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Marriage postponing advice

I planned to marry this April (next month) but now I want to postpone the marriage the reason is because, I see that I won't be able to get the needed money for the process, actually it's supposed to be a traditional marriage so it's about buying some cows and some stuff for the girl's parents..

So the problem is that I find it very difficult to tell my fiancee about the issue, She looks very happy and exited so telling her seems like it's going to break her heart and I don't like that, as I really do love her.

Is anyone know how I should handle this, so can give me suggestions on what I should do or say to her?

I believe you should have get it over with the wedding. If you've not and you haven't told her about your financial capability, please do so. It's better she knows everything from the onset. Moreover, you guys are intending life partner, you should develop that good communication within yourselves. Peace
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Faith healing for today?

Thanks for the reference. This is how to do referencing and quotation in a scholarly manner:
  1. Display and indent the relevant text.
  2. Selectively bold the particular keywords that are important to your point. There is no need to bold the entire sentence. Have a laser-sharp focus.
  3. Be concise and precise to the point. No need to quote the whole paragraph.
I do this for others who read my posts. It is a standard high-school scholarship. If you practice this, I guarantee it will sharpen your analytical thinking. In any case, no one is required to do it.

People are more keen in your response to the post content itself.
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DAE have frequent deja vu due to anxiety

Last may (Exactly one year ago) I started to experience frequent deja vu. First it was once every few weeks, then once a week and now its several times a day. I can't shake it and im terrified that its seizures. I have seen two neuros and both have said im most likely in the clear but im still scared as hell. Has anyone else had this?
Wow, that's quite a lot. I have had the experience, I would say, but not for maybe even over twenty years.

Deja vu is supposed to tell you you've been in a present situation at some other time. But we Jesus people do not believe in reincarnation; but God gets His purpose done, the first time, and each person dies once.

The truth is, you have been in any situation before . . . a couple of seconds ago, or less!

God knows what is happening, in any case. So, keep attentive to God >

"casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7)

Don't let anything get you anxious and worrying; but trust God to make you peaceful and caring. And don't let things get your attention away from appreciating and depending on God and caring about others as yourself.
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Standing in the liberty…..

Psalm 119:45 And I will walk at liberty: for I seek thy precepts.

What are these precepts, and how are we to seek them?

Romans 12:

1 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God,
that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy,
acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.
2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed
by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that
good and acceptable and perfect will of God.


Blessings, for in the walking before Him, will the experiencing of Him be found…

Oh to that finding….


A fellow follower, Not me
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Common low-calorie sweetener linked to heart attack and stroke, study finds

Thanks for clarifying
Seems like it's possible one of those odd dynamics where, in efforts to replace one thing (aspartame, which is artificial, and has been linked to some problems), they "fast tracked" the usage of a replacement for it, and falsely assumed "natural = better", which obviously isn't always the case when it comes to food additives.

The thing that all non-caloric or low-calorie sweeteners seem to have in common (artificial or natural-derived), is that they appear to mess with the body's metabolism and insulin response.

The thing the human body is evolved to do (or designed to do if that's what people prefer) is to trigger a particular chemical and metabolic response to the foods we eat.

Under normal circumstances, when you consume something sweet, in nature, that means there's sugar in it, so your body would be "expecting something" (and produce the appropriate insulin response), over time, if you accustom your body to "I just drank something sweet, but no need to do anything, there's 0 calories and 0 sugar in it", when you do actually eat sugar, things aren't going to respond appropriately because you've been "tricking your body" in a sense.

Cleveland Clinic and Harvard have even done some write-ups on it

They call what I was referring to "insulin confusion"



That's why I mentioned it all comes down to willpower in the end. There's no magical shortcut that's going to allow someone to eat cookies till they feel full, washed down with a soda of some sort, several times a week, and still maintain health.

With the hype around the new weight loss drugs like Ozempic, it's become pretty clear that people are looking for the "magic bullet" so to speak.

