More than what I getI'll be transparent meh guy as a short autistic person thiers not a whole lot of offers i've turned down.
Hold up. I talk a lot of white men. The majority don't look that young at 40. Crows nests and lines are the norm. He looks fine at 30. But 40 is another matter.
The spas around me are filled with men and women who don't share my hue. There's exceptions of course. But let's not get crazy.
~bella
So, its very difficult to seriously date, for a woman after 30, while for men its easier and easier. Its sad that today's society takes the prime of women and put that to school, career and bedroom fun. Then its late and they are left unhappy or/and as single mothers. Many cannot deal with the stress and overeat or start to hate men. Women, who invested their prime into looking for a good man and marriage, have won the game.
Opportunities have nothing to do with what makes somebody attractive. Somebody can look like Adonis but lives in a forest or burn all the time on dating sites where he has statistically 0% chance to get a response. Or is too shy to speak to unknown woman on the street.If it was difficult for women to date after 30 you wouldn't have conversations about lack of opportunities on this site.
You wouldn't have multiple men attesting to a lack of dates and companionship. Scarcity would force her hand but it hasn't.
There are always some exceptions. But men and women are also groups that share some common traits. To still repeat "but there are some exceptions" after every statistical fact is exhausting and useless.Men and women aren't a collective. What one places a priority on is meaningless to the next. To assume all do this or that is nonsense.
Opportunities have nothing to do with what makes somebody attractive. Somebody can look like Adonis but lives in a forest or burn all the time on dating sites where he has statistically 0% chance to get a response.
We live in the same culture. Europe, USA, Canada, Russia, Australia etc are still the same, post-Christian European-based culture, more or less.We live in different cultures. It's possible that may be so where you are. But it doesn't hold true in America.
We live in the same culture. Europe, USA, Canada, Russia, Australia etc are still the same, post-Christian European-based culture, more or less.
You can have more feminism or more political hypercorrectness, but what specifically does not hold true in America, regarding what I said?
Do most men prefer 35 years old women or 25 years old women? If b), then it logically must be harder for the older woman to find a serious relationship.You said it was difficult for a woman to date seriously after 30. That isn't true. Some may struggle but the majority don't.
Also, there are biological and psychological facts that are not dependent on culture. Like for example that a 40 years old man can be as strong as a 20 years old boy to "protect" the woman, but a 40 years old woman is not as fertile as a 20 years old girl to give the man a a healthy child.You said it was difficult for a woman to date seriously after 30. That isn't true. Some may struggle but the majority don't.
~bella
Do most men prefer 35 years old women or 25 years old women? If b), then it logically must be harder for the older woman to find a serious relationship.
I did not say that women after 30 have no chance. Some people marry in 80' or on their death bed.If you want to believe a woman has no chances after 30 you're welcome to do so. But most people settle down in their thirties here.
Christians don't have the whole of the populace to choose from. They're dating within a smaller segment. Many tie the knot in their thirties.
~bella
That's what we're doing for my daughter. It won't be wholly arranged. She has to be part of the process. But I'll be scouting on her behalf and she's surrounded by wise counselors. Together we'll get it done with God's guidance.
She hasn't dated in a long time. She was focused on school and her calling. I asked what we she wanted and told her to be explicit. She wanted marriage, family, to be home full-time, and to homeschool. I advised her to put dating on the back burner and focus on her purpose.
It would allow her to have that and more. Everyone can't live on one income. I told her if she put things in place she'd make it easier on her husband and he'd value her diligence. Staying home wouldn't be a hardship. She could contribute financially.
I've watched many attempting the same who are married with children. And it's hard. They have less time and greater responsibilities. She didn't have the same. It's the ideal season to do it.
Seeing it unfold was humbling. His wisdom was evident. I've pulled a lot out of my hat but this takes the cake. Its unorthodox. That's why I knew it was Him.
~bella
sounds like you and your daughter have made some good choices there