I love Being Single...........

[+RubiesFire+]

I have to say I actually enjoy being single, and I am sure many will think I am nuts!

My Sister and I were both having a discussion today-Ever since she was young and so was I, we always had a different view.

My Sister wants Marriage, Children, she's now 25, and she doesn't understand why I don't. She is still upset that she's still single and not married.

I don't desire Marriage, nor any type of dating, I love kids, but I don't want any. I've been like that since I was 8. Now I am 24 my view really hasn't changed since then.

My family doesn't understand why I don't desire Marriage, the thing is I want to work for Christ, and what I mean is that I want to travel and spread the Gospel. I view if marriage got in my way, everything that I desire to do will halt to an end, because then I will need to focus on my own family than God's entire family. Is that selfish of me?
I guess I sense something great that I must do for Christ, and the word Marriage makes me refuse the thought of ever settling down, it's like when someone ever talks to me about Marriage, something deep inside me, doesn't connect?! It's like I enjoy being single, because I love to focus more on God, I once did have a man in my life, but I realized how quickly I became distracted from God, and then I forgot what my purpose was supposed to be.

Anyone ever experience that?!

 

[Alexander1982]

I did once enjoyed single life, that is until stupid infatuations came and ruined everthing.

I try to go back to the happiness of singledom but it's just not the same anymore

 

[JourneyRain]

I'm more like your sister desiring marriage and a family but I also want a career. I want both.

I once was happy being single which is why I didn't date much. Now, I'm not happy with it. I want marriage and kids but I don't have it.

I'm glad that you are happy being single AND I'm really glad that you recognize that you couldn't have that man in your life. It appears that you might have the gift of singleness. If so, I'm glad it is someone who seems to be content with it.

 

[renaistre]

I can't say I love being single, but there are things about it that I like.

 

[TriptychR]

I can't say I've ever really felt like that, but more power to you for desiring the Lord's work!

 

[intricatic]

Being single is great, I can spend my weekends lounging around coffee houses.

I see where you're coming from though. It's not for me, but I do feel like while I'm single, I need to be focusing on a lot of different things. I'm glad I have the time to sort through them, too.

 

[Miles]

Isn't it funny how marriage is thought of as 'settling down'? Chasing the kids all over the place while taking care of the spouse (or is that chasing the spouse all over the place while taking care of the kids?) doesn't sound very 'settling' to me.

Each of us is different. No need to feel pressured into doing something with your life that doesn't fit. While I can't quite relate to your perspective, it doesn't sound unreasonable to me.






psst...you know you secretly want to be a soccer mom *nudge nudge*.

 

[Alexander1982]

I think it's easier to embrace singledom when we look at the cons of marriage....
- spending alot of money on keeping the family secure,
- stress in taking care of wife and kids,
- you can't do the things you enjoyed doing before marriage...
- responsibility and commitments

 

[Blank123]

I'm kinda caught in between hehe.

I do like being single. I like the fact that my singleness allows for me to just grow up and grow in my walk with the Lord. I think this is really a time that God can use to glorify His name

At the same time though I do think I'm meant for marriage and so yeah I desire to be married and have kids at some point down the road. But for now I'm content to be where God has called me.

And there's nothing wrong with where you are in life. If you're not interested in marriage or if marriage would be a distraction then you need to live your life as God has called you.

 

[Deliberatetourist]

OP you may be one of those people who have the gift of celebacy. Count yourself lucky. But be advised we can and do change our perspectives as time marches on and things take on impotance that at one time we never gave a thought to. I know many women who in their 20's shunned marriage and kids. That is until all their wild partying friends eventually got married and thus - no more wild parties. This may never happen to you and I hope that it doesn't.

 

[bogie]

I have to say I actually enjoy being single, and I am sure many will think I am nuts!

My Sister and I were both having a discussion today-Ever since she was young and so was I, we always had a different view.

My Sister wants Marriage, Children, she's now 25, and she doesn't understand why I don't. She is still upset that she's still single and not married.

I don't desire Marriage, nor any type of dating, I love kids, but I don't want any. I've been like that since I was 8. Now I am 24 my view really hasn't changed since then.

My family doesn't understand why I don't desire Marriage, the thing is I want to work for Christ, and what I mean is that I want to travel and spread the Gospel. I view if marriage got in my way, everything that I desire to do will halt to an end, because then I will need to focus on my own family than God's entire family. Is that selfish of me?
I guess I sense something great that I must do for Christ, and the word Marriage makes me refuse the thought of ever settling down, it's like when someone ever talks to me about Marriage, something deep inside me, doesn't connect?! It's like I enjoy being single, because I love to focus more on God, I once did have a man in my life, but I realized how quickly I became distracted from God, and then I forgot what my purpose was supposed to be.

Anyone ever experience that?!

I agree with you on a certain level here, but I don't think I would want to remain single all my life. I think once I discover my wife, we will both embrace God and make each other stronger. Errr at least that would be nice.

 

[Audiomechanic]

I did once enjoyed single life, that is until stupid infatuations came and ruined everthing.

I try to go back to the happiness of singledom but it's just not the same anymore

Very well put.

 

[mina]

i've never wanted a career; i always wanted to be a wife and mom. For a long time I was okay with singleness , even happy; I was even happy with the career b/c it's what I had to do. Then I met someone that completely changed my feelings toward singleness. For the first time, marriage was a possibility and I knew that that is what I wanted. Well, the guy is no longer in my life, but I know I want marriage, a family, and children. I feel very passionate about that, so singleness no longer is a happy thing for me. This lady at my church told me maybe that relationship happened so that God could show me how wonderful it could be so that I would be open to marriage. I can honestly say that it's a desire of my heart.

 

[findinghope06]

i can say that i love focusing on Christ and doing His will but marriage is something i still desire very much. its still a mountain of mine but im content being single for the time being. i want to get school out of the way.

 

[Alexander1982]

Very well put.

Oh hey I remember you!

What happened with you and the bible study girl?

 

[Alexander1982]

Hey bogie I couldn't stop laughing at your avatar!

TTAARRGGHHH LOOK OUT FIERCE BABY!!

 

[+RubiesFire+]

Thank's everyone for responding.

It's great to know how everyone feels besides myself.

Always remember, God has his timing for everything.

 

[intricatic]

Thank's everyone for responding.

It's great to know how everyone feels besides myself.

Always remember, God has his timing for everything.

Yep!

 

[Alexander1982]

*Is still laughing at Bogie's avatar!*

 

[Sketcher]

Hey, more power to you. Are you living a life of service for God right now?