"At every meal, I want to satisfy my cravings for fullness, satiety, and decadence/richness...I don't want to have to sacrifice any of those 3 things, but I still want to be able to lose weight", that's where the market demand for these weight loss drugs and artificial replacement foods come from.

Same can be said for a lot of the 'fad diets' that pop up all over the place.

It's rather conspicuous that in all of the 'fad diets', none of them ever seem to incorporate "yeah, you have to eat broccoli once in a while instead of garlic bread". They're always these "you can eat all the ABC you want, just so long as you <insert trivial ineffective thing here>"



My mom's side of the family is all from the portion of the south that's known for not eating well. They're a "big bunch". They jump on all the bandwagons.

"I'm trying this new diet...you can eat all the <insert unhealthy food here> you want, just so long as you have one glass of cranberry juice with it, and don't have any carbs after 8pm, and take a teaspoon of oregano oil right before bed"

And burn through a bunch of those diet fads, and when they don't lose a pound, dismiss it as "It's just genetic, I've tried everything and I can't lose weight" (while conveniently ignoring that I come from the same genetic line they do)

...when in reality, they haven't "tried everything", they've tried everything except eating less and eating things that may not taste super great, but are better for them lol.

They'll spend more time googling reasons not to eat the healthier foods. I have this conversation with my cousin down there at the yearly holiday gatherings. He's a big fella, lots of fast food, lots of pizza, lots of fried food. I tried telling him that if he kept it 1800 calories a day, cut down on the sweets, and ate things like a 5oz chicken breast and 2 cups of broccoli as a staple meal, he'd lose weight.

3 days later, I got an email from him with links to some stuff he found on google from carnivore diet "gurus" warning against "the anti-nutrients in green vegetables" and "why broccoli and kale aren't actually healthy" and why "red meat has more bioavailable nutrients than chicken" (ironic that he doesn't have a problem with chicken when it has the skin still on and fried in oil lol).

"Anti-nutrients" and "bioavailability" are nonsensical debate points from a person who's under 6 foot tall and tipping the scales at 325 and eating a bunch of garbage. They're just excuses for not having to make sacrifices.
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The Doctrine of the Law and Grace Unfolded: (John Bunyan)

Ezek 18 describes forgiveness revoked
Matt 18 describes forgiveness revoked
Rom 11 describes forgiveness revoked

The New Covenant text is found in Jer 31:31-34 and in Heb 8:6-12 quoting Jer 31 verbatim. It tells us that the first of four promises contained in the New Covenant is that God writes His law on the heart instead of "deleting His Word".

So then , we are saved by grace through faith Eph 2:8-10 - but we continue to have free will even after being born-again and as Ezek 18, and Matt 18, and Rom 11 remind us - we can always choose by our actions "to walk away".
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'It pains me to leave': Pope Francis accepts resignation of Argentinian archbishop

It's always difficult to see dedicated leaders step down. Pope Francis's acceptance of the Argentinian archbishop's resignation must be a deeply emotional moment for the community. His legacy will surely leave a lasting impact.
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In the miracles of multiplying fish and bread, was there any fish among the leftovers?

Jesus fed the five thousand in Matt 14:

20 They all ate and were satisfied, and the disciples picked up twelve basketfuls of broken pieces that were left over.
Matthew did not distinguish between fish and bread among the leftovers.

In the next chapter, Jesus fed the four thousand:

37 They all ate and were satisfied. Afterward the disciples picked up seven basketfuls of broken pieces that were left over.
Again, Matthew did not distinguish between fish and bread among the leftovers, symbolizing God's abundant provision.

However, John described the feeding of the five thousand in 6:

12 When they had all had enough to eat, he said to his disciples, “Gather the pieces that are left over. Let nothing be wasted.” 13 So they gathered them and filled twelve baskets with the pieces of the five barley loaves left over by those who had eaten.
Was there any fish among the leftovers?

I think so. Unlike Matthew, John decided to focus on the leftover bread because he wanted to convey a deeper spiritual truth.

