Of course there is nothing wrong with being a very sensitive guy. But, now, honestly, aren't you kinda shielding yourself like a turtle in a shell to keep from being hurt, by only interacting with others when you have to? The shell is the problem, not the sensitive feelings. You have been very hurt in the past, from what I have gathered in your other posts. So, that shell has been built up. But you ain't a turtle!Shells are great for turtles, not always so great for people.
Maybe you could practice, as they say, "coming out of your shell" a bit more here and there. What is also said is "by the yard it's hard, but by the inch it's a cinch" I just don't believe you want to live in that shell forever.
Another issue is that you need healing from the hurt, and the resentment we so often feel when others don't treat us right. Really, that is the big issue. Until you get that, maybe nothing else may help much. I can't advise on what will help you there, but the Holy Spirit can. I do wonder about some kind of therapeutic group with others who have been abused - and in your case, maybe bullied - though. Maybe you could make some fiends, there, too.
I used to get very easily upset and hurt by other people - it's still a weak point of mine, but I am getting better. What helped was concentrating on Jesus and how He sees me instead of on what other people think. Hebrews 12 tells us to run the race 'fixing our eyes on Jesus'. If we keep looking to Him, we will be less upset by what others think of us because Jesus' is the only opinion that matters. And we start to care more for others instead of ourselves because that is what Jesus would have us do.
It's not easy, and I know I still have a long way to go, but when I look back at how I used to be, I can see that He is changing me.
I can check that out. And again thank you for your compassion and understanding.
I used to be like you.I am a very sensitive guy. My feeling get hurt really easily. I OWN THAT. I know that most people will never admit that, or that being sensitive make me week to a lot of people. But it is who I am.
What is wrong with being really sensitive? I am not going kill myself because my feelings were hurt. I am not going to attack the person that offended me. I may pretend that person doesn't exist any more, which is not a punishment toward him for it is not easy relating to me anyways. And I will move on from my hurt feelings.
I have had people try to be friends with me, but I tell them the truth that it is not easy being friends with me. But sometimes they try anyways, and I just can't. Why? Because I am taking a risk.
But my sensitivity hasn't affected my professional life. I will still do my job, even if I have to work with somebody. But I keep it professional. I don't care about his or her personal life. If my grade depends on working with somebody, then so be it. If that person hates me and shows it, my feelings will be hurt, but I will survive and get over it.
Conservatives act like as though hurt feelings make a person week. I don't see anything wrong with them. I was told that it is arrogant to have hurt feelings. How?
I know I am sensitive and I own that. It is who I am. And yes, it makes it hard for me to make friends as a result. But I am still surviving.
What is wrong with being overly sensitive? Don't we have the right to feel what we feel? People act like as though there is something wrong with that.
I am not a tough guy with thick skin. I am quiet and I keep to myself these days, except if I have to work with somebody and my grade depends on it.
Be blunt and don't worry about hurting my feelings. I asked.
I used to be like you.
and remember you asked.
No body wants to hang around a cry baby. why? usually an indicator of low self esteem. low self esteem means work. friends should not be made to work just to exist in a room with you.
It not you per say it is what you represent, lot of investment in time and in things people outside of yourself should NOT have to handel. That is why you've been told someone can't love you till you learn to love yourself first.
no one wants to be incharge of filling your tank when life makes it hard to fill their own. there are people who will take you step by step but you gotta to pay them. (doctors consluers ect.) But you don't seem like you want that yet.
You need to set goals and try and obtain small victories to build yourself up. 1st thing get out of the f-ing house! and find something you like to do that involves other people. Start at the beginning ground level and slowly work your way up. get good at something which feeds you ID with self esteem, enough so the people around you do not have to carry you emotionally.
Again just a basic outline based on the things you mentioned coupled with my own experience.
Cars bowling video games fishing then WORK are some of the little things that got me out of the house. I learned how to do those things and it helped me put myself together. You got to find something that requires you to get up and get dressed and function, then make yourself get good at it.
Well I don't think there's anything wrong with having hurt feelings. It just has to do with proportions. Being hurt for a little while after you've been stung, well that's fine. Staying hurt over something is going to cause more hurt for yourself. Let God's word heal your heart so you can move on.
