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This OP in particular wasn't belligerent but other posts surely have been, which is why I have to wonder if your issues with folks IRL isn't also due to your attitude, not your aptitude in regards to school & work, things of that nature. They haven't got the nifty option of just ignoring you with ease. This thread is actually about you, but you've made posts in other threads that aren't about you at all, about you. If you do that in person as well, that could be why the folks in your Bible study weren't sorry to see you leave.
You don't have to have a flowery disposition on life, hang up inspiration quote posters so to speak, in order to have a good attitude or think positively. You just need to follow what the scripture tells you about having a servant's heart, having gratitude, perseverance. Gracious knows folks in the Bible had it a whole heck of a lot worse off than you.
I don't want anything from you. I love my life. I'm satisfied with it. I feel sorry for you that you are having so many problems with yours. What is it that you're wanting from folks here? Pity? If you want to keep being miserable in your life, keep up that attitude, keep doing things the way you have. If you don't, start by working on that attitude that has got to be a repellant to folks.
Yeah, I don't know what my problem with people is IRL. But obviously I have one, of some sort. I've found that the harder I try to be a "good friend", to my best understanding of what that is, usually results in pain and suffering. So I try not to put any effort into relationships with people at all.
Oddly, people tend to like me more, when I avoid them at all costs. Sounds completely counter intuitive, does it not?
For example, I had this Somali girl hang around me for years, and I basically avoided her. No idea how that worked out. Eventually she got married and moved on, but for awhile I felt like I might have been her closest friend, even though I put as little effort into it as possible.
Similarly, today there's this guy from Bangladesh, who I have basically avoided. He rented a room from me, while he was waiting for his wife to get here, from their country. Through a strange turn of events, I had some of his mail, and when I delivered it, this bouncy giggly woman started gushing all over me about how I helped him out so much. Apparently he's been telling people that I'm his 'brother', and we're like family. She was happy and bouncing around me, acting like I was this amazing person.... I was completely embarrassed.
However, if I actually try to be friends with people, the end result is devastation. I'm typically stabbed in the back, and deserted. It's happened more times than I can even count now. I remember walking out of church, when I was part of 'small group', and they were meeting at some place I'd never been. One of the people there offered a ride to anyone who didn't know where this place was. Well I didn't know, so I started to follow them to their car. They turned around, looked me in the eye and said "Uh we'll be listening to music you won't like, so you should find your own ride". The statement was clear and undeniable. I went home instead of meeting with the group. That's when I had been in that group for over a year.
Now obviously this is my fault, and I'm not being sarcastic. Even a fool must conclude that every single person on the face of the Earth can't be evil, and have it out for them. Yet I cannot for the life of me, figure out what I am doing wrong.
But you will never post anywhere asking about relationship advice, because I have no desire to know anyone, or for anyone to know me. I've accepted this as my lot in life, and the bottom line is, my heart simply can't handle that pain anymore.
As far as this attitude, I would never do that to anyone in real life. Nothing is more abhorrent to me, than people who go around being a rain cloud over other people that are having a good day. I am not one to do that. I highly doubt anyone who knows me, has ever thought that I had a negative attitude about anything. Why bother people? They don't need to know my problems, and i don't need to bother them. The last person I said anything about this to in real life, was the counselor.
Most of the people I work with, I try and encourage them to get a degree, and get the big job, and to move up from here. That's about the only interaction I have with them.
So what do I want from people? I've always been curious what keeps people going. Why do they find life so great? So I wanted to see what people would say. And who knows, maybe some answer will be helpful to me. You never know.
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