Later, he continued:

48 I am the bread of life. 49 Your ancestors ate the manna in the wilderness, yet they died. 50 But here is the bread that comes down from heaven, which anyone may eat and not die. 51I am the living bread that came down from heaven. Whoever eats this bread will live forever. This bread is my flesh, which I will give for the life of the world.”
John used the barley loaves to draw out the spiritual truth that Jesus is the bread of life.

Fact Checks

We can, with diligence and reliance on expert sources, come to know the truth about facts in many cases. Certainly not all cases. But in many cases, there is a truth to the matter, and we can determine what it is, and justify our belief that it is a fact.
Not for much longer.
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Thomas has accepted $4M in gifts during career: Watchdog

He could be impeached

How many votes to impeach a Supreme Court judge?

A conviction requires a two-thirds vote in the Senate. The individual may or may not then stand trial in a criminal court as well, before a jury of his peers.

It would need to go to trial to be officially proven ... if the "evidence" is so overwhelming .. then why isn't that done? Maybe it will in the future .... who knows? If true ...it possibly could be proven more than unethical (bribery) ... but that would be extremely difficult to prove.

Who knows? A lot of things get brought out ... overall not much done about it usually.
Senate R's will have a high tolerance for corruption in one of their own on the court. Esp during a D administration.
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Pope Francis praises Father James Martin’s book on the resurrection of Lazarus

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Report: Pope Benedict’s Former Secretary Archbishop Georg Gänswein to Be Appointed Papal Nuncio

Appointment to Lithuania’s capital city of Vilnius is in the works, according to an Italian Catholic news outlet.

The long limbo of Pope Benedict XVI’s former longtime personal secretary may be ending soon.

Archbishop Georg Gänswein, who fell from influential papal aide to no assignment in the Catholic Church, will soon be appointed papal nuncio to the three Baltic countries, according to a report from an Italian Catholic news outlet.

The story, published by La Nuova Bussola Quotidiana and citing unnamed sources, said the archbishop will become papal nuncio to Vilnius, the capital of Lithuania — a position that also includes similar duties in neighboring Latvia and Estonia.

It’s not the first time the high-profile prelate has been linked to a far-flung foreign post, however. In March 2023, a Spanish religious news website reported that Archbishop Gänswein might become papal ambassador to Costa Rica, which has not so far come to pass. More recently, in April 2024, an Argentinian newspaper, La Nación, reported that Archbishop Gänswein would soon become a papal nuncio to a country not named in the story.

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Harmonize the gospel accounts on the Resurrection morning chronologically

This is my attempt to order the four accounts of the empty tomb morning.

At least five women went to the tomb on Resurrection Sunday. Four of them were named: Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of James, Joanna, and Salome (Mark 16:1).

The women found the resurrection morning frightening. The gospel writers did not provide an orderly account of the events. They recorded mixed accounts.

Luke 24:

10 It was Mary Magdalene [1], Joanna [2], Mary the mother of James [3], and the others [4, 5] with them who told this to the apostles.
At least 5 but not as a single group.

Scene 1: Around dawn, several women on the way to the tomb
John 20:

1a Early on the first day of the week, while it was still dark, Mary Magdalene went to the tomb.
Before dawn, Mary Magdalene was the first woman on the move.

Matthew 28:

1 After the Sabbath, at dawn on the first day of the week, Mary Magdalene and the other Mary went to look at the tomb.
At dawn, Mary, the mother of James, joined Mary Magdalene. Group 1 [G1] consisted of Mary Magdalene and Mary the mother of James.

Mark 16:

1 When the Sabbath was past, Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of James, and Salome bought spices, so that they might go and anoint him. 2 And very early on the first day of the week, when the sun had risen, they went to the tomb. 3 And they were saying to one another, “Who will roll away the stone for us from the entrance of the tomb?”
Group 2 [G2] consisted of Salome and at least one more woman.

These women started separately for the tomb while it was still dark and arrived separately after the sun had risen.

