- Dec 13, 2015
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So for those who don't know me from a pig in the mud I'll explain. I've been close online friends with somebody who is transgendered for the past 5 years or so. We've really become close and great friends and I generally can tell and ask him anything and naturally being a Christian myself I've tried to lead him to Christ over the last 5 years. He acknowledges that Jesus is the Messiah now but hasn't changed his ways or stopped transitioning which to me explains that he really doesn't have Jesus.
Long story short he cut off all ties with my wife and I and our Bible study group and i just learned that he attempted to harm himself and had to spend the last two months in a Psychiatric facility to get his meds straightened out and to make sure he doesnt try to harm himself again. During the first few weeks he had to be constantly watched over and was at high risk and they apparently have got his meds straightened out which is one reason why he had such a long stay this time. This wasn't the first time and probably won't be the last time that he's had to go away for a while. He's had a VERY hard life and my wife and i are really the only true friends he has.
This is the second time in the last five years that he has cut off all ties with us and if it ever happens again I will more than likely call the police in his area because he has proven that when he blocks and removes us from everywhere as friends that he's in a really dark and bad place. I know his name and what town he lives in and can figure out his address if I ever had to do so.
Now that God has graced me with his friendship again I don't want to give up on him or on his depression. I really think that if he had a genuine and deeper encounter with Jesus and if he gets on the right meds that my wife and I could really turn his life around and keep him out of the hospital and perhaps living a much more Jesus like life.
When he was in the hospital they adjusted his meds so he seems to have a much more positive outlook on life but i am concerned that if this happens again that he might not be around anymore or if something ever happened to me that he wouldnt be around anymore. he is the closest to me and I can't always be there to watch over him and look out for him and I want to do everything I can possibly do before I pass away and my service to Christ is over. Which, if I don't start taking care of myself might be sooner than any of us would ever want but my doctor and i are working on that.
Mostly I only care about him and don't want him to live like this. It saddens me everytime he goes on a drinking binge or everytime I have to tell him to stop sleeping with men and try to find a girlfriend. Despite my Christian views we always remain friends and we will probably be friends forever. But it's kind of awkward having conversations like this because he knows that God doesn't approve of these kinds of things and that I'm going to beg him to stop.
Idk, I'm waiting for God to continue working in his life I have seen him make fantastic strides only to fall again. I don't know what I can do or what I can say to make him understand just how much i care. But he does appreciate me which tbch, makes me feel good. But, at the same time it hurts me so much to see him like this. What can I do besides support him? Any ideas?
Long story short he cut off all ties with my wife and I and our Bible study group and i just learned that he attempted to harm himself and had to spend the last two months in a Psychiatric facility to get his meds straightened out and to make sure he doesnt try to harm himself again. During the first few weeks he had to be constantly watched over and was at high risk and they apparently have got his meds straightened out which is one reason why he had such a long stay this time. This wasn't the first time and probably won't be the last time that he's had to go away for a while. He's had a VERY hard life and my wife and i are really the only true friends he has.
This is the second time in the last five years that he has cut off all ties with us and if it ever happens again I will more than likely call the police in his area because he has proven that when he blocks and removes us from everywhere as friends that he's in a really dark and bad place. I know his name and what town he lives in and can figure out his address if I ever had to do so.
Now that God has graced me with his friendship again I don't want to give up on him or on his depression. I really think that if he had a genuine and deeper encounter with Jesus and if he gets on the right meds that my wife and I could really turn his life around and keep him out of the hospital and perhaps living a much more Jesus like life.
When he was in the hospital they adjusted his meds so he seems to have a much more positive outlook on life but i am concerned that if this happens again that he might not be around anymore or if something ever happened to me that he wouldnt be around anymore. he is the closest to me and I can't always be there to watch over him and look out for him and I want to do everything I can possibly do before I pass away and my service to Christ is over. Which, if I don't start taking care of myself might be sooner than any of us would ever want but my doctor and i are working on that.
Mostly I only care about him and don't want him to live like this. It saddens me everytime he goes on a drinking binge or everytime I have to tell him to stop sleeping with men and try to find a girlfriend. Despite my Christian views we always remain friends and we will probably be friends forever. But it's kind of awkward having conversations like this because he knows that God doesn't approve of these kinds of things and that I'm going to beg him to stop.
Idk, I'm waiting for God to continue working in his life I have seen him make fantastic strides only to fall again. I don't know what I can do or what I can say to make him understand just how much i care. But he does appreciate me which tbch, makes me feel good. But, at the same time it hurts me so much to see him like this. What can I do besides support him? Any ideas?