Why isnt God using me?

[ldibart]

hello.Maybe this will help,
Jesus promises he will finish the work he started in you, I never promised you personally would feel close. He IS as close as he always was and our walk with God was never about how close we feel God. The good we can take is the strongest Christians has felt alone. You understand Christ gave us an example of feeling alone when he was on the cross? This feeling you are having is a time in your life were you are growing This is actually a time when you can know God truly is working with you..you cannot make God any closer or further from you. did you make him come to you to save you?
did he not call you first while you were still dead to sins? He chose you in your worst state and drew near to you. You obviously want him ..your heart is for him ..

just accept that sometimes he wants us to move and grow and feel like we are on our own yet he watches with Joy and love he is our Father. you already are putting the effort and being on here IS like moving around getting advice from different Christians different sets of understanding IT is effort as well lol ..

Please have faith remember he came to us in our worst state so you need to look at this as part of your growing and gain faith through seeing that you reached a different level in your walk with God different may feel uncomfortable but he loves you!

 

[danstribe]

You're right I'm not trained to hear god..you are spot on about that. Its hard to keep talking to god when there's no answer coming back.... It just lowers your morale

First thing to understand is that God talks to you and everyone by His Word, it is not an audible voice or a "feeling", it is an understanding with your mind (also known as your spirit). If you want to "hear" God speak to you then read His words, saying them in your mind. He is using your inner voice to say His words, but if you won't read the bible then you won't hear His words. These Words are also Christ and by reading them in your mind they become a part of you...forever. You, on the other hand, talk to God through prayer and if you're not praying then you can't receive anything because you don't ask and still God says even if you ask but don't receive because you ask amiss, or you ask according to what you want and not what God wants for you. If you have left off attending church because you felt abused just remember how abused Christ was but He did not stop what He was doing. It's a difficult thing to find joy in suffering but God tells us to do just that, why? Because it means that God is using us! But make sure that our suffering is because we are striving to obey God and not because we are sinning. Everything I have written here is in God's Word the Bible but you have to read it for yourself for it to become a part of you. Ask God to correct you because He corrects those whom He loves and you are loved! Stop thinking of "ending it all" because that will not alleviate your suffering.

 

[JESUS=G.O.A.T]

Now you're being smart. Obviously I'm posting on a forum at this very moment but people like you who want to start stuff don't know I got up at 5am to pray you don't know how hard I've tried in the past and still today.

All you want to do is be a snarky smart alec....if that's all you want to do ...don't reply, its simple.

I don't need your mess. Stop acting like a 2 year old.

like I mentioned a while back... you chose to allow people to allow you to lose your salvation or backslide in a sense (assuming you were saved) by not reading and praying anymore. Who knows maybe if you endured until the end, or endured hardness as a good solider God maybe could have given you something by now(I hope I don't sound mean, just I come from a church that doesn't hold anything back so sort of inherited that I guess). You've heard answers from many on this thread and many have a similar answer...it's time to act. It's time to find a church that can help you.


I also suggest YouTube as well, churches online like capital community church or I also like new life apostolic church or just some good online channels in general are great and really can help you get back to knowing the word of God. You can find non denominational or whatever you're looking for online as well.


You've gotten more then enough insight now go out and get back in it. May God bless you on your return, or your start.

 

[rockytopva]

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[ToBeLoved]

You're right I'm not trained to hear god..you are spot on about that. Its hard to keep talking to god when there's no answer coming back.... It just lowers your morale

Try to remember that our time is not God's time. God does not tell us that He will address our prayers in whatever timeline we would like. Waiting on God builds faith. You must have faith in what God's Word tells us. That God will always hear our prayers and that God will provide answers. God doesn't say that it will be in our timing however. Faith is waiting and knowing there will be an answer.

If it is not 'critical' then I see no issue myself in waiting. I hope you also see this. Many things we think we absolutely need an answer to asap, can often wait and knowing that "God works all things for the good of those who love Him" we also know that we do not always understand God's timing, but that God has the 'big plan' and that faith is knowing that and trusting Him in that promise.

Does this help?

 

[ToBeLoved]

Going through life sober sucks...I wish I was a drunk so I could forget this night.

Facing sometimes our problems head on is difficult. But I would ask you to silently think about what you have been doing so far and if those things have been building your faith. We do not need to know your answer, this is for you to reflect on.

