What's on your mind?

[GodDoesListen55]

Can you stop faking them? Isn't it your choice to do so? Admittedly, I don't know your situation.

Well, I honestly do not even know how to answer this. So, I have PTSD, and depression is one of my main symptoms. Currently, I am visiting my sister, who has two small children. Therefore, I am trying to act happy for them because I do not want them to see their aunt sad and ask questions, like you just did, that I do not have an answer for, let alone an explanation that they can understand. I hope that helps!

 

[Saucy]

Hello friends!

 

[bèlla]

Well, I honestly do not even know how to answer this. So, I have PTSD, and depression is one of my main symptoms. Currently, I am visiting my sister, who has two small children. Therefore, I am trying to act happy for them because I do not want them to see their aunt sad and ask questions, like you just did, that I do not have an answer for, let alone an explanation that they can understand. I hope that helps!

Pray for healing and restoration. If you can fast once per week it helps or forgo a meal if a day is too much. Here's a 21 day challenge to get you started.

 

[TheLastGeek]

Well, I honestly do not even know how to answer this. So, I have PTSD, and depression is one of my main symptoms. Currently, I am visiting my sister, who has two small children. Therefore, I am trying to act happy for them because I do not want them to see their aunt sad and ask questions, like you just did, that I do not have an answer for, let alone an explanation that they can understand. I hope that helps!

In my humblest opinion, it's okay to not have an answer. Perhaps let them see their aunt as she really is, even without an answer, than to see her faking emotions that aren't genuine? Can you cut the visit short and return home if you're that uncomfortable?

 

[TheLastGeek]

Hello friends!

Sup, Sauce!

 

[Saucy]

Sup, Sauce!

How's it going?! I hope you're well

 

[TheLastGeek]

How's it going?! I hope you're well

I am exhausted, but...still kicking.

 

[GodDoesListen55]

In my humblest opinion, it's okay to not have an answer. Perhaps let them see their aunt as she really is, even without an answer, than to see her faking emotions that aren't genuine? Can you cut the visit short and return home if you're that uncomfortable?

Going home tomorrow.

 

[GodDoesListen55]

Pray for healing and restoration. If you can fast once per week it helps or forgo a meal if a day is too much. Here's a 21 day challenge to get you started.

Thank you so much for the kind reply and may God bless you always! (P.S. I will definitely be checking out the link that you provided as well.)

 

[Saucy]

Everything is all set for me to go back to bible college! There were some obstacles, but the Lord removed them for me

 

[GodDoesListen55]

A little peace and quiet never sounded more beautiful, lol.

 

[LoveDivine]

Oh goody. I see new incel threads in Singles. For a minute I was worried that we weren't on schedule. It had been a few weeks. Now we can all breathe a sigh of relief that things are back to normal

 

[DragonFox91]

Oh goody. I see new incel threads in Singles. For a minute I was worried that we weren't on schedule. It had been a few weeks. Now we can all breathe a sigh of relief that things are back to normal

I don't see new ones? Remember tho: just b/c they don't like their situation, that don't mean they're incel. On a Christian forum, I'd give them the benefit of the doubt.

I can post some if we're behind

 

[DragonFox91]

It's like, yeah, Jesus hung out w/ sinners, really the people society had cast out is more accurate phrase, but he was also very devout in his Judaism, constantly teaching in the synagogues & calling people to repent, revealing who the Father really is & not who people thought he is

 

[DragonFox91]

Why is choice so important? Can't you learn to accept & like the 'choice' made for you? We place too much of an emphasis on individual choice in our culture. I understand harmful things can be done against people & you don't want to be overly taken advantage of, but 'I want out now' or 'I want change now' is the mantra here & that's just as harmful. Unfortunately our culture hears 'no choice' or 'restricted choice' & only hears that in a negative light.

 

[LoveDivine]

I don't see new ones? Remember tho: just b/c they don't like their situation, that don't mean they're incel. On a Christian forum, I'd give them the benefit of the doubt.

I can post some if we're behind

Lol. That's totally okay. No need to post any

Christian or not, what makes the discussion "incel" is the attitude. I was being sarcastic and funny ealier, but it's actually rather sad that these discussions actually happen among professing Christians. If you think about it, it's actually kind of tragic. Christians should be ambassadors for Christ and we actually have an opportunity on this forum to post edifying and helpful things for others who are nonsaved to see or those who are struggling. We can give praise to God and show the hope and joy we have in him to others. Instead, sadly, it's a lot of Why is God unfair?, Why are all women awful? Type of threads. Doesn't really give a good impression of the Christian faith. If I wasn't already a Christian myself and I was reading these threads, I'd run. So though I joke about it, it's pretty shameful actually. You can be sad about your life and still not resort to posting a trail of stumblingblocks for others to read.

