MKJ
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Keep trying your humble best and praying. Comfort yourself with the Church's statements indicating that habit and addiction can reduce or even eliminate a person's culpability for their actions. You would do well to seek out a competent spiritual advisor if you have not.
I think it can also help a lot to make use of the tools the Church has to fight concupiscence - things like fasting and abstinance. They tend to get forgotten but that is a really important part of their role - to build up our ability to deal with these things we struggle against mentally or physically.
It can also be a really good idea to take a closer look at so-called "venial" sins. They can sometimes play a much larger role in our problems than we realize, and dealing with them can really help in dealing with other issues. I was told once about a man who was told by his priest not to worry so much about a habitual but normally serious sin, and instead concentrate on his anger issues with his family. Doing this ultimatly had much better results for both problems because repairing his family relationships was very important in supporting change in the habitual issue (and it impacted his family a lot more too.)
This is the other reason I think getting caught up in the venial/mortal distinction is not always that helpful. The best elucidations of how sin can affect us I have ever read are The Screwtape Letters and The Great Divorce. What is remarkable in both is how it is through seemingly small things that most people are separated from God. As Screwtape tells Wormwood, most people do not really want to be involved in the big, impressive sins, and they may just as quickly repent once they have committed them. But the small, daily ones that we do not even think about will take us slowly but surely along the road to Hell, and can grow to impact many areas of our life without us realizing it.
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