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This is something I've been thinking about. I've been saved for 6 years ...but I had a bad church experience ..however at least while I was there I was able to do somethings like help at a soup kitchen and plan our next outreach stuff..but I left bc of the disrespect... Sometimes I just want to crawl back because even though I wasn't being treated right..at least I was being useful and doing something. I loved doing that and it gave my life meaning...

Now I'm just sitting here... ( no I cat volunteer or anything until I get my license which is what I'm working on) like I don't really pray...because its just me praying and I don't hear God at all...I just wonder why? Why the silence...why am I not being used? Why am I just sitting here?

It would be perfect for me to devout my life to God bc I have no husband or friends to get in the way ( I would be a nun but I don't like closed spaces and I know that's not my calling) but God doesn't speak back, and I don't know why.... I'm willing... But I'm starting to lose hope....

And if you're wondering yes, I've been baptised in water and the holy spirit...so I don't know why God is so far away and so behind the scenes in my lifw,,, I justdont know...

It makes me feel bad and it makes me wonder if he likes me at all ...old just feeling down.


When you say baptized in holy spirit what do you mean? (I guess a better question would be what is your faith I guess).

Also we don't always hear from God on everything, but if you haven't heard him in years or something... or months... or even weeks... that's serious, would examine yourself and find out why. Thoughts of wanting to be drunk isn't a good sign either. But yeah just take time to evaluate yourself.

Also there is this...

4 For as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same office:

5 So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another.

6 Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, whether prophecy, let us prophesy according to the proportion of faith;

7 Or ministry, let us wait on our ministering: or he that teacheth, on teaching;

8 Or he that exhorteth, on exhortation: he that giveth, let him do it with simplicity; he that ruleth, with diligence; he that sheweth mercy, with cheerfulness.



Explanation: Maybe you fit verse 8 where you're not called to like preach or anything but God still has a purpose for you outside of a position in a church and there's nothing wrong with that. May be easy for me to say.. since
 
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Going through life sober sucks...I wish I was a drunk so I could forget this night.
<staff edit>God is knocking at your door, don't "ignore" it... Harness it, use it...

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"Get up! Pick up you cot and walk sister..."

God Bless!
 
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Going through life sober sucks...I wish I was a drunk so I could forget this night.
If you were a drunk, tonight might be forgettable, but on the other hand, tomorrow would be a lot worse because of tonight. :)
 
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@Far Side Of the Moon :

Please listen. You're here. You found us. Try to reach out to others, and get on the Prayer Wall and ask for prayer help there. Also, you can talk privately to the Chaplains. They helped me and they will help you too!

Don't give up and please, just for tonight, open your Bible to Psalms and just pick a short one to think about.

Then pray the Lord's Prayer, go to sleep, and wake up in the morning with the Lord's Prayer again. Then come here and I strongly urge you to speak to the Chaplains.

Will you do that please?

I'm praying for you.
 
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This is something I've been thinking about. I've been saved for 6 years ...but I had a bad church experience ..however at least while I was there I was able to do somethings like help at a soup kitchen and plan our next outreach stuff..but I left bc of the disrespect... Sometimes I just want to crawl back because even though I wasn't being treated right..at least I was being useful and doing something. I loved doing that and it gave my life meaning...

Now I'm just sitting here... ( no I cat volunteer or anything until I get my license which is what I'm working on) like I don't really pray...because its just me praying and I don't hear God at all...I just wonder why? Why the silence...why am I not being used? Why am I just sitting here?

It would be perfect for me to devout my life to God bc I have no husband or friends to get in the way ( I would be a nun but I don't like closed spaces and I know that's not my calling) but God doesn't speak back, and I don't know why.... I'm willing... But I'm starting to lose hope....

And if you're wondering yes, I've been baptised in water and the holy spirit...so I don't know why God is so far away and so behind the scenes in my lifw,,, I justdont know...

It makes me feel bad and it makes me wonder if he likes me at all ...old just feeling down.

Perhaps you are not yet prepared for service to others. Perhaps you need some more experience, or even help yourself. "If the blind lead the blind won't they both fall into the ditch?"
 
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When you say baptized in holy spirit what do you mean? (I guess a better question would be what is your faith I guess).

Also we don't always hear from God on everything, but if you haven't heard him in years or something... or months... or even weeks... that's serious, would examine yourself and find out why. Thoughts of wanting to be drunk isn't a good sign either. But yeah just take time to evaluate yourself.

Also there is this...

