Miles
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- Mar 6, 2005
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I think too much emphasis is being placed on the "never" aspect of never dating. What if somebody happens to be surrounded by more suitable partners than somebody else? It happens all the time, and doesn't say much about how capable or worthy of love an individual is.
Although I didn't have my first "real" kiss until college, it wasn't a life-changing thing. Dramatic music didn't play, I didn't see the world differently, and nobody appeared out of the aether to give my a high-five. I was the same kid I was before. She just happened to be a friend of a friend, and there just happened to be mutual attraction between us at the time. The circumstances could easily have been different. She wasn't a horrible person, but there also wasn't enough to build a lasting relationship on. The difference between that sort of thing, and "never" is pretty slim, even if it happens a bunch of times.
Treating dating as a right of passage, or worse yet as a YOLO experience, is misguided in my opinion. That mindset can easily lead to bitterness and disillusionment. For those who conform, and for those who don't. Live your life, and try not to second guess yourself over stuff like this.
Although I didn't have my first "real" kiss until college, it wasn't a life-changing thing. Dramatic music didn't play, I didn't see the world differently, and nobody appeared out of the aether to give my a high-five. I was the same kid I was before. She just happened to be a friend of a friend, and there just happened to be mutual attraction between us at the time. The circumstances could easily have been different. She wasn't a horrible person, but there also wasn't enough to build a lasting relationship on. The difference between that sort of thing, and "never" is pretty slim, even if it happens a bunch of times.
Treating dating as a right of passage, or worse yet as a YOLO experience, is misguided in my opinion. That mindset can easily lead to bitterness and disillusionment. For those who conform, and for those who don't. Live your life, and try not to second guess yourself over stuff like this.
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