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Most of the complaints I hear regarding Facebook (and from social media in general) come from people you know. Namely family and friends. They’re more opinionated than people using the platforms for professional reasons.

My feed consists of business associates, personal interests (non political), and a handful of female Christian leaders. They’re kind, encouraging, and drama free.

I don’t see debates, arguments, mudslinging, or politics. And I avoid people who attract controversy or contention. They tend to draw followers of the same stripe and threads become a free for all.
 
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Most of the complaints I hear regarding Facebook (and from social media in general) come from people you know. Namely family and friends. They’re more opinionated than people using the platforms for professional reasons.

My feed consists of business associates, personal interests (non political), and a handful of female Christian leaders. They’re kind, encouraging, and drama free.

I don’t see debates, arguments, mudslinging, or politics. And I avoid people who attract controversy or contention. They tend to draw followers of the same stripe and threads become a free for all.
I’d say the most irksome things I see are posts like “Share if you love Jesus, ignore If you love the devil.” Or “If you don’t share this post, Jesus will pass over you on Judgement Day.” I don’t share stuff a lot, in fact I hardly ever like anything. I also have undiagnosed OCD, and posts like that used to bother me a lot, not that they don’t still.
 
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I’d say the most irksome things I see are posts like “Share if you love Jesus, ignore If you love the devil.” Or “If you don’t share this post, Jesus will pass over you on Judgement Day.” I don’t share stuff a lot, in fact I hardly ever like anything. I also have undiagnosed OCD, and posts like that use to bother me a lot, not that they don’t still.

What's scary to me is how many people fall for that nonsense.
 
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I think it's best to stick around the people you are closest to and you truly trust. It's good to get to know people so you can spend time with the ones who you know are going to be fine and avoid the ones who cause trouble. I know the painful and upsetting feeling of being dumped or betrayed by people who seemed like good friends.
 
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I’d say the most irksome things I see are posts like “Share if you love Jesus, ignore If you love the devil.” Or “If you don’t share this post, Jesus will pass over you on Judgement Day.”

I’ve never seen that. I made a decision to keep all personal connections (family and friends) off social media. For their privacy and to avoid problems like doxing.

I don’t follow controversial subjects or like posts about them. That encourages the algorithm to send more of the same.
 
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You're right, I think it's best to stick around the people you are closest to and you truly trust. It's good to get to know people so you can spend time with the ones who you know are going to be fine and avoid the ones who cause trouble. I know the painful and upsetting feeling of being dumped or betrayed by people who seemed like good friends.

I limit my connections to professional peers. They’re people I met in paid programs whose behavior I observed elsewhere before friending. I know why they’re using the platform and personal details about their lives and business. When random strangers send requests I decline them.

On venues like CF, I’m less restrictive. I’m not exposing myself in the same measure or threatening my livelihood.

However, I think it takes a long time to really know someone. Especially on this medium. If our conversations didn’t move beyond this space I wouldn’t call them a friend. Acquaintance? Maybe.

Friends are people you share your life with. Ups and downs. Laughter and tears. And they do the same. Above all, they want to be in your life. You’re connected intimately.
 
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Just saw this...

Twitter launches crowdsourced fact-checking portal 'Birdwatch'

Twitter announced a new crowdsourced fact-checking initiative called "Birdwatch" Monday. The idea is that everyday Twitter users will be able to add contextual notes to tweets they think are misleading or contain misinformation.


@essentialsaltes you may want to post this.
 
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It is interesting to note how hard my heart has gotten this past decade. Before I was emotionally sensitive easily able to feel other's pain. Now it's hard for me to feel moved by something. A combination of life experiences and understanding my own psychology and wanting to be different has stemmed these changes.

I think I like this better. I make a fool of myself less. Currently I'm training myself to be more stoic. Even when engaging with issues I am passionate about. In many ways I want to be the absolute reverse of what I was when I was younger.. although I guess the black and white/extreme thinking still persists if that's the case.. lol.

I'm curious as to what the potential limits of personal change is.. I am someone who is more on the genetic determinism side.. and my old ways will still be there.. albeit a different mask.
 
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I recently got back on FB. I regret it already. I only have like 50 friends this time around and they're already starting to annoy me. I'm not a misanthrope, so I don't know what's wrong with me. I just want to see something funny or informative.
 
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I recently got back on FB. I regret it already. I only have like 50 friends this time around and they're already starting to annoy me. I'm not a misanthrope, so I don't know what's wrong with me. I just want to see something funny or informative.

Yeah.. it's sad to see some friends get so uncomfortably political... lol.. especially when they have really bad takes.
 
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Yeah.. it's sad to see some friends get so uncomfortably political... lol.. especially when they have really bad takes.

So true. That's exactly what it is. "Look, Jim Bob, I know you. You were in remedial math. There's no shame in it, but please spare me your analysis of our economic perils."
 
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So true. That's exactly what it is. "Look, Jim Bob, I know you. You were in remedial math. There's no shame in it, but please spare me your analysis of our economic perils."


I hate it when a guy you know in real life is so cheerful and carefree.. then you talk to him online and he's ranting crazy right-wing stuff.

Maybe I have it completely wrong.. but I tend to like to have shallow relationships with people in real life.. and more deep ones with strangers online I'll most likely never meet.. lol.
 
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You're right, I think it's best to stick around the people you are closest to and you truly trust. It's good to get to know people so you can spend time with the ones who you know are going to be fine and avoid the ones who cause trouble. I know the painful and upsetting feeling of being dumped or betrayed by people who seemed like good friends.

Well... Little husky...We meet again.
 
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I recently got back on FB. I regret it already. I only have like 50 friends this time around and they're already starting to annoy me. I'm not a misanthrope, so I don't know what's wrong with me. I just want to see something funny or informative.

Clean your feed. Follow the topics you enjoy and checkout their updates when desired. You don’t have to see everything they post.
 
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I recently got back on FB. I regret it already. I only have like 50 friends this time around and they're already starting to annoy me. I'm not a misanthrope, so I don't know what's wrong with me. I just want to see something funny or informative.

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