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Clean your feed. Follow the topics you enjoy and checkout their updates when desired. You don’t have to see everything they post.

I do like the "snooze for 30 days" feature. I don't remember that the first time around.
 
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"Living the dream life"
"Rise and Grind"
"Go big or go home"
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"I'd rather be put to the task than leave it to someone else"

^ Something to that effect? Or are they still flexing holiday snaps to make out as if they travel all the time?

Yeah, pretty much. I don't mind the campy memes, or even the pics displaying their be-jealous-of-me life, as annoying as it is. It's the unbidden opinions and virtue signaling that I find so disturbing. I don't know. It's all so trendy.

To be honest, the only thing on my wall is art, because that's what walls are for, lol.
 
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I enjoy it too and the groups.

I got back on because I missed all the art pages, science pages, philosophy groups (although many of those have gone to the birds). There is a lot to enjoy, I just need to use the functions to my advantage, I guess.
 
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Yeah, pretty much. I don't mind the campy memes, or even the pics displaying their be-jealous-of-me life, as annoying as it is. It's the unbidden opinions and virtue signaling that I find so disturbing. I don't know. It's all so trendy.

To be honest, the only thing on my wall is art, because that's what walls are for, lol.

Oh yeah... That.

This pretending to be concerned with the environment is a corker - and they more than less preach it on the same day as talking about their gas guzzling dream car, or "one day I'll own a private jet". REALLY? Lol.

If you are actually concerned with the environment, invest in marine phytoplankton - and literally put your money where your mouth is. I'm not mounting my soapbox here, we really DO need to control livestock populations and restore the seas. Well, no, actually, we don't - not if you don't care about another pandemic hitting us again in the next decade. (They say COVID is bad. But I think (as a whole) we've been massively let off the hook this time. Consider it a fair warning.)

I'm also growing seriously worried with this fascination for seeing men cry as well. Why is it "okay for men to be open about their emotions?" Is it to disarm us all and make men appear weak so that the feminists can get the advantage? (Note, that I encourage ALL humans to go out and be their very best versions 100% of the time. I'm not concerned about race or gender in the slightest. I'm just concerned about morons.)

Anyway, I don't want to waffle. But you do have to wonder don't you? You can NOT afford to switch off in this day and age with the amount of social engineering that goes on. When I was a kid, I honestly thought brain washing was just fiction - and the sort of thing reserved for tacky movies and teenage novels.

It would be funny if it wasn't so serious. I'm really worried about it.
 
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If you are actually concerned with the environment, invest in marine phytoplankton - and literally put your money where your mouth is.

Is that a thing? I had no idea. I'll have to look that up.

I'm not mounting my soapbox here, we really DO need to control livestock populations and restore the seas. Well, no, actually, we don't - not if you don't care about another pandemic hitting us again in the next decade. (They say COVID is bad. But I think (as a whole) we've been massively let off the hook this time. Consider it a fair warning.

I'm with you. I was really hoping this pandemic would bring about significant change. Initially, it seemed to me that folks were being more considerate of each other. And, I imagined in my naive mind that we would become more grateful and address some long standing issues like how we treat the environment and where we throw our money. But then everything went political and reason went out the window. :(

Anyway, I don't want to waffle. But you do have to wonder don't you? You can NOT afford to switch off in this day and age with the amount of social engineering that goes on. When I was a kid, I honestly thought brain washing was just fiction - and the sort of thing reserved for tacky movies and teenage novels.

It is really scary. I didn't realize how susceptible people are to nonsense. All the dystopian scenarios seem like live possibilities now.
 
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I don’t believe limited opportunities means no. Most people called to singleness have an internal certainty that isn’t the result of circumstances. And they have peace.
If I'm to be single, I pray for that peace. I meet those kinds of people. I know what you're talking about.



It can be difficult to live with an untidy person if you value order.
No kidding. I've lived w/ untidy friends/roommates.


Or you’re better than her and she hands it off!
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Hey, that's a good smile! :D It's better than that devilish grin. I'll start using that one
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Thank you. I was influenced by Proverbs 31 and period films. Togetherness is powerful. We had a standing game night on Friday. I brought in treats and we played board and video games. I think the combination of quality time, family time, and time alone is ideal.
I would definitely have board game nights. I want to learn more card games. Real card games. Euchre is big here in the Midwest. It's like Hearts, if you know that one. That's about the only two I really know


It opens up another avenue for connecting. That’s why I love the violin. Every school of music or lay society has a chamber ensemble. Practicing and performing together is nice. What would you take up?
I tried wind instruments growing up. Those are tough. You really need to have good lungs. I want to try string instruments.