If you do not know what to pray for, I will try to help and pray with you. Please pray along. I hope that this edifies you and builds you up. God wants us to walk through the difficult times supporting each other, life is not an easy road with or without God, but it is definately better with God.

Dear Lord, I pray today for Far Side of the Moon and want to bring some of his/her problems to you and lay them before you at your throne. We lay them at your feet because You carrying our problems is a light load, our carrying them can be so heavy and weighs upon our hearts and minds. I ask you to help this person with the desire for alchohol, that you would lessen this desire in them and replace it with the desire to seek You and Your never ending love. That when this person feels that you are so far away and not answering their prayer, that they will feel Your love and peace in their heart and remember Your promise to us all that You work all things for the good of those who are Your Children. Please give them the patience and peace that once they have laid the problem down, not to pick it up again. We all want to pick it up again and it takes patience and learning to know to let it rest with You and to know that You are taking care of it. Fill their heart with Your love, so they know that your promise is true, You will never leave us or forsake us. That when they have problems that they will always turn to You and desire and pray for their own peace in their own heart, for You are the only one who gives peace beyond understanding. Place on their heart a desire to know you more, through Your Word and through prayer and worship, that they would find solace and comfort in Your promises and the goodness and love that You always have availble to them. That they would know, that each day is a walk with You and that You help us through this life. That with faith grows patience and trust, but that these things take time and that we need to put in the work each day to reach a point of peace. That peace, trust and faith grows each and every day. And not only do You walk with us always, but that our peace is also found by us walking each day with You. That You are our best friend, the one we can turn to who will always love us with a love that never ends. That You want to hear everything that we tell you. When we are happy and when we cry. You are are comfort in all and every situation we will ever be faced with. As a Child of God that their mind will be opened to what You really give us, that we are co-heirs with Christ to the Father, our Father who loves us so much that He gave His Only Begotten Son for us. To reconcile Himself back to us because Christ has taken all of our sin upon Himself to give each of us forgiveness in all the bad things we do. Knowing this, that when they fall, they know to repent and to get right back up because it is in the getting back up that we glorify You.

May each day be a blessing for them as they continue to find you and grow their faith. That you pass along every blessing to them and that they realize all that they have found in You. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.

 

[John Hyperspace]

This is something I've been thinking about. I've been saved for 6 years ...but I had a bad church experience ..however at least while I was there I was able to do somethings like help at a soup kitchen and plan our next outreach stuff..but I left bc of the disrespect... Sometimes I just want to crawl back because even though I wasn't being treated right..at least I was being useful and doing something. I loved doing that and it gave my life meaning...

Now I'm just sitting here... ( no I cat volunteer or anything until I get my license which is what I'm working on) like I don't really pray...because its just me praying and I don't hear God at all...I just wonder why? Why the silence...why am I not being used? Why am I just sitting here?

It would be perfect for me to devout my life to God bc I have no husband or friends to get in the way ( I would be a nun but I don't like closed spaces and I know that's not my calling) but God doesn't speak back, and I don't know why.... I'm willing... But I'm starting to lose hope....

And if you're wondering yes, I've been baptised in water and the holy spirit...so I don't know why God is so far away and so behind the scenes in my lifw,,, I justdont know...

It makes me feel bad and it makes me wonder if he likes me at all ...old just feeling down.

He is. You just aren't able to understand it yet. You can't see the effect from the cause; nor understand which is which, or, how to perceive either: but He does. Wait until the curtain comes up, then you'll see what He did with you.

 

[quartzy]

I think that it would help for you to get involved in the community, different churches until you find the most suitable one for you. Get a bus if you do not have a car. I dont know if you work but if you do not you could volunteer. It sounds like you are feeling very low but God is there just waiting for your prayers and conversations with him.

 

[Frank Lo]

This is something I've been thinking about. I've been saved for 6 years ...but I had a bad church experience ..however at least while I was there I was able to do somethings like help at a soup kitchen and plan our next outreach stuff..but I left bc of the disrespect... Sometimes I just want to crawl back because even though I wasn't being treated right..at least I was being useful and doing something. I loved doing that and it gave my life meaning...

Now I'm just sitting here... ( no I cat volunteer or anything until I get my license which is what I'm working on) like I don't really pray...because its just me praying and I don't hear God at all...I just wonder why? Why the silence...why am I not being used? Why am I just sitting here?

