This is why I feel bad that I couldn't be more understanding of their...OCD ness...is one way to put it.
That's a new one. LOL
It has taken awhile for me to get back to the consciousness of we. I was operating in the singular for a bit. This a joint venture. As long as you see it as 'my thing' you'll struggle with entitlement.
A terrific takeaway from the last sister is i got turned on to shuttle buses--less expensive and perfect for converting into tiny mobile homes. More spacious than the big cargo vans.
That's cool. Yeah, the vans are small. My daughter wants a coach. But I refuse to do it. They're too big. You don't need all that for recreation.
Do you plan to convert the shuttle buses?
Those Mercedes ones are really nice though.
They are but RVs are money pits. That's the drawback. You really have to do your homework.
Yes, and she did too. But, hers was just like a temporary high I guess. She began to let the natural mind takeover...doubting...
You've got to be in the right headspace. Timing is a bigger factor than we admit. The Lord was hovering last night. That means we need to talk, pray, or write. It was the latter. I saw your post and answered it and didn't get a chance to do what He wanted. I laid down and He got me up to do it.
What He put on the paper was impactful. Sometimes He dictates or writes through me. We flowed this time. He was telling a story and allowing me to see the correlation between certain events and my heart and mindset. So I could communicate it to him. I hadn't connected all the dots. I realized He initiated all of this. One comment snowballed into introspection and a pivot I didn't anticipate. Because it was time.
Oftentimes we don't realize what's impeding what we want. But if we get quiet, He'll start pointing it out. You can't glean while you're trying to make a love connection. Because you're divided. He has to have your full attention.
There's verbal belief and jumping off a cliff. The second sort is what it takes to nail it down. You can't be afraid. I bared my soul but I didn't come in strutting. When you're willing to lessen it's easier to tell the truth. You aren't protecting yourself. All they can say is yes or no. We all lose at some point. Every yes means someone else didn't get the nod. When you see it from that vantage point it's not so frightening.
But, then they began murmuring and complaining and I guess I didn't take it well enough.
Once you've chosen you see him as he really is. The composite includes the pluses and minuses. Before it occurs you're looking at the sliver and focusing on the qualities you like and the not so nice stuff. Once you see the big picture you can gauge its impact. You may be building a mountain out of a molehill and don't realize it.
Yeah, our spirits did commune, but I guess I was an annoyance to them when they looked at things through their cultured eyes.
I believe in acceptance. If they can't take you as-is it will never work. They must be satisfied with the current you. I don't change for a man. He's welcome to tell me where he feels I can improve. But I'm not a marionette. No isn't the end of the world.
Precisely. The next time I'm introduced to a woman who is on point with my calling, I won't be so quick to let them in emotionally.
That's easy to do because it's exciting. But there's another side of that. Just because they fit the calling doesn't mean they fit you. There are people you can work together with to accomplish a task. But you can't build a life with them. They can be spiritually plentiful and lacking on the other end.
I don't focus on spiritual stuff when I'm getting acquainted. We have conversations but it doesn't dominate our discourse. That's rarely the thing that brings people together or pulls them apart. I've never left a man over God. I've walked because of character. That's what I'm living with. I may miss it if I'm not paying attention.
I want to know what God is doing to you and through you. All the bible study in the world won't tell me if you're responsible. That's why so many get deceived by appearances. He 'seemed' so godly because he's doing this or that. I want to know who you are when no one's looking. That's who you're marrying.
I like people who aren't afraid of getting real. They can admit their fears and screw ups. I don't want mister spiritual. He's probably hiding because that's lauded. I respect the person who can say I haven't read my bible in months. I'm busy, don't feel like it, etc. That'll touch someone because there's others who could say the same. But they don't because they're afraid of being judged.
Yes, I want us to focus on the ministry vision first, and not on testing our relationship through the lenses and techniques taught by counselors/mentors/therapists, whether Christian or not.
You don't have to compartmentalize. Relating will bring both to the fore. You have to sate them. Otherwise they could do the same with someone at church. They're looking at you because they want that and more. And the more is important. He's still a man and has needs. I can't ignore it. You live the moments. Discuss the mission over dinner then relax and watch a movie. You're hitting both ends.
Well, they have been so influenced by the good life that their downsizing was very stressful for them.
I should have been more patient.
Change takes time. They have to adapt to their new condition. They're used to living one way. That doesn't disappear overnight.
I should've remained objective though. Now, it seems I've lost two solid contacts taking the same route.
Hope remains though, He Is The Reconciler.
Acceptance is a two-way street. You know where they came from. You can't expect them to behave the way you would. Even if they're trying to do so. That isn't their default.
It takes a lot of grace to build a relationship with someone from a different background. You have to table your expectations. You have different outlooks and it influences your perspective.
We have similar backgrounds, upbringing, experiences and interests. We get along because we're a lot alike. He can be himself and so can I. I don't have to apologize for being bella. And that's priceless.
You're right, well said! It certainly does hurt, but at the same time it makes me remember these verses:
