To me the question should be "Is it okay to date another Christian who has sinned?" The answer is yes. Because there is no one who has never sinned.
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I know the bible says that if a man divorces his wife and marries another, then he and that new woman are adulterers. But in this day and age, it is extremely hard not to meet someone who is divorced. Especially when you are older. Are there any exceptions? I don't want to commit adultery!
Does not G-d himself say "Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."
G-d said this when Adam was in the garden and Adam spoke with G-d in a way that you and I currently CAN NOT. Your entire argument about having G-d as your help-meet fails Genesis 2:18 Adams relationship with G-d was perfect because at the time, Adam WAS SINLESS.
No, it is not ongoing/perpetual sin for a divorced person to remarry.
A few, very strict, preachers teach that, including the ultra-conservative Mennonites, who I grew up among. HOWEVER. After thorough research, I was unable to find ONE good Greek scholar who agrees that's what the verb tense means.
\It's cultural. Back in the day the Jewish men would divorce over everything, literally. They had the right to do that. It was easy, all they had to do was write their own certificate of divorce on paper. So Jesus was really confronting that immoral culture. I really don't think it applies today, especially not in your case.
I know the bible says that if a man divorces his wife and marries another, then he and that new woman are adulterers. But in this day and age, it is extremely hard not to meet someone who is divorced. Especially when you are older. Are there any exceptions? I don't want to commit adultery!
This is not as simple an issue as many Protestants make it out to be.
Opinions simply do not count. And excuses will not work with God. We have plain instructions in scripture, and we are responsible to obey them.
That being said, the general rule is that people are not allowed to divorce and remarry. But the Bible clearly states two exceptions to this rule. The most obvious and plainly stated exceptions, is the words, unless it is for adultery. So, if a person's spouse is committing adultery, the rule against divorce and remarriage does not apply. So if you meet a Cristian who either divorced their spouse because they were committing adultery, or whose spouse had divorced them without scriptural grounds and remarried, then you can scripturaly marry that person, and therefore it is OK to date them.
There is also one other exception in scripture that states an exception to the general rule. That scripture says, "if the unbelieving depart, let them depart, a brother or a sister is not bound in such cases." So if you meet a Christian whose spouse has left them without scriptural grounds, and refuses to be reconciled, that Christian is also free to remarry, and is thus OK to date.
So God's law concerning marriage can be reduced to three simple statements.
1. The marriage bond may not be broken. Period. No exceptions.
2. If you break your marriage bond, you may not form another one.
3. If your spouse has broken the marriage bond, you may remarry.
For those who are divorced, God never intended you to stay single forever. If that were the case, he would have removed sex drive, the need for companionship and belonging, and the need for two-parent families upon divorce. He did not give us temptations without providing a way out of them. Marriage is his provision to deal with sexual temptations.
For those who think God should be enough, they are wrong. God himself declared it was not good for man to be alone. If he was enough, he would never have created Eve or sex drive or the need for belonging and companionship. The church is also not enough. The church is great for fellowship and a larger sense of belonging in community but lacks the most intimate of relationship and belonging. God's grace is sufficient - his grace is that he has made provision even for divorced people.
I am now married to a divorced man. He did not want to divorce with his ex-wife as he valued what the bible says, however, it was the ex-wife who wanted a divorce (a restraining order has been issued in order for my now husband to stay away and stop pursuing her.I know the bible says that if a man divorces his wife and marries another, then he and that new woman are adulterers. But in this day and age, it is extremely hard not to meet someone who is divorced. Especially when you are older. Are there any exceptions? I don't want to commit adultery!
Well if you met someone who divorced due to the marital unfaithfulness of their spouse, what is wrong with going out with them? Jesus said concerning those grounds divorce is permissible. I would say the same goes for abuse. If you met someone who left their spouse due to being abused what is wrong with you going out with them?I know the bible says that if a man divorces his wife and marries another, then he and that new woman are adulterers. But in this day and age, it is extremely hard not to meet someone who is divorced. Especially when you are older. Are there any exceptions? I don't want to commit adultery!
And tell anyone who wants to preach that you cant have a second husband or wife or a second chance in life, to take a hike off a short pier.
Now at this part you totally lost me. You may need to provide a commentary on what you are saying in each of these sentences.
I find it fascinating that so many Protestants, who claim to be "Bible Only" people start doing the hot-feet dance when the clear words of the Bible don't agree with what they think.
You know, like "This IS my Body. This IS my Blood." Never seen so much theological dancing in all my life when those verses are trotted out.
That, among other places.
...the Bible clearly states two exceptions to this rule. The most obvious and plainly stated exceptions, is the words, unless it is for adultery. So, if a person's spouse is committing adultery, the rule against divorce and remarriage does not apply. ...
...God's law concerning marriage can be reduced to three simple statements.
1. The marriage bond may not be broken. Period. No exceptions.
2. If you break your marriage bond, you may not form another one.
3. If your spouse has broken the marriage bond, you may remarry.
I think quite a few of the men posting in this thread have a mindset compatible with this idea. They seem like the type. The bitterness and need to control and shout down and accuse of impiety are all there. Especially the need to elevate themselves as an authority above God(God won't answer your prayers, you must listen to ME, I am the man who speaks for God).This ultra-literal, illogical interpretation makes it less of a sin to murder your wife, than to divorce her. At least you could be forgiven and freed from that horrible situation!