It would be perfect for me to devout my life to God bc I have no husband or friends to get in the way ( I would be a nun but I don't like closed spaces and I know that's not my calling) but God doesn't speak back, and I don't know why.... I'm willing... But I'm starting to lose hope....

And if you're wondering yes, I've been baptised in water and the holy spirit...so I don't know why God is so far away and so behind the scenes in my lifw,,, I justdont know...

It makes me feel bad and it makes me wonder if he likes me at all ...old just feeling down.

Simple he talked to you before and you didn't follow him. so now get to a spirit filled church, like Guillermo Maldonado, get in touch with https://www.amazon.com/Hearing-Gods-Voice-Susie-Scarrella-ebook/dp/B01H7TBLRC

Prey in toucges and do the frst thing it comes to your mind

 

[marineimaging]

This is something I've been thinking about. I've been saved for 6 years ...but I had a bad church experience ..however at least while I was there I was able to do somethings like help at a soup kitchen and plan our next outreach stuff..but I left bc of the disrespect... Sometimes I just want to crawl back because even though I wasn't being treated right..at least I was being useful and doing something. I loved doing that and it gave my life meaning...

Now I'm just sitting here... ( no I cat volunteer or anything until I get my license which is what I'm working on) like I don't really pray...because its just me praying and I don't hear God at all...I just wonder why? Why the silence...why am I not being used? Why am I just sitting here?

It would be perfect for me to devout my life to God bc I have no husband or friends to get in the way ( I would be a nun but I don't like closed spaces and I know that's not my calling) but God doesn't speak back, and I don't know why.... I'm willing... But I'm starting to lose hope....

And if you're wondering yes, I've been baptised in water and the holy spirit...so I don't know why God is so far away and so behind the scenes in my lifw,,, I justdont know...

It makes me feel bad and it makes me wonder if he likes me at all ...old just feeling down.

You simply need to gut up, step out, and start doing what the Word of God says. There is no magic, no voices needed. Through Christ, through Paul, through the Gospels God has described what charity is, what love is, what you should do in order to be a part of the family of God. Go do it and don't worry about hearing if it is right or not. It is all in the written Word. Just do it.

 

[eternity75]

Hi Far Side,

I identify with how you feel in many ways. I know how difficult it can be. I'd like to offer a few suggestions. For one, John 4:8 says "Draw near to God and he will draw near to you". You say you don't really pray, how can you develop a relationship with someone you don't speak to? God stands at the door and knocks, he nudges us gently and draws us to him, he whispers quietly to us with that still small voice. But many of us aren't listening, and many of us aren't talking to him (praying). God wants a relationship with us, and every relationship has to go both ways. I had a hard time with praying as well. I always thought that I had to "do certain things" in prayer. I had to be on my knees, I had to beg and plead for mercy and forgiveness and praise God over and over. Then I realized it doesn't have to be this way. God is my father. I am made in his image. And while I SHOULD praise him and I should be asking for his mercy and forgiveness, I should also be doing this in a natural way that develops a relationship with God. So now, I just talk to him like I would talk to a father, mother or best most trusted friend. I tell him my concerns and fears, when I see something beautiful or appreciate a warm summer day or the beauty of the full moon I thank him for it, I thank him for creating it, I am awed by it and grateful for it. I ask for his help when I am struggling. I ask him to help me listen for his still small voice...sometimes when I am frustrated with not hearing I ask him why he can't just yell at me so I GET IT! lol Anyways, I treat it more like a conversation throughout my day as things happen, rather than a forced "Have to get my hourly prayer session in at the start or end of my day" thing. And it feel more natural, more like a relationship, easier to do.

The other thing about prayer is that I have realized I was praying the wrong way. I used to pray like I had to beg for what I wanted or needed and there was almost an underlying expectation that I wouldn't get it because maybe it wasn't God's will. But that is not what the Bible teaches us. We are told to pray with expectation and faith in Jesus' name that we will receive what we are asking for, and believing we will receive it and that God will supply our every need. God doesn't lie. As long as you are focused on him, and what is good, he will supply your every need.

Psalm 5:3 In the morning, O Lord, you hear my voice. In the morning I lay my requests before you and wait in expectation.
Mark 11:24 Whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them.

I think more than anything this is a huge exercise in faith. Expecting and believing that God will answer our prayers and then just patiently waiting and TRUSTING in him to do so- that is hard work, especially when we live in a world of microwaves, fast food, and instant online banking. We often tend to give up so quickly and believe the answer was no, instead of hanging in there and trusting that God is working on it. So now when I pray for things, whenever I begin to get frustrated in waiting or questioning where it is, I try to remind myself that God is working on it. You are God's work of art. He is molding and shaping you into someone that will fit into his plan for you both now and in the future. He could have the most wonderful things in store for you, but what he may require to get you there is patience and persistence- not giving up on him and trusting that he does have a purpose for you, that he hears you and your prayers are being answered.

Now as far as you feeling lonely and without purpose, I have a couple more suggestions. First of all, if you previously spent a lot of time with your mom and now you're not because she's been busy with your dad, maybe you could try talking to her and letting her know you miss the time you spent together and perhaps you could suggest a girls night out one night a week or every second week or something. Your mom can't read your mind, and honestly so many young people your age have little to no desire to spend time with their parents and would rather be out having fun with friends or something. Maybe your mom thinks you are better off now that she's spending more time with your dad. Maybe she felt she was holding you back from spending time with other people your age or doing other things. I'm sure she has no idea how you feel and if she did she would make every effort to spend more time with you as well.

Also you could try joining a Christian meetup group or starting one of your own to make new friends and get out more. There are tons of great groups on meetup, some of which are Christian groups. I am part of a few groups myself and many times people without a vehicle will just post a message to the group on the meetup page they are interested in to pay some gas money in exchange for a ride to the activity they are interested in attending. You could even try this with volunteering. Maybe contact a volunteer organization you are interested in and let them know you'd like to volunteer but wondered if there is anyone who could help with transportation to the soup kitchen or wherever it is you are interested in volunteering.

Anyways, hang in there. Don't give up on God. I promise he hears you and he isn't giving up on you either!

 

[LoveofTruth]

like I don't really pray...because its just me praying and I don't hear God at all..

Talk to God all the time from a sincere heart he does hear you. Walk before him with a clean conscience and he hears in faith.

take a walk with Him maybe into a garden or park, tell him all things. Build up that intimate relationship. Always examine yourself if there is sin and other issues . But if not them in faith he hears.

Without prayer ( talking to God and communing with him) nothing starts. Prayer shows faith and reliance on God. Listen for that still small voice. It might be an impression or words, scripture comes often, a gentle leading .

 

[ynneb]

EDITED: It was just a bitter rant that wasn't very helpful to anyone really. Sorry.

 

[David Film]

This is something I've been thinking about. I've been saved for 6 years ...but I had a bad church experience ..however at least while I was there I was able to do somethings like help at a soup kitchen and plan our next outreach stuff..but I left bc of the disrespect... Sometimes I just want to crawl back because even though I wasn't being treated right..at least I was being useful and doing something. I loved doing that and it gave my life meaning...

Now I'm just sitting here... ( no I cat volunteer or anything until I get my license which is what I'm working on) like I don't really pray...because its just me praying and I don't hear God at all...I just wonder why? Why the silence...why am I not being used? Why am I just sitting here?

It would be perfect for me to devout my life to God bc I have no husband or friends to get in the way ( I would be a nun but I don't like closed spaces and I know that's not my calling) but God doesn't speak back, and I don't know why.... I'm willing... But I'm starting to lose hope....

And if you're wondering yes, I've been baptised in water and the holy spirit...so I don't know why God is so far away and so behind the scenes in my lifw,,, I justdont know...

It makes me feel bad and it makes me wonder if he likes me at all ...old just feeling down.

Reply:
Don't beat yourself over the head with guilt. I've been in the same situation, wondering where He is. Churches around here will not invite me to speak. I feel beat down, but am finding out that the "beating" is coming from the Pharisiacal attitude of "Churchianity" not God! Just worship Him. I listen to Terry Macalmon all the time. Get his CD's on Ebay or Amazon....closest to Heaven of anything I have ever heard. I want to join some monestary, but have my own right here!

Hang in there. He has a plan. But there is a falling away, and the hearts of many have grown cold. And satan wants YOU to feel that YOU are on a shelf. Check my stuff out at www.TrueNotes.2Truth.com
David Film

 

[BukiRob]

This is something I've been thinking about. I've been saved for 6 years ...but I had a bad church experience ..however at least while I was there I was able to do somethings like help at a soup kitchen and plan our next outreach stuff..but I left bc of the disrespect... Sometimes I just want to crawl back because even though I wasn't being treated right..at least I was being useful and doing something. I loved doing that and it gave my life meaning...

