Endeavourer
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- Aug 30, 2017
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How is your 15 hours of undivided attention each week coming along, with the time spent focusing on each other's emotional needs?
If this is not moving the dial, then is she committing any lovebusters? Are you?
Love Busters
Here is a questionnaire to help her determine if there is anything you are doing that is depleting her attraction to you, and vice versa:
Love Busters Questionnaire
It does no good to fill a bucket with holes in it. After you complete the questionnaires, if she tells you that something you are doing is a lovebuster, don't argue. Just thank her for the information and stop doing what she thinks is a lovebuster.
I take a VERY high view of marriage, but one a "vice" of mine is watching the reality show "Married at First Sight" due to my interest in observing what works or doesn't work in relationships. Call it research, I guess..lol. In the first season, a woman was matched with a man who she didn't find attractive at all (Doug and Jamie). Doug was a rock star (not occupationally but relationally), persisting to win Jamie's regard and affection over the next 8 weeks even though he knew she was not attracted to him and didn't really like him. By the time the decision day came, she had fallen in love with him and decided to stay married. By all accounts they are still happily married now 5 or 6 years later. If you have an abundance of spare time on your hands, watching the Doug and Jamie interactions in the first season could be informative and inspiring.
If this is not moving the dial, then is she committing any lovebusters? Are you?
Love Busters
Here is a questionnaire to help her determine if there is anything you are doing that is depleting her attraction to you, and vice versa:
Love Busters Questionnaire
It does no good to fill a bucket with holes in it. After you complete the questionnaires, if she tells you that something you are doing is a lovebuster, don't argue. Just thank her for the information and stop doing what she thinks is a lovebuster.
I take a VERY high view of marriage, but one a "vice" of mine is watching the reality show "Married at First Sight" due to my interest in observing what works or doesn't work in relationships. Call it research, I guess..lol. In the first season, a woman was matched with a man who she didn't find attractive at all (Doug and Jamie). Doug was a rock star (not occupationally but relationally), persisting to win Jamie's regard and affection over the next 8 weeks even though he knew she was not attracted to him and didn't really like him. By the time the decision day came, she had fallen in love with him and decided to stay married. By all accounts they are still happily married now 5 or 6 years later. If you have an abundance of spare time on your hands, watching the Doug and Jamie interactions in the first season could be informative and inspiring.
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