It's a little complicated
I suppose my "debate" is more a vigorous way of asking questions. I don't mean to offend, it's just that in all my research I can't find what you're saying to be listed anywhere. And if it's the case that this is some sort of Lutheran policy in the confessional churches, it would be great if you could show me where this is stated.
I am a pastor at a non-Lutheran church, although I am Lutheran in enough of my theology to consider myself Lutheran.
One day I want to plant a church and somehow make it a Lutheran one. The question comes down to how that relationship would work - what kind of ecclesiology needs to be adopted and how it would fit in to the larger Lutheran body.
So my hanging around in these forums is a little complicated. As a non-confessional "independent" Lutheran, I feel that I'm not breaching the rules by being here in the catch-all area of the Lutheran forums (I am not in the LCMS or WELS one, and if I do venture there I tend to ask questions), so here I imagine both ELCA and the larger LWF and all the rest are allowed to hang out.
As a non-north American from South Africa, even if I was part of a Lutheran church in name, the associations here are rather different and, quite frankly, difficult to understand to someone "looking in". For some years though I've been exploring. But ideally my wife and I want to plant in America at some stage, if possible.
I realise that the question was directed to LCMS in the topic name, but it was placed in the broader forum. So maybe I'm over-staying my welcome a little bit, but the conversation would be both interesting and important and I don't think I'm doing the wrong thing by engaging in it in the way that I am.
That's the best summary I can provide of my position without boring you with my life story.
The scriptures you posted earlier on are fine and well, and no problem with them, but none of them really state that a pastor's wife should fellowship at a different congregation. I know that some ELCA churches have co-pastoral teams of husband and wife, but I admit I don't quite know where LCMS fit in. What you said certainly took me by surprise! But in all my journeys I have not seen what you're saying stated anywhere, so if it is somewhere, I'd really appreciate a source so I can further research the topic.
Thanks!