- Dec 13, 2015
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So the story goes that I got an oxygen test sometime last fall because I need to be put on oxygen at night for my sleep Apnea. My insurance decided not to cover the test for whatever reason, my mother could explain it to you better than I could. I tried talking to my insurance worker about it but he said "I have no clue what that is." and my wife said "Oh, you'll never get billed for that." and I kept telling her, yes I will. Sure enough, insurance didn't cover it and the oxygen company sent me a bill in November that my mother opened up and claimed it was an accidental opening (Yeah right, I'm not stupid. Any bill I get that my mother sees in the mail, anytime my wife runs through an ez pass and gets billed for it, anytime I have pretty much ANY kind of bills whether its food or anything my mom pays the bill for me. Making me to be such a disgrace as a man and to my wife.) and she paid the bill without telling me and then eventually told me that the bill existed, sent us the bill that she paid and I was really mad at her but thought it was the end of it.
Then mom goes through my mail again just a few days ago because that's what my mom does. Only this time she didn't open the mail but told me to tell her what it was and what it said immediately after I open it. So I opened it and it was another bill for the same test plus a $5 test that never existed and was done. So, stupidly I called my mom about it but only because it was a bill that had already been paid and because I had no clue what the $5 test was that was NEVER done. My mom was a nurse for over 40 years so I thought maybe she had an inkling of what it was. If she did, she wouldn't tell me.
So instead of paying it for me or having me pay it (my mom thinks my wife and I are so poor that we cannot afford anything, I mean we are poor don't get me wrong. But, I'm not such a failure that I cannot afford to pay a $44 debt!) my mother listened to my oxygen provider who ordered this test and refused to pay the bill! Despite this bill saying that they've been trying to collect for over 6 months and I'll go into collections if I don't pay it this time. The oxygen provider just told her to put "cannot afford" onto the bill and apparently I'll be exempt from paying it. No! I'd go into collections! Any moron can see that! But, this kind of sneaky fraud behavior is common among my parents and one of them claims the label of Christian.
But, of course I cannot handle my own medical bills. I'm such a failure to my wife and to my family that I cannot afford anything and I shouldn't be giving any of my money away to Charity and to other people doing God's work (despite my mom doing it all the time) because, I cannot afford it because people on disability, food stamps, and rental assistance (Which makes me feel enough of a failure in the first place but I cannot help that, I cannot work and my wife hasn't worked since we met and she only worked for like 3 months) cannot afford anything.
Here's the thing. I don't care. I just don't care. Jesus told us to sell our possessions and give them to the poor, so I do. Jesus told us to give money to the poor, so I do. Jesus said that that poor widow who gave hardly anything gave a lot in God's eyes because she gave all that she had, so I try to do that. Who gives a rats behind if I'm poor? The point is, TO DO SOMETHING. The point is what I give is usually all or most of what I have left over in a month. I usually don't have very much leftover in a month when all is said is done. You don't think God doesn't see that? You don't think one day I'm going to be rewarded for that? I didn't mean to sound a fanfare there and declare myself holier than other people by the way, I just stated something that EVERY Christian should do and be like. We should be doing the right things, not the wrong.
I don't know. Maybe going into collections is part of God's plan for my wife and I but it personally makes me feel like a failure. I was raised by two grandfather's who told me (and the rest of our family) that your job as a man is to support your family. To not support your family is a disgrace. My mother opening my own bills without my permission and then saying "I'll take care of that." makes me feel like a disgrace and like I cannot support my family. It makes me feel worse than an infidel.
And you know what the stupidest part is? My parents think I'M a loser and I'M a failure because I don't take my disability check and stick it in a safe and hide it from the government and then lie and commit perjury and say "I don't have any savings."
There was one point where I was going to give into that but, THAT'S FRAUD! My parents know that I have a history of fraud and I wanted to get away from that life after God found me but, they don't care! They just want me into that old lifestyle! Because, I'm a failure because I refuse to commit FRAUD? Which, God will see and know about? It's as if they don't know that God sees EVERYTHING! Not only that but I can go to PRISON again for that and be slapped with an etremely large fine if I'm caught? Minimum security prison mind you but still prison and still time away from my family. And it won't just be for a few months to a year it would be for a LONG time because you scammed the government. "Oh you'll never be caught and a member of your family does it all the time."
Yeah, because that makes something evil and sinful excusable right? I used to steal money from people so that means that everyone should do that right? No! That's inexcusable!
I'm glad that the Bible says that those who suffer for doing what is right and resist this evil nonsense, such is pleasing in the sight of God.
Sorry for the rant. I just.... feel like such a failure right now. And of course they can't send you an online bill so I can pay the bill behind my parents back. Of course in the year 2021 we still get physical bills that we have to pay with a check. This isn't the 1930's anymore for crying out loud. I've had a checking account since 2007 after I graduated highschool but I've only written probably 20 checks since then. And probably 15 of those were rent payments to my mother because she insists on receiving a check for rent. I'm just... such a massive failure.
Oh yeah, and then another thing. Apparently my sister gets amazon prime (something I've been paying for for a really long time) for $6 a month (It's a $15 a month service) and my parents have been using her amazon prime for free for years. The same goes with my sister mooching netflix, internet, you name it off of my parents for years.
I'm considered a loser to them if I don't mooch all of these things from them too. It just feels so massively wrong to me because these are all against the TOS to do. Not necessarily illegal to use netflix in a different family members house but, I don't feel right doing it. And ofc, I have to be a loser because I pay for my own TV services (And my own TV but don't get me even started on that.) I sometimes just wish my parents didn't live so close to my sister and I. My sister is just so... idk too.