 

[bèlla]

Lol. That's totally okay. No need to post any

Christian or not, what makes the discussion "incel" is the attitude. I was being sarcastic and funny ealier, but it's actually rather sad that these discussions actually happen among professing Christians. If you think about it, it's actually kind of tragic. Christians should be ambassadors for Christ and we actually have an opportunity on this forum to post edifying and helpful things for others who are nonsaved to see or those who are struggling. We can give praise to God and show the hope and joy we have in him to others. Instead, sadly, it's a lot of Why is God unfair?, Why are all women awful? Type of threads. Doesn't really give a good impression of the Christian faith. If I wasn't already a Christian myself and I was reading these threads, I'd run. So though I joke about it, it's pretty shameful actually. You can be sad about your life and still not resort to posting a trail of stumblingblocks for others to read.

It reminds me of road runner and coyote. I'd watch him as a child in astonishment. He was the architect of his suffering and didn't realize it. If he left the bird alone he'd be fine. No more anvils or injuries. No more anger. But he wouldn't stop. He was obsessed with the bird and kept the cycle going.

Sometimes we're a lot like him. We keep picking the scab and beating the horse and won't let it rest and it never heals.

 

[DragonFox91]

Incel communities are different from Christians struggling w/ desiring marriage. They tend to want women (& yes, I say women, plural) for the wrong reasons. They don't want marriage. Not a healthy one, anyways. Or they have a skewed perception of what a healthy marriage is. They want someone on their arm. They want it because someone told them they should want it. They want it because they saw someone happy in a relationship once & decided they wanted it too. They want it for reasons that can fade over time. They're looking for something in the short-term & not recognizing responsibilities & what may be asked of them in the long-term.

My frustrations have taken me to communities that have had it hard with the women like me, communities that have no problem with the incel identity, l but as a Christian I can't view it in the way they do. Their mentality is visible in ALL that they do & say & extends beyond whatever it is they think is the source of their frustration. It's more than just 'God is unfair'; it's a 'the Christian god doesn't exist period'. No Christian should be identifying as an incel or see themselves as part of that community.

Christians definitely shouldn't use their relationship status as their identity, nor let it drive their emotions or actions or take away from their trust & joy in Jesus, absolutely, but I can't say it's wrong to be upset about, & a post expressing some discontentment isn't necessarily an indicator of overall mentality (or faith) either. They may have more edifying posts, or be edifying outside CF. James says we need to see your faith in action otherwise we don't know & you yourself may be deciving yourself.

 

[LoveDivine]

Incel communities are different from Christians struggling w/ desiring marriage. They tend to want women (& yes, I say women, plural) for the wrong reasons. They don't want marriage. Not a healthy one, anyways. Or they have a skewed perception of what a healthy marriage is. They want someone on their arm. They want it because someone told them they should want it. They want it because they saw someone happy in a relationship once & decided they wanted it too. They want it for reasons that can fade over time. They're looking for something in the short-term & not recognizing responsibilities & what may be asked of them in the long-term.

My frustrations have taken me to communities that have had it hard with the opposite sex like me, communities that have no problem with the incel identity, l but as a Christian I can't view it in the way they do. Their mentality is visible in ALL that they do & say & extends beyond whatever it is they think is the source of their frustration. It's more than just 'God is unfair'; it's a 'the Christian god doesn't exist period'.

Christians definitely shouldn't use their relationship status as their identity, nor let it drive their emotions or actions or take away from their trust & joy in Jesus, absolutely, but I can't say it's wrong to be upset about, & a post expressing some discontentment isn't necessarily an indicator of overall mentality (or faith) either.

Not to fight here, but I would rather hear from a nonsaved person that they don't believe God exists than from a Christian that they believe God is unfair. Let's just think about it for a second who is worse off. The one supposedly has a relationship with Christ and has experienced redemption and still has the ingratitude to complain that he is unfair. What a slap in the face to Christ. The other at least is a skeptic because he or she has not had any encounters or experiences with God. The Christian who is ungrateful is far worse. And this is the thanks that Christ gets after dying for us and saving us? Yikes. I will take the atheist any day over that. We will win no one to Christ with this kind of mindset. Why should a nonsaved person listen at all to Christians who can't even get it straight about the nature of their own God ?

 

[DragonFox91]

Not to fight here, but I would rather hear from a nonsaved person that they don't believe God exists than from a Christian that they believe God is unfair. Let's just think about it for a second who is worse off. The one supposedly has a relationship with Christ and has experienced redemption and still has the ingratitude to complain that he is unfair. What a slap in the face to Christ. The other at least is a skeptic because he or she has at least not had any encounters or experiences with God. The Christian who is ungrateful is far worse. And this is the thanks that Christ gets after dying for us and saving us? Yikes. I will take the atheist any day over that.

No offense taken, no fight wanted. I definitely understand what you're saying, you are absolutely right: it's WRONG to say he's unfair & no Christian should be saying that. Athough due to sin they may once in a while just like any other sin that can't be stopped. What makes a Christian different is we recognize our sin, we're not super-masters over it, we're not perfect (at best it's a very long process), we just are able to recognize it when we do, say that it's wrong, & try to do better w/ God's help.

& I find it could be taken to the other extreme too, where you're trying to suppress any discontentment because 'God wants me like this.'