I suppose it depends on what you're offended by. If it's someone blaspheming then I don't see a problem. If your discussing a topic, immigration for example, and you get offended then you have a problem....because more often than not in the current societal context disagreement means you hate someone, which is totally wrong.
Again I've been there in like a 3 year funk. my friends and everyone grew up faster than I did and they left me.. took a few years to get on my feet, but when I did I still fought with depression but I came into my own. and because of the time I spent on the bottom I no longer fear it nor is there anything I can't work though/I am much stronger because of it, and as a result can take on extra stuff when I need to which helps when you get married. which will happen if you just get out of the house and stop think about how bad things are. find something get good at it make friends around it and they will help you build yourself up. don't dewell on what you can't control work with what you can till everything comes together.Thank you. And yes, I did ask. And thank you for the advice, and your bluntness. There are several things I can do to get out of the house. Thank you
You sound like a really intelligent person ,both emotionally and intellectuallyI am a very sensitive guy. My feeling get hurt really easily. I OWN THAT. I know that most people will never admit that, or that being sensitive make me week to a lot of people. But it is who I am.
What is wrong with being really sensitive? I am not going kill myself because my feelings were hurt. I am not going to attack the person that offended me. I may pretend that person doesn't exist any more, which is not a punishment toward him for it is not easy relating to me anyways. And I will move on from my hurt feelings.
I have had people try to be friends with me, but I tell them the truth that it is not easy being friends with me. But sometimes they try anyways, and I just can't. Why? Because I am taking a risk.
But my sensitivity hasn't affected my professional life. I will still do my job, even if I have to work with somebody. But I keep it professional. I don't care about his or her personal life. If my grade depends on working with somebody, then so be it. If that person hates me and shows it, my feelings will be hurt, but I will survive and get over it.
Conservatives act like as though hurt feelings make a person week. I don't see anything wrong with them. I was told that it is arrogant to have hurt feelings. How?
I know I am sensitive and I own that. It is who I am. And yes, it makes it hard for me to make friends as a result. But I am still surviving.
What is wrong with being overly sensitive? Don't we have the right to feel what we feel? People act like as though there is something wrong with that.
I am not a tough guy with thick skin. I am quiet and I keep to myself these days, except if I have to work with somebody and my grade depends on it.
Be blunt and don't worry about hurting my feelings. I asked.
Maybe you grew up as I did being bullied and threatened by so called christians ,and this made me more combative ,when the rulling class tell lies about you too .It is wrong. I don't get offended about immigration. But I sometimes get offended by people who disagree with me. And I agree that is not right.
Maybe you grew up as I did being bullied and threatened by so called christians ,and this made me more combative ,when the rulling class tell lies about you too .
Oscar replied well to you in regard to what to do with hurt feelings .I am a very sensitive guy. My feeling get hurt really easily. I OWN THAT. I know that most people will never admit that, or that being sensitive make me week to a lot of people. But it is who I am.
What is wrong with being really sensitive? I am not going kill myself because my feelings were hurt. I am not going to attack the person that offended me. I may pretend that person doesn't exist any more, which is not a punishment toward him for it is not easy relating to me anyways. And I will move on from my hurt feelings.
I have had people try to be friends with me, but I tell them the truth that it is not easy being friends with me. But sometimes they try anyways, and I just can't. Why? Because I am taking a risk.
But my sensitivity hasn't affected my professional life. I will still do my job, even if I have to work with somebody. But I keep it professional. I don't care about his or her personal life. If my grade depends on working with somebody, then so be it. If that person hates me and shows it, my feelings will be hurt, but I will survive and get over it.
Conservatives act like as though hurt feelings make a person week. I don't see anything wrong with them. I was told that it is arrogant to have hurt feelings. How?
I know I am sensitive and I own that. It is who I am. And yes, it makes it hard for me to make friends as a result. But I am still surviving.
What is wrong with being overly sensitive? Don't we have the right to feel what we feel? People act like as though there is something wrong with that.
I am not a tough guy with thick skin. I am quiet and I keep to myself these days, except if I have to work with somebody and my grade depends on it.
Be blunt and don't worry about hurting my feelings. I asked.
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