Free, unsolicited advice to men using a dating app by a woman frustrated with bumble to the point of deletion in less than 24 hours:
- fill out your bio and questions. You don’t want someone to judge you on looks? Give people more to base their choice on than looks!
- ESPECIALLY with Bumble where the woman is always the first to message- don’t say “want to know something, ask” and nothing else. It’s already hard for me to generate conversations out of a short profile. If you give me nothing else to talk about, don’t expect anything more than a frustrating cycle of “hey, how are you today?”
-don’t try to turn every conversation to something physical. You might think it’s super charming to talk about wanting to cuddle some girl within two messages of meeting her, but it actually screams “I’m a guy that’s going to instantly pressure you physically” and it ends the conversation every time.
-likewise, if I just asked you a thoughtful question or gave a thoughtful response.. don’t turn the conversation to “wow, you’re really pretty.” It’s not genuine and it’s not helping us get to know each other at all.
Gosh, there’s so many more I might have to make a full video or something about it. You always forget how worthless online dating is until you dip your toe in again to find such laziness and insincerity.