I don't speak here much, I came to these forums as a naive person thinking everyone here was a brother and a sister in Christ, So I felt a little alienated when I realized this is a huge forums full of many different kinds of believers, There is no seeming single agreed-upon path on how we should act or be, or even treat others.
Are you sure about that? The Bible says what it says no matter how much people might twist and contort it. The Ten Commandments are pretty clear and straightforward. Jesus' atoning death on the cross is also very plain in Scripture. In fact, there are a great many things the Bible says that are not mysterious or open to a bazillion different interpretations. A lot of the time, the Bible says what it means and means what it says quite plainly.
I've never been able to find clear guidance here because of this.
This site is not going to be helpful if you aren't already well-grounded in your knowledge of the Bible. As you've pointed out, there are just way too many voices telling you what it says. One thing you can do, though, to cut through all the chatter: Compare everything you hear to Scripture. If someone is telling you what it means to be a Christian but never references the Bible in support of what they are saying, ignore them. It doesn't matter what we think. The important thing is what
God thinks.
It says when the blind follow the blind they both shall fall. But truly. When It comes to Christ, I "need fellowship" I need people to hang around and people to follow, Because this isn't the kind of path someone walks alone. I think that's implied heavily.
Yup. No man is an island. Not in the Church, anyway.
I don't like confrontations and I don't like arguing with people, I so much don't like confrontation and arguments and drama, That I close off and just disassociate with people.
I am literally what some people would call a hermit, I only leave my home when I absolutely must. Sometimes months go by and I don't even see the outside.
Yikes! You must have a really nice house! Or really serious misanthropy. In any case, you're no use to God hiding away in your home. It's not what He made you for, that's for sure.
This is because I have crippling social fears, I feel and have always felt like people are always judging me and passing their criticisms on me. I hate that feeling.
Well, they probably are. So? Even God incarnate (that would be Jesus) got judged and criticized. And then he was beaten to a bloody pulp and nailed to cross to die. Welcome to being light in the darkness. It can get really, really rough. I'm sure Jesus hated the feeling of dying for your sin, too. Didn't stop him, though.
My thing is, As A Christian, I am supposed to spread the words of God to others. And when someone does something wrong against God I am supposed to stand up and say, That's wrong.
Hmmm...What God commands of you is that you love Him and love what He loves - which are all those judging, critical people you've been avoiding. In fact, there is a direct correlation between a person's love for God and their love of other people. The former always gives rise to the latter. So, when a person says they love God but hides away from people for months on end, I understand that the person doesn't really love God at all. And until that problem is resolved, there's little point in evangelizing.
See my predicament? I am, To be a proper Christian, I have to see people, I have to talk to people, And truthfully. That's the last thing I want to do, I don't want to deal with people.
I know many could say, Well something must be wrong with me because if God was in my heart I would be all perfect and without flaw or something, and not have those issues.
It's not us who say this sort of thing to you, but God. If God dwells within you by His Spirit, you are going to love others.
1 John 3:14
14 We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love the brethren. He who does not love his brother abides in death.
John 15:12-14
12 This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.
13 Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one's life for his friends.
14 You are My friends if you do whatever I command you.
The answer to fearless evangelism is to love God deeply. Let me explain: I have a friend who loves golf. He spends thousands of dollars every year in fees and plays a hundred or so rounds in the season. He practices his putts, and swings, and buys clubs, and bags, and shoes and so on. He LOVES golf! So, guess what he always ends up talking about when you're with him. Yup, right: golf. But that's perfectly normal. We all do the same; we all tend to talk - at length and enthusiastically - about what we love. This is just as true when it comes to God. When we really love God, when He consumes us like golf consumes my friend, we will just very naturally talk about Him to others.
All fear is ultimately selfish. It is the result of wanting to protect ourselves, to keep ourselves safe and comfortable. Unfortunately, serving God is not always either thing. For Jesus, it was downright lethal! God calls each of us, though, to a similar course. To walk well with Him, we have to die to ourselves:
Matthew 16:24-25
24 ..."If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me.
25 For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it.
The only thing that can take anyone into the crucified life, a life of self-sacrifice, is love. A deep, all-consuming love for God. But, the only place we can get that sort of love is
from God. Even our love for God He must supply to us. He does this, thankfully, in the Person of His Spirit (
Romans 5:5; Galatians 5:22). When a person is saved, they are born-again spiritually by the Holy Spirit (
Titus 3:5), given new life in Christ, and in the Spirit possess all they need to live the way God wants them to. So, if a Christian isn't loving God as they ought and failing, then, to love others, it's not because they don't have the power to do so. It's always because they aren't living in daily, moment-by-moment surrender to God. It is only when we submit (
James 4:6-7), yield (
Romans 6:13), humble ourselves (
1 Peter 5:6) before God that He lifts us up into rich, deep fellowship with Himself. And it is in the midst of that fellowship that His love is properly manifested in and through us.
I am happiest when I am alone, It's the only time I feel at true peace Like I can truly be myself and not have to put on some sort of ritualistic act for the sake of others.
Maybe so, but this isn't the life for which God made you. You were made to serve
Him, not yourself. (
1 Corinthians 10:31; Colossians 1:16)
For me, I only feel truly free, When I am alone,
Ah, but you aren't free. Not really. You are bound in the chains of Self, and so barred from the life God meant for you to live.
I Ask, Because, I know Gods Love, I have felt him change my heart from Sadness to joy many times, And That's how I know God loves me Because He turns my sadness into Joy, So I know God loves me even though my flaws.
If you never had the slightest feeling of joy or comfort from God, you would
still know that He loved you by the atoning death of His Son on the cross for you. That's really how we know God loves us, not by way of some fleeting feeling we might have.
"Feelings come, and feelings god,
And feelings are deceiving.
My warrant is the word of God,
Nought else is worth believing."
While God loves you, He is not pleased with you as you are living at the moment. You are not a "vessel sanctified and meet for the Master's use." You are far too busy serving yourself to be a vessel for God's use.
Is there anyway, To be a good Christian, and yet be a person of solitude that does not socialize or interact with others?
No.
because look, Evangelizing is difficult because the only people who want to talk about God are either people who are Christians. Or Atheists who are looking for a hardcore knock down drag out debate.
Not so. I have talked to many people about God over the years who were neither sort.
I don't want to fight with people, I shouldn't have to be a fighter if I don't want to be. Is there no other way?
Of course there is: God's way. See above.
I know there is no other way than Christ, I mean is there no other way than Evangelizing and having to have these hardcore debates and defend things, It's very stressful for me.
Actually, knock-down drag-out fights are not God's way to evangelize and defend the faith:
2 Timothy 2:23-26
23 But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife.
24 And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient,
25 in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth,
26 and that they may come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him to do his will.
