has a bond to work for the government for 2 more years. However, we are committed and have already talked about marriage with our families.

Soo the thing is, we couldn’t meet at all in 2020 due to Covid, but right now I can potentially travel to meet him. However, I strongly felt I shouldn’t meet him in his country but a neighboring country. I don’t know if it’s because I’ve visited him there for 3 times already, or that when I visited I felt uncomfortable (I don’t have any friend/family there and I couldn’t resist when he crossed physical boundaries last times). But in the neighboring country I have many more family and friends. However, he insists that my feelings are irrational/not from God and I should get over it, since it is easier for me to travel to meet him than otherwise. Of course, if i have no other options to meet I would still travel to him, but if possible I really prefer to meet elsewhere. We’ve had some heated discussions on this and I would love to hear some godly views!

Tell him to met you there at the home of your wisest relative or dump him. Is LDR Latter Day Saints Reformed? If he loves you, he will do so. If not, there is a bigger problem that dumping him will solve.

If so, how does your doctrines compare to the Utah LDS doctrines?

 

[bèlla]

If so, how does your doctrines compare to the Utah LDS doctrines?

It stands for Long Distance Relationship