4 For as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same office:

5 So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another.

6 Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, whether prophecy, let us prophesy according to the proportion of faith;

7 Or ministry, let us wait on our ministering: or he that teacheth, on teaching;

8 Or he that exhorteth, on exhortation: he that giveth, let him do it with simplicity; he that ruleth, with diligence; he that sheweth mercy, with cheerfulness.



Explanation: Maybe you fit verse 8 where you're not called to like preach or anything but God still has a purpose for you outside of a position in a church and there's nothing wrong with that. May be easy for me to say.. since
I left my church bc I was tired of being disrespected... I also stopped reading and praying..because of that event,,, its just hard to read when all I think of is how my pastor was mean to me...makes me feel like shxt...

But that's what's wrong its a big block in my spirituality..in fact it hindered my faith...I tried to apologize to the person when it was their fault and it only made it worse.
 
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I left my church bc I was tired of being disrespected... I also stopped reading and praying..because of that event,,, its just hard to read when all I think of is how my pastor was mean to me...makes me feel like shxt...

But that's what's wrong its a big block in my spirituality..in fact it hindered my faith...I tried to apologize to the person when it was their fault and it only made it worse.


I left my church bc I was tired of being disrespected

My Response: TBH might have been something wrong with the church then. Not every "church" is a temple of God. No one should be treated bad like that.

I also stopped reading and praying..because of that event,

My Response: This is most likely a major component of the problem not including what happened with your church. Prayer literally is communication with God... many people lose their salvation because they stop praying. If you look at the major men of God like Moses and David and such they really sought God. Trust me prayer helps.

Another thing though not everyone is called for the same thing, I competed in debate for years so I had a speaking ability God allowed me to gain in order to prepare me for a calling to minister. God maybe allowed someone to go through poverty to prepare for a calling to reach those in need. God has something for everyone so remember this and seek God with an open heart, rather then ask for certain things that maybe he doesn't' have in store for you. He doesn't want 20 people on the pulpit, or 20 evangelist, or 20 deacons or this and that, not everyone is meant to be a leader of this or that. Some are meant to simply go out and reach other people. Some people are meant to be "Stephens" rather than "Peter's" or "Paul's" of their church. And stephen and idr who else some other disciple mainly helped widows, sure they weren't the most popular as a result...but what they did really expanded the ministry his role was just as important. The usher is just as important as the pastor. The member just as important as the minister.


Also you made one huge...mistake... you stopped reading which is a major mistake to make in this day and age. We have to know the word of God today where there is so much falseness and trickery. Also logically if you want to do something as you seek to do you gotta know the word of God or you can't help anyone.





But that's what's wrong its a big block in my spirituality..in fact it hindered my faith...I tried to apologize to the person when it was their fault and it only made it worse.

My Response: I don't want to be the one to say this...but it might help you some. There's a reason the bible says save yourself. If you allowed someone to prevent you from praying to God and reading the bible it's your fault. My brother did the same and now isn't saved right now, he allowed friends to get to him and convince him it doesn't take all that.

It's a 50/50 thing the experience/person attacked you but you allowed it to prevail.
 
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I left my church bc I was tired of being disrespected... I also stopped reading and praying..because of that event,,, its just hard to read when all I think of is how my pastor was mean to me...makes me feel like shxt...

But that's what's wrong its a big block in my spirituality..in fact it hindered my faith...I tried to apologize to the person when it was their fault and it only made it worse.


one last thing though then ima go to bed


They that endureth until the end the same shall be saved!!!

Endure hardness as a good soldier!!!

That's another problem.. you want an anointing and God to use you but in order to receive that trust me it takes a lot. I'm young sure...but I started early and IK what it takes. Salvation is free but the bible indicates an anointing/calling isn't. An anointing=approval of God and he ordains you to preach or do this or that. You gotta pray morning and night, you gotta read, you gotta fast. Think about the parable of the people with talents, God gave some men more talents because he knew they could handle more weight. Consider this... maybe you can't handle what you desire, or maybe you will be able to in time after you go through a rebuilding phase or start again in your prayer/bible life.


GOd bless
 
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This is something I've been thinking about. I've been saved for 6 years ...but I had a bad church experience ..however at least while I was there I was able to do somethings like help at a soup kitchen and plan our next outreach stuff..but I left bc of the disrespect... Sometimes I just want to crawl back because even though I wasn't being treated right..at least I was being useful and doing something. I loved doing that and it gave my life meaning...

Now I'm just sitting here... ( no I cat volunteer or anything until I get my license which is what I'm working on) like I don't really pray...because its just me praying and I don't hear God at all...I just wonder why? Why the silence...why am I not being used? Why am I just sitting here?

