- Dec 18, 2020
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Please don't judge me to be a homophobe, I certainly am not. Even so, I think I’m completely losing all feelings for a girl after she told me she was questioning her sexuality, maybe even a bit emasculated too. Please excuse any ignorance towards lgbt in this post from being raised in a very rural part of the country where I didn't have any exposure to any of this stuff.
So this girl and I have been talking since lockdown started about the mutual feelings we have for each other. I felt like it was going well and we’d be a couple by the time I could see her again. She feels really comfortable sharing anything with me, I’m more of a guarded person.
She drops this bombshell on me that she’s been questioning her sexuality for a while, even before we met. I feel cold because the more I consider it, the more I think not really interested in pursuing her anymore. I feel like this is more complicated than I want my life to be. She’s European and I suppose more free? My worry is, years later, she'll resent me for being a man and not being free to experiment with women.
I don't want any dramatics or heartbreak, all I want is an uncomplicated life with a woman that loves me.
I understand being confused about something but if so, why does she say she loves me and is trying to pursue a relationship with me?? This is all complicated further by the fact my little sister was raped by an older lesbian when this lockdown happened which I’m still reeling from. I didn’t tell her this.
I know one isn’t representative of all but I can’t help feeling some disgust about same sex acts which I could never bring myself to tell her. I need to be very clear, I am not disgusted by her, just at the thought of her engaging in sexual acts with the same sex. I’m probably being selfish to protect myself, I mean, I’m SOL if she decides not to like dudes anymore. But you should decide because I don’t trust myself to think freely from emotions with this at all.
So this girl and I have been talking since lockdown started about the mutual feelings we have for each other. I felt like it was going well and we’d be a couple by the time I could see her again. She feels really comfortable sharing anything with me, I’m more of a guarded person.
She drops this bombshell on me that she’s been questioning her sexuality for a while, even before we met. I feel cold because the more I consider it, the more I think not really interested in pursuing her anymore. I feel like this is more complicated than I want my life to be. She’s European and I suppose more free? My worry is, years later, she'll resent me for being a man and not being free to experiment with women.
I don't want any dramatics or heartbreak, all I want is an uncomplicated life with a woman that loves me.
I understand being confused about something but if so, why does she say she loves me and is trying to pursue a relationship with me?? This is all complicated further by the fact my little sister was raped by an older lesbian when this lockdown happened which I’m still reeling from. I didn’t tell her this.
I know one isn’t representative of all but I can’t help feeling some disgust about same sex acts which I could never bring myself to tell her. I need to be very clear, I am not disgusted by her, just at the thought of her engaging in sexual acts with the same sex. I’m probably being selfish to protect myself, I mean, I’m SOL if she decides not to like dudes anymore. But you should decide because I don’t trust myself to think freely from emotions with this at all.