Group 3 [G3] consisted of Joanna and at least one more woman.

Scene 2: An angel scared the guards at the entrance of the tomb
Matthew 28:

2 There was a violent earthquake, for an angel [A1] of the Lord came down from heaven and, going to the tomb, rolled back the stone and sat on it. 3 His appearance was like lightning, and his clothes were white as snow. 4 The guards were so afraid of him that they shook and became like dead men.
John 20:

1b Mary Magdalene went to the tomb and saw that the stone had been removed from the entrance.
G1 did not see A1 rolling the stone. G2 did not either. Mark 16:

4 Looking up, they saw that the stone had been rolled back—it was very large.
Scene 3: Women went inside the tomb at different times
A1 said to G1 in Matthew 28:

5b “Do not be afraid, for I know that you are looking for Jesus, who was crucified. 6 He is not here; he has risen, just as he said. Come and see the place where he lay." 7 Then go quickly and tell his disciples: ‘He has risen from the dead and is going ahead of you into Galilee. There you will see him.’ Now I have told you.”
After that, G2 arrived. Mark 16:

5 Entering the tomb, they saw a young man sitting on the right side, dressed in a white robe, and they were alarmed.
The young man said to G2:

6b “Do not be alarmed. You seek Jesus of Nazareth, who was crucified. He has risen; he is not here. See the place where they laid him. 7 But go, tell his disciples and Peter that he is going before you to Galilee. There you will see him, just as he told you.” 8 And they went out and fled from the tomb, for trembling and astonishment had seized them, and they said nothing to anyone, for they were afraid.
After that, G3 arrived. Luke 24:

3 When they entered, they did not find the body of the Lord Jesus. 4 While they were wondering about this, suddenly two men in clothes that gleamed like lightning stood beside them. 5 In their fright the women bowed down with their faces to the ground, but the men said to them, “Why do you look for the living among the dead? 6 He is not here; he has risen! Remember how he told you, while he was still with you in Galilee: 7 ‘The Son of Man must be delivered over to the hands of sinners, be crucified and on the third day be raised again.’ ” 8 Then they remembered his words.
Scene 4: Jesus appeared to some women after they had departed from the tomb on their way back to the city
Matthew 28:

8 So they departed quickly from the tomb with fear and great joy, and ran to tell his disciples. 9 Behold, Jesus met them and said, “Greetings!” And they came up and took hold of his feet and worshiped him. 10 Then Jesus said to them, “Do not be afraid; go and tell my brothers to go to Galilee, and there they will see me.”
Mary Magdalene was probably not with this later group of women. She was first and fast on her way to the city.

Scene 5: Women reported to Peter et al
John 20:

2 [Mary Magdalene] came running to Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one Jesus loved, and said, “They have taken the Lord out of the tomb, and we don’t know where they have put him!”
Mary Magdalene had not yet seen the risen Lord. Some other women had.

Luke 24:

9 When they came back from the tomb, they told all these things to the Eleven and to all the others. 10 It was Mary Magdalene, Joanna, Mary the mother of James, and the others with them who told this to the apostles. 11 But they did not believe the women, because their words seemed to them like nonsense.
Scene 6: Peter and John ran to the tomb and entered it
Luke 24:

12 Peter, however, got up and ran to the tomb. Bending over, he saw the strips of linen lying by themselves, and he went away, wondering to himself what had happened.
John 20:

3 Peter and the other disciple started for the tomb. 4 Both were running, but the other disciple outran Peter and reached the tomb first. 5 He bent over and looked in at the strips of linen lying there but did not go in. 6 Then Simon Peter came along behind him and went straight into the tomb. He saw the strips of linen lying there, 7 as well as the cloth that had been wrapped around Jesus’ head. The cloth was still lying in its place, separate from the linen. 8 Finally the other disciple, who had reached the tomb first, also went inside. He saw and believed. 9(They still did not understand from Scripture that Jesus had to rise from the dead.) 10 Then the disciples went back to where they were staying.
Scene 7: Mary Magdalene revisited the tomb
John 20:

11 Now Mary stood outside the tomb crying. As she wept, she bent over to look into the tomb 12 and saw two angels in white, seated where Jesus’ body had been, one at the head and the other at the foot.
13 They asked her, “Woman, why are you crying?”
“They have taken my Lord away,” she said, “and I don’t know where they have put him.” 14 At this, she turned around and saw Jesus standing there, but she did not realize that it was Jesus.
15 He asked her, “Woman, why are you crying? Who is it you are looking for?”
Thinking he was the gardener, she said, “Sir, if you have carried him away, tell me where you have put him, and I will get him.”
16 Jesus said to her, “Mary.”
She turned toward him and cried out in Aramaic, “Rabboni!” (which means “Teacher”).
17 Jesus said, “Do not hold on to me, for I have not yet ascended to the Father. Go instead to my brothers and tell them, ‘I am ascending to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God.’ ”
18 Mary Magdalene went to the disciples with the news: “I have seen the Lord!” And she told them that he had said these things to her.
Mark 16:

9 Now when he rose early on the first day of the week, he appeared first to Mary Magdalene, from whom he had cast out seven demons.
Mark skipped the encounter in Scene 4. Also, earlier manuscripts did not have this verse.

All the above events happened on the morning of the resurrection around the area of the tomb. The witnesses were bewildered, and the recordings were confusing.

Scene 1: Around dawn, several women on the way to the tomb
Scene 2: An angel scared the guards at the entrance of the tomb
Scene 3: Women went inside the tomb at different times
Scene 4: Jesus appeared to some women after they had departed from the tomb
Scene 5: Women reported to Peter et al
Scene 6: Peter and John ran to the tomb and entered it
Scene 7: Mary Magdalene revisited the tomb

GIVEN forum equips young women to pursue their unique callings

GIVEN FORUM
Women react at a GIVEN forum in this undated photo. Organizers say the upcoming GIVEN Forum, set for June 8-12 in Washington, is designed to help young adult Catholic women "with a heart for mission and an aptitude for leadership" identify their particular gifts and find practical pathways "to put them in the service of the Gospel." (OSV News photo/courtesy of The GIVEN Institute)

(OSV News) — Young Catholic women face a lot of pressure today as they try to discern their vocations in life amid a secularized and polarized culture.

One group, originally founded by the Council of Major Superiors of Women Religious in 2018 after a successful 2016 event, is helping women find affirmation and guidance through a unique mentorship program that encourages them to discover and embrace their God-given gifts.

The GIVEN Art of Accompaniment Mentoring Program​

Over 300 Catholic women from all walks of life will gather in Washington from June 8 to 12 to participate in the GIVEN Art of Accompaniment Mentoring Program and the Catholic Women’s Leadership Forum. It will be the fifth GIVEN forumsince the group’s founding; the previous forums were held in 2019, 2020 (online), 2021 and 2022.


“Our mission is to help activate the gifts of young Catholic women for the church and the world,” GIVEN Executive Director Michelle Hillaert told OSV News just ahead of the gathering. “We do that by leadership development, faith formation, one-on-one mentoring with our art of accompaniment mentoring year.”

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Locked up: Meet the elderly and infirm women now in prison for pro-life activism

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Joan Andrews Bell, Jean Marshall, Heather Idoni, and Paulette Harlow are four pro-life women serving time after being convicted on federal charges for for blockading the inside of an abortion clinic in 2020. / Credit: Chris Bell/Laura Gise/Heather Idoni/Paulette Harlow


CNA Staff, Jun 6, 2024 / 15:45 pm (CNA).

Since she has been in prison, Jean Marshall, 74, a Catholic and pro-life nurse from Massachusetts, told CNA that she’s received over 150 letters of support, which have lifted her spirits.

Marshall and three other women with major health issues spoke with CNA about their imprisonment and their treatment by the justice system under the Biden administration.