What are your favorite dishes and sports?
Pastas, of course. Those are generally pretty easy & don't use too many ingredients, but there's a wide variety of different ways.

Sports, the only ones I really play are golf, & exercising (running, weights, biking).

But sports events I attend are more diverse. I live in Midwest remember, so hockey is my favorite. :D
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Maybe you can search for annual conferences to see the calendar and make a note of the ones which look interesting. The majority rotate locations and may be coming your way in the near future.
& the churches I go to might participate in them too




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eh

you don't know that.


Thank you. That was kind of you to say.


Christian dating is relatively new for me. I wasn’t raised with the ideals many reference. I don’t want to be in a state of overthinking or micromanaging my dating life.


I want an equal. That implies a mutual sense of contentment, worthiness, and wisdom. He values himself to the degree he’s willing to wait. He doesn’t pull the trigger on the first person who shows interest or chases fantasies.


He’s able to make an honest assessment of himself and what he’s seeking.
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Sometimes you encounter the one you want but you aren’t ready for them. Especially when you’re ruled by scarcity and fear. You establish walls and roadblocks. They’re relational barriers.
So true.


His why is important. It isn’t because he’s lonely, wants someone to talk to, desires a family, or is afraid of being alone. That can’t be the reason I’m his choice. You can fill that void with anyone.

There's nothing wrong w/ those reasons as long as those aren't the sole reasons he chooses YOU. A man is probably going to have at least a couple of those, else he probably wouldn't be seeking a relationship.
 
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I do like the "snooze for 30 days" feature. I don't remember that the first time around.

It didn’t exist in the post. Ignore was the only option.
 
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But then everything went political and reason went out the window. :(

That was the plan.

It is really scary. I didn't realize how susceptible people are to nonsense. All the dystopian scenarios seem like live possibilities now.

It isn’t people. Everyone has been exposed to some degree of manipulation. The only difference is you recognize your neighbor’s problem and can’t detect your own.

If you believe you’ve gone unscathed they’ve done their job.
 
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That was the plan.



It isn’t people. Everyone has been exposed to some degree of manipulation. The only difference is you recognize your neighbor’s problem and can’t detect your own.

If you believe you’ve gone unscathed they’ve done their job.

I'm not following your point. I recognize that I have been wrong in what I thought was true, and will be again. But you seem to have something else in mind besides the usual human fallibility. If you see some nonsense I have given into, I wouldn't mind a heads up.
 
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I would definitely have board game nights. I want to learn more card games. Real card games. Euchre is big here in the Midwest. It's like Hearts, if you know that one. That's about the only two I really know.

I played card games growing up. I wanted to learn bridge but never got around to it. We’ll see. I don’t recall if I’ve played Euchre.

I tried wind instruments growing up. Those are tough. You really need to have good lungs. I want to try string instruments.

Nice, which ones?

Pastas, of course. Those are generally pretty easy & don't use too many ingredients, but there's a wide variety of different ways.

True. I watched Lidia for years and learned a lot. Are you Italian?

Sports, the only ones I really play are golf, & exercising (running, weights, biking).

I love golf and cycling! :cool:

But sports events I attend are more diverse. I live in Midwest remember, so hockey is my favorite. :D
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Golf is my favorite but you miss a lot. I’ve never seen hockey live but I used to watch it. I like equestrian, horse racing, and regattas too.

There's nothing wrong w/ those reasons as long as those aren't the sole reasons he chooses YOU. A man is probably going to have at least a couple of those, else he probably wouldn't be seeking a relationship.

Relationships aren’t a cure-all. They’re an opportunity for sharing and togetherness. I’m looking for someone who’s happy and settled. Whose thriving now. Not when I show up. I’m not the source. I add to the whole.
 
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I'm not following your point. I recognize that I have been wrong in what I thought was true, and will be again. But you seem to have something else in mind besides the usual human fallibility. If you see some nonsense I have given into, I wouldn't mind a heads up.

I’m sorry if I was unclear. :)

It isn’t about right or wrong. We’re all susceptible to influence. Even when we think otherwise.
 
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I’m sorry if I was unclear. :)

It isn’t about right or wrong. We’re all susceptible to influence. Even when we think otherwise.

Agreed. I was "wrong" (misunderstood) your post. If you ever need evidence to show someone else the same point you can direct them to this exchange, lol.

I mistook the ubiquitous "you" for the PH-you're-a-moron "you."
 
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Agreed. I was "wrong" (misunderstood) your post. If you ever need evidence to show someone else the same point you can direct them to this exchange, lol.

I mistook the ubiquitous "you" for the PH-you're-a-moron "you."

I’d never say that. You’re a harmless hermit. :D
 
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Is that a thing? I had no idea. I'll have to look that up.



I'm with you. I was really hoping this pandemic would bring about significant change. Initially, it seemed to me that folks were being more considerate of each other. And, I imagined in my naive mind that we would become more grateful and address some long standing issues like how we treat the environment and where we throw our money. But then everything went political and reason went out the window. :(



It is really scary. I didn't realize how susceptible people are to nonsense. All the dystopian scenarios seem like live possibilities now.

Yeah, it's not a word I just made up LOL. I think marine phytoplankton could very well be the future if this pandemic has taught us anything. Which is ironic coming from ME - a former dairy herdsman. (Even though I was saying this way back then if you can believe it.) When you reduce the possibility of zoonotic spread, you reduce the possibility of a pandemic.

^ The last portion to that statement is empirically based, it's not an opinion. However, the first portion of that statement is an opinion. (I just needed to establish that.)

With regards to the year we've all just had? Well, times of crisis will do two things:

- Bring out the best in people
- Bring out the worst in people

I think if you look for it, MANY great things have come from the experience. The altruistic have shown how heroic they can be, whilst the selfish have sunk to new lows. It's JUST the natural order of things.

I am disappointed just like you are though. In March last year I actually felt this excitable level of energy that I haven't ever felt before. This sense of "this is our shot now - don't blow it".

Alas, it'll be 2025 soon enough and nothing really significant will have changed if we stay on this current trajectory. I am - however, optimistic, that WHEN we all meet again (properly) it'll feel so good that we decide "enough is enough. Let's - as people, vote for change."

As it stands, this is still very much a work in progress.
 
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, it's not a word I just made up LOL

I meant is that something one can invest in, or financially support?

I think if you look for it, MANY great things have come from the experience. The altruistic have shown how heroic they can be, whilst the selfish have sunk to new lows. It's JUST the natural order of things.

Good point. I'm can be unduly cynical, but you're right. I've seen both.

I am - however, optimistic, that WHEN we all meet again (properly) it'll feel so good that we decide "enough is enough. Let's - as people, vote for change.

I hope so. I think folks are worn down and tired. It will be a glorious day when we can gather and enjoy each other without this hanging over us.
 
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I played card games growing up. I wanted to learn bridge but never got around to it. We’ll see. I don’t recall if I’ve played Euchre.

I'm surprised you don't know Bridge. I should ask my grandma to teach me. She knows it.


Nice, which ones?
No idea. I've also thought of piano. I figured since I can type, piano would just be the next level.


True. I watched Lidia for years and learned a lot. Are you Italian?

No but people think I'm Jewish.


I love golf and cycling!
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Cool.:cool:
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Do you golf?


Golf is my favorite but you miss a lot. I’ve never seen hockey live but I used to watch it. I like equestrian, horse racing, and regattas too.
Miss a lot of what?

I don't think I ever saw hockey in-person till I was in high school, tho I loved it growing up. My family used to have a horse, so they like horse racing, tho I never got into it.


Maybe I should learn to ride? I was too young when we had it, but that could be fun.



Relationships aren’t a cure-all. They’re an opportunity for sharing and togetherness. I’m looking for someone who’s happy and settled. Whose thriving now. Not when I show up. I’m not the source. I add to the whole.
That makes sense. I bet he goes on lots of dates. He's content w/ that, partly b/c he has faith the one (you) will come.
 
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People have attempted to teach me poker, but I just don’t get it. Towards the beginning of the pandemic my family played spades, and I think I caught on to that fairly quickly. I’m more of an UNO guy myself, and other games of the sort. There’s a video of a family gathering of us playing UNO, and it was wild to say the least.
 
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People have attempted to teach me poker, but I just don’t get it. Towards the beginning of the pandemic my family played spades, and I think I caught on to that fairly quickly. I’m more of an UNO guy myself, and other games of the sort. There’s a video of a family gathering of us playing UNO, and it was wild to say the least.
Spades....I think I've played that & that's like Hearts & Eucher too.....

I played Poker once. Came in 2nd, tho I only half knew what I was doing. :confused:

Oh yes, UNO is a must. Phase 10 & Skip-Bo too.
 
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