Spin-Off: The "Click"

[gottabemore2life]

Is it possible to "click" with more than one person at a time?

Because I am finding it very difficult.

I "clicked" with someone, but he wasn't ready for a relationship... Now everyone I meet pales in comparison to how I feel about him. I feel like I am not giving anyone a fair chance.

 

[GoodNewsJim]

I was in love with a girl that was perfect for me in every way except she was just a few pounds overweight which wasn't really that bad with her extreme curves.

Anyway I can be friends with anyone, but she actually raised my standards in women. And I had high standards to begin with.

So yeah, having a past successful relationship can mean you want even more in the next one even though it isn't probable.

 

[intricatic]

I think the best advice for such a position is not to push things. Don't "try" to make things click between you and someone else, because that often backfires or simply doesn't work. You'll end up looking at the negative parts of a person too intently when you try to force yourself to see the good in them.

In other words, don't look for guys to click with, just let it happen when it will.

 

[BoarderDave]

Yeah.. I "clicked" with about 4 or 5 people at once back in high school..

Currently, I have a deeeeep love for someone that I can not be with at this time of life.. So I've moved on a bit.. I really like the girl Im with. But my heart still beats for another.

..so to answer your question, yes. You can get feelings about other people whilst still stuck on one person.

..I wouldn't reccomend it though. It hurts. Its confusing.

 

[fishin4christ]

I guess its possible, but I've never experienced it. I've only really clicked with two people before, and they were years apart. Maybe it will be easier once you get over him.

 

[gottabemore2life]

But do you always have to get over your feelings for someone else before you let yourself care about another person? I feel so closed off and turned off by the prospect of meeting new people.

 

[fishin4christ]

This is just a suggestion, but maybe you should just lay low for awhile. I see no point into forcing yourself to date people who you have no feelings for. Time always helps.

 

[intricatic]

That's normal. It means you're a human being and you have the ability to care about people. It tends to take time.

 

[deliciousBass]

Yes, you can "click" with many people.

I kinda understand what you mean though about everybody else paling in comparison to the one you "clicked" with. It sucks doesn't it? I mean, you will meet other people and think "gosh, he/she isn't even close to as awesome as so and so was."

Sometimes I think that we set our expectations too high though and expect an instant "click." Haha, actually I think it was you who told me that if you stop looking, somebody will show up. Take our own advice now haha.

 

[gottabemore2life]

This is just a suggestion, but maybe you should just lay low for awhile. I see no point into forcing yourself to date people who you have no feelings for. Time always helps.

I think you may be right. Which sucks... because I am lonely, but at the same time, won't let anyone close enough to comfort me.

Women, huh?

 

[deliciousBass]

You're mourning the loss of your relationship. That's normal. It will get better with time.

 

[gottabemore2life]

Yes, you can "click" with many people.

I kinda understand what you mean though about everybody else paling in comparison to the one you "clicked" with. It sucks doesn't it? I mean, you will meet other people and think "gosh, he/she isn't even close to as awesome as so and so was."

Sometimes I think that we set our expectations too high though and expect an instant "click." Haha, actually I think it was you who told me that if you stop looking, somebody will show up. Take our own advice now haha.

I am not even really looking though... I am kinda just getting people thrown at me. I think my friends need to back off a bit. I am just find being alone right now.

 

[gottabemore2life]

You're mourning the loss of your relationship. That's normal. It will get better with time.

Or the lack there of... actually...

 

[deliciousBass]

Or the lack there of... actually...

Awwww... it's okay... unrequited love sucks, I know. But you can't say that he was the right guy for you. The right guy would have actually given a crap lol. You would've made a mistake by dating him because his apathy would've driven you insane. Believe me, I think you avoided a lot of heartbreak by steering clear of that pitfall.

Trust me on this one. I've been in his position and I've hurt some people very badly and I regret it.

 

[fishin4christ]

I think you may be right. Which sucks... because I am lonely, but at the same time, won't let anyone close enough to comfort me.

Women, huh?

Yeah, they are quite complex !!!

 

[Tinkerbell33]

I think that the advice Fishin gave you is great.

 

[JPPT1974]

As they say..."Time does heal old wounds"
Just give it a shot!