If my grandparents were still alive, they'd be kicking butt if they knew. You don't mooch things, you get a job get off your lazy behind and you get a job. You support your wife and family or else you aren't anything of a man. That's just... the way it is and was with them.
They seemed to be okay with me being on disability because I couldn't help it. But, that was just the old fashioned ways and the way things should be. I'm just so sorry that's so... "archaic" today.
Then mom goes through my mail again just a few days ago because that's what my mom does. Only this time she didn't open the mail but told me to tell her what it was and what it said immediately after I open it. So I opened it and it was another bill for the same test plus a $5 test that never existed and was done. So, stupidly I called my mom about it but only because it was a bill that had already been paid and because I had no clue what the $5 test was that was NEVER done. My mom was a nurse for over 40 years so I thought maybe she had an inkling of what it was. If she did, she wouldn't tell me.
So instead of paying it for me or having me pay it (my mom thinks my wife and I are so poor that we cannot afford anything, I mean we are poor don't get me wrong. But, I'm not such a failure that I cannot afford to pay a $44 debt!) my mother listened to my oxygen provider who ordered this test and refused to pay the bill! Despite this bill saying that they've been trying to collect for over 6 months and I'll go into collections if I don't pay it this time. The oxygen provider just told her to put "cannot afford" onto the bill and apparently I'll be exempt from paying it. No! I'd go into collections! Any moron can see that! But, this kind of sneaky fraud behavior is common among my parents and one of them claims the label of Christian.
But, of course I cannot handle my own medical bills. I'm such a failure to my wife and to my family that I cannot afford anything and I shouldn't be giving any of my money away to Charity and to other people doing God's work (despite my mom doing it all the time) because, I cannot afford it because people on disability, food stamps, and rental assistance (Which makes me feel enough of a failure in the first place but I cannot help that, I cannot work and my wife hasn't worked since we met and she only worked for like 3 months) cannot afford anything.
Here's the thing. I don't care. I just don't care. Jesus told us to sell our possessions and give them to the poor, so I do. Jesus told us to give money to the poor, so I do. Jesus said that that poor widow who gave hardly anything gave a lot in God's eyes because she gave all that she had, so I try to do that. Who gives a rats behind if I'm poor? The point is, TO DO SOMETHING. The point is what I give is usually all or most of what I have left over in a month. I usually don't have very much leftover in a month when all is said is done. You don't think God doesn't see that? You don't think one day I'm going to be rewarded for that? I didn't mean to sound a fanfare there and declare myself holier than other people by the way, I just stated something that EVERY Christian should do and be like. We should be doing the right things, not the wrong.
I don't know. Maybe going into collections is part of God's plan for my wife and I but it personally makes me feel like a failure. I was raised by two grandfather's who told me (and the rest of our family) that your job as a man is to support your family. To not support your family is a disgrace. My mother opening my own bills without my permission and then saying "I'll take care of that." makes me feel like a disgrace and like I cannot support my family. It makes me feel worse than an infidel.
And you know what the stupidest part is? My parents think I'M a loser and I'M a failure because I don't take my disability check and stick it in a safe and hide it from the government and then lie and commit perjury and say "I don't have any savings."
There was one point where I was going to give into that but, THAT'S FRAUD! My parents know that I have a history of fraud and I wanted to get away from that life after God found me but, they don't care! They just want me into that old lifestyle! Because, I'm a failure because I refuse to commit FRAUD? Which, God will see and know about? It's as if they don't know that God sees EVERYTHING! Not only that but I can go to PRISON again for that and be slapped with an etremely large fine if I'm caught? Minimum security prison mind you but still prison and still time away from my family. And it won't just be for a few months to a year it would be for a LONG time because you scammed the government. "Oh you'll never be caught and a member of your family does it all the time."
Yeah, because that makes something evil and sinful excusable right? I used to steal money from people so that means that everyone should do that right? No! That's inexcusable!
I'm glad that the Bible says that those who suffer for doing what is right and resist this evil nonsense, such is pleasing in the sight of God.
Sorry for the rant. I just.... feel like such a failure right now. And of course they can't send you an online bill so I can pay the bill behind my parents back. Of course in the year 2021 we still get physical bills that we have to pay with a check. This isn't the 1930's anymore for crying out loud. I've had a checking account since 2007 after I graduated highschool but I've only written probably 20 checks since then. And probably 15 of those were rent payments to my mother because she insists on receiving a check for rent. I'm just... such a massive failure.
Oh yeah, and then another thing. Apparently my sister gets amazon prime (something I've been paying for for a really long time) for $6 a month (It's a $15 a month service) and my parents have been using her amazon prime for free for years. The same goes with my sister mooching netflix, internet, you name it off of my parents for years.
I'm considered a loser to them if I don't mooch all of these things from them too. It just feels so massively wrong to me because these are all against the TOS to do. Not necessarily illegal to use netflix in a different family members house but, I don't feel right doing it. And ofc, I have to be a loser because I pay for my own TV services (And my own TV but don't get me even started on that.) I sometimes just wish my parents didn't live so close to my sister and I. My sister is just so... idk too.
If my grandparents were still alive, they'd be kicking butt if they knew. You don't mooch things, you get a job get off your lazy behind and you get a job. You support your wife and family or else you aren't anything of a man. That's just... the way it is and was with them.
They seemed to be okay with me being on disability because I couldn't help it. But, that was just the old fashioned ways and the way things should be. I'm just so sorry that's so... "archaic" today.
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