Now I'm just sitting here... ( no I cat volunteer or anything until I get my license which is what I'm working on) like I don't really pray...because its just me praying and I don't hear God at all...I just wonder why? Why the silence...why am I not being used? Why am I just sitting here?

It would be perfect for me to devout my life to God bc I have no husband or friends to get in the way ( I would be a nun but I don't like closed spaces and I know that's not my calling) but God doesn't speak back, and I don't know why.... I'm willing... But I'm starting to lose hope....

And if you're wondering yes, I've been baptised in water and the holy spirit...so I don't know why God is so far away and so behind the scenes in my lifw,,, I justdont know...

It makes me feel bad and it makes me wonder if he likes me at all ...old just feeling down.

Sure seems like you are hyper focused on "feelings" Much of what ails this generation is a fixation on feelings. Feelings are not rational. Feels can change with out reason or rationale.

You dont pray you say well how on earth do you expect G-d to relate to you if you dont engage in prayer? People read scripture and think "Oh man look at how much G-d used Abraham" YEARS of Abraham's life would pass with G-d being silent....

You either trust and believe G-d (That is after all what FAITH is) or you dont. Get in his word. Read, study, learn.... G-d will speak through his Word to you. Stop seeking attention which is a big part of what you are really saying in your post... Yeshua said if you want to be great in the kingdom the serve. Offer to clean the sanctuary. Offer to clean the bathrooms.... Stop seeking "glory"

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Sure seems like you are hyper focused on "feelings" Much of what ails this generation is a fixation on feelings. Feelings are not rational. Feels can change with out reason or rationale.

You dont pray you say well how on earth do you expect G-d to relate to you if you dont engage in prayer? People read scripture and think "Oh man look at how much G-d used Abraham" YEARS of Abraham's life would pass with G-d being silent....

You either trust and believe G-d (That is after all what FAITH is) or you dont. Get in his word. Read, study, learn.... G-d will speak through his Word to you. Stop seeking attention which is a big part of what you are really saying in your post... Yeshua said if you want to be great in the kingdom the serve. Offer to clean the sanctuary. Offer to clean the bathrooms.... Stop seeking "glory"

I'm not seeking glory. You guys really are hurting more than your helping...its not about feelings...its about hearing. Scripture says his sheep hear his voice...

I'm not trying 5o seek attention...again like I told another person,... You don't have to reply, you really don't if you're just going to accuse me

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

You simply need to gut up, step out, and start doing what the Word of God says. There is no magic, no voices needed. Through Christ, through Paul, through the Gospels God has described what charity is, what love is, what you should do in order to be a part of the family of God. Go do it and don't worry about hearing if it is right or not. It is all in the written Word. Just do it.

Scripture says my sheep hear my voice...there's a difference when you do things in the flesh and when God leads you. When God leads you...you don't need to try a million times.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

like I mentioned a while back... you chose to allow people to allow you to lose your salvation or backslide in a sense (assuming you were saved) by not reading and praying anymore. Who knows maybe if you endured until the end, or endured hardness as a good solider God maybe could have given you something by now(I hope I don't sound mean, just I come from a church that doesn't hold anything back so sort of inherited that I guess). You've heard answers from many on this thread and many have a similar answer...it's time to act. It's time to find a church that can help you.


I also suggest YouTube as well, churches online like capital community church or I also like new life apostolic church or just some good online channels in general are great and really can help you get back to knowing the word of God. You can find non denominational or whatever you're looking for online as well.


You've gotten more then enough insight now go out and get back in it. May God bless you on your return, or your start.

I personally rebuke " tough love" I came from a church that did that ..and it was just an exscuse to be mean. Not going there again.

1) I don't like how you assume I wasn't saved..I was and still am

2) I don't know if you've experienced what I have but if you haven't of course its easy for you to yell on the side lines to just get over it...anyone could do that.

 

[Serving Zion]

You're right I'm not trained to hear god..you are spot on about that.

This is what you really need to fix. Once you get to know God, then He will guide you. I first started hearing God's voice when I was reading the bible, and then I came to recognise His voice when He speaks to me outside of the bible too.

Do you recognise God's voice when you read the bible?

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

This is what you really need to fix. Once you get to know God, then He will guide you. I first started hearing God's voice when I was reading the bible, and then I came to recognise His voice when He speaks to me outside of the bible too.

Do you recognise God's voice when you read the bible?

I guess ill just read more.