It would be perfect for me to devout my life to God bc I have no husband or friends to get in the way ( I would be a nun but I don't like closed spaces and I know that's not my calling) but God doesn't speak back, and I don't know why.... I'm willing... But I'm starting to lose hope....

And if you're wondering yes, I've been baptised in water and the holy spirit...so I don't know why God is so far away and so behind the scenes in my lifw,,, I justdont know...

It makes me feel bad and it makes me wonder if he likes me at all ...old just feeling down.


It may be that the Lord has brought you to this place in the wilderness to refine you. Spend time in prayer and in his word and do not stop until you hear clearly and he WILL speak to you. There is a reason you left, and I believe the Lord had you be an example of integrity or even another reason. Do not give up, trust me, the Lord is not done with you he is just getting started.
 
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I left my church bc I was tired of being disrespected... I also stopped reading and praying..because of that event,,, its just hard to read when all I think of is how my pastor was mean to me...makes me feel like shxt...


We follow Jesus not men. Men will fail you and unfortunately there seem to be more bad pastors out there than good ones. I know what you mean, I too went through very hurtful times but I never held the Lord responsible for it and I chose to hold tighter to Jesus now more than ever. I pray your faith will be renewed and your first love restored.
 
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We follow Jesus not men. Men will fail you and unfortunately there seem to be more bad pastors out there than good ones. I know what you mean, I too went through very hurtful times but I never held the Lord responsible for it and I chose to hold tighter to Jesus now more than ever. I pray your faith will be renewed and your first love restored.
Hopefully I find the strength to trust god the way you do.
 
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This is something I've been thinking about. I've been saved for 6 years ...but I had a bad church experience ..however at least while I was there I was able to do somethings like help at a soup kitchen and plan our next outreach stuff..but I left bc of the disrespect... Sometimes I just want to crawl back because even though I wasn't being treated right..at least I was being useful and doing something. I loved doing that and it gave my life meaning...

Now I'm just sitting here... ( no I cat volunteer or anything until I get my license which is what I'm working on) like I don't really pray...because its just me praying and I don't hear God at all...I just wonder why? Why the silence...why am I not being used? Why am I just sitting here?

It would be perfect for me to devout my life to God bc I have no husband or friends to get in the way ( I would be a nun but I don't like closed spaces and I know that's not my calling) but God doesn't speak back, and I don't know why.... I'm willing... But I'm starting to lose hope....

And if you're wondering yes, I've been baptised in water and the holy spirit...so I don't know why God is so far away and so behind the scenes in my lifw,,, I justdont know...

It makes me feel bad and it makes me wonder if he likes me at all ...old just feeling down.

Peace be with you.

How are you?

It is my Hope that you will live your Life fruitfully with Jesus Christ being your Shepherd and you being His Sheep.


This is your question:

Why isnt God using me?

The answer to your question is here:

If it's my life then nobody gonna tell me how to live it

Do those words look familiar to you?


There are a few sayings and they go something like this:

If you suck in God's Ways, find a way to not suck in God's Ways.

If you suck at Life, find a way to not suck in life.

If you don't know God's Ways, find someone that does and learn from that person.

If you suck in Life, find someone who understands Life and learn from that person.

To learn, you have to empty yourself so that you are not full of yourself. Because if you are full of yourself, you will only know your ways and see life through your eyes.

If you want God to use you, you have to at the very least show interest in Him and His Ways.

You are not showing interest in Him or His Ways by doing this:

I had a bad experience in Church. My Pastor disrespected me so I am abandoning God. I have abandoned The Word and Prayer. It's the Pastor's fault. It's not my fault.

If you know the Gospels, you will see that Pastors of His generation wanted to Stone Him, called Him a Blasphemer, wanted to kill Him but Jesus Christ still went about His Business doing God's Will and bringing Faith, Hope, Love and Miracles to whoever wanted to Listen to Him and Approach Him in Faith.

I hope God Blesses you with so Much Faith, Hope and Love in your heart that it grows Bigger and Stronger so that you can Serve the Lord and everyone who will need your Love.


God bless you, Dear Child and Lady.
 
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Peace be with you.

How are you?

It is my Hope that you will live your Life fruitfully with Jesus Christ being your Shepherd and you being His Sheep.


This is your question:

Why isnt God using me?

The answer to your question is here:

If it's my life then nobody gonna tell me how to live it

Do those words look familiar to you?


There are a few sayings and they go something like this:

If you suck in God's Ways, find a way to not suck in God's Ways