Their crime? In an attempt to save the unborn on Oct. 22, 2020, they participated in a human chain, blockading the inside of a Washington, D.C., abortion clinic run by well-known late-term abortionist Dr. Cesare Santangelo.

The women are among 10 protesters who participated in the attempt to save the unborn at the clinic that day who were convicted on federal charges under the controversial Freedom of Access to Clinic Entrances (FACE) Act, which has largely been applied to the prosecution of pro-life activists. All of them, including Marshall, are now incarcerated.

Santangelo’s clinic made news in 2022 when the secular pro-life group Progressive Anti-Abortion Uprising (PAAU) announced that it had obtained the remains of 115 aborted babies from the clinic by a driver for a medical waste company.

Five of those babies appeared to be of late-term gestation and have become the center of a public dispute between federal lawmakers, pro-life groups, and the D.C. medical examiner’s office — which possessed the remains — over the medical examiner’s refusal to conduct an autopsy to determine whether the babies were killed in an illegal partial-birth abortion.

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The Sacred Heart of Jesus leads us from misery to mercy

Our world needs to hear the message of mercy, perhaps as no other age before. A culture of violence, death, destruction and despair can be healed only by mercy.

Devotion to the Sacred Heart of Jesus is so central to a healthy biblical spirituality that we don’t acknowledge this divine love only once a year; thanks to the apparitions of Our Lord to St. Margaret Mary Alacoque in the seventeenth century, we commemorate and celebrate the love of Christ for us unto death on the First Friday of every month.

Indeed, one of my fondest memories of grammar school is that of Masses on the First Friday of the month for the entire student body. Since an important part of preparation for receiving Holy Communion in those days called for a three-hour fast from solid foods, that meant that most of us came to school actually fasting from the night before. Right after Mass, we proceeded to the school cafeteria, where our pastor treated us to crumb buns and hot chocolate. Thus, our celebration spilled over into a common meal.

Years later, I would relish the lyrics of the lovely hymn, “Draw Us in the Spirit’s Teather,” with the verse that prays, “May all our meals be sacraments of Thee!”

I share that recollection because of another experience I had many years later. I was seated on a plane, hoping that the seat next to me would go unoccupied. Just minutes before the plane door was shut, a man rushed in and, yes, took the empty seat next to me. While we were still taxiing on the runway, he turned toward me and asked, “Are you a Catholic priest?” “Yes, I am.” “I used to be Catholic.” “What are you now?” “I’m saved, I’m a Christian.” “You weren’t saved as a Catholic?” “No, it was just a lot of rituals. I never heard about the love and mercy of God.” “Did you go to Catholic school?” “Yeah, for a few years.”

“Were you,” I asked, “brought to Mass on the First Fridays?” “Yeah, I think so.” “Well, what were you told about that devotion?” “Oh, something about going nine times and going to Heaven.” “You mean you weren’t told about the love and mercy of Christ, so great that He died for you and that love is experienced every time we make a good confession and receive Holy Communion worthily?” “I guess I wasn’t listening too well.” I hope everyone here this evening has listened better than that poor fellow.

The heart is a symbol with a rich biblical lineage. In Hebrew, both the heart and the bowels represent the very depths of a person—where the cognitive and the affective meet in unity and harmony. Hence, we find passages in the Bible that speak thus: “My heart is overwhelmed, my pity is stirred” (Hos 11:8). Far more than an organ of the body, then, the heart suggests the source of compassion, tenderness, kindness—in short, what we call “mercy.”

An interesting piece of biblical trivia: A quick survey of a biblical concordance reveals that the word “mercy” is used more than 200 times in the Sacred Scriptures, while the word “heart” appears over 600 times! No surprise, then, that St. Augustine, playing with the origins of the Latin word for mercy (misericordia), tells us that God’s grace moves us “a miseria ad misericordiam” (from misery to mercy). “Misericordia,” you see, comes from two words which combine to mean “having a heart for the miserable.”

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