We all have first-hand experiences with platonic connections: parents, siblings, relatives, teachers, employers, etc. They provide examples of acceptable behavior and boundaries in human relations.
Desire and intimacy are the primary components of carnal connections. Attraction, romantic fantasies, emotional dependency, and sexual stirrings are indicative of carnal interests. Distinguishing between the two isn’t difficult. Recurring thoughts and feelings are truth serums.
As for the OP, I’m comfortable befriending couples with my spouse. But I wouldn’t take a single man under my wing or support him doing the same. Nor would I maintain a connection with the opposite sex when marrying.
For me, leaving and cleaving encompasses my former self and the oneness I’ve embraced with him. I don’t develop close relationships with men I’m not involved with. In my experience, most have difficulty setting aside personal wants in deference to propriety. Their want for companionship always come first.
Married men are off limits. I don’t need to bear my soul, get his feedback, or anything else. Craving their attention is wrong and that’s usually the culprit in these situations.
She doesn’t need help. She wants his help. And that’s a problem.
Yours in His Service,
~bella