I know the bible says that if a man divorces his wife and marries another, then he and that new woman are adulterers. But in this day and age, it is extremely hard not to meet someone who is divorced. Especially when you are older. Are there any exceptions? I don't want to commit adultery!
Many people take the 'except it be for fornication' clause in Matthew 19 to mean that God allows divorce in the case of fornication. In the context, however, it is talking about a man divorcing his wife, not vice versa. Under the law of Moses which Jesus was commenting on, women did not divorce men.
You should definitely stay away from a man who abandoned his wife, or a man who broke it off with his wife because it just couldn't work out, or they drifted apart, or they wanted different things.
If you have any qualms about marrying a divorced man, don't date one. There are single older men who are never married. There are also widowers out there who proved their mettle to some degree by being faithful 'till death do us part.'
One place I lived in the US, I knew four slightly older men, two in their 50's and one pushing 40, who'd never married who wanted to. Three of them seemed reasonably good-looking and had good, solid careers and the other hand some decent assets. (i ask my wife about such things. I can't tell if a man is good looking). One man had a long-term girlfriend who broke up with him and married someone else. The one with the not-so-great job had been shy with the ladies since he was a teenager. They were all Christians.
There are such men out there. Our dating system in our culture isn't very good at making sure it matches everyone up. Really good-looking people and extroverts have a good chance of marrying when they want to. But those are no guarantees of finding a mate. Our culture of dating for entertainment can waste serious spouse-seeker's time. In some cultures, it is acceptable for parents to actively help match younger people up. But a lot of people 'fall through the cracks' in western culture if they are looking for a spouse.
It is important to keep a clean conscience before God. If you don't want to marry a divorced man, you don't have to. And there are plenty of other options out there.
I hear Alaska has a lot of single men and not enough women. Relocating to Alaska may be a way to find a man fast.
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