I haven't read the couple of other pages, but I can certainly tell you that your desires are not always going to go away in an instant. You need to be the one to make choices with purpose and intention. I still struggle with being lured by pornography. It's a battle. A Christian is saved by grace through faith and has assurance of eternity, but we still live in the flesh and need to buffet our body via prayer, training in righteousness, and Godly service.
If you say you can't do it then no one else is going to convince you. That's like someone looking at a Big Mac who is obese and saying, "I can't put this burger down!" They CAN put the burger down. The question is do they want to? Do you want to stop being sexually immoral and adulterous? That's the real question. Your wife is a shining example of Christ's love for you. Look at how faithful and immovable she's been towards your marriage. If anything, let that break you. Rather than looking outside your marriage, I suggest you dive into the ocean that is your wife's heart and get lost in it.
Yeah, I've been there to the love nest of her heart lol. Does this ever get easy? Yes I want to stop. If I didn't, I wouldn't care, and just do what I do. It's because I do care that I gripe. I care enough to stop, but I cant take away those desires, and no matter how far along I get, no matter how prayed up or fasted up, no matter how much I'm doing, or no matter how much I surrender, there is a strong strong compulsion to sin, and it robes me of peace of mind. Saying yes to jesus does not take away the temptation like James says it will. Resist the Devil and He will flee, well, there is a devil in me that is still in control. I have a choice to serve God or the Flesh, but I have no power to serve God it seems. When I do, i just get depressed. God has not delivered me from the desire to sin. I wonder if God is doing anything in my life. I'm doing what I'm supposed to do, but this stuff isnt adding up. I know I'm a sinner, but I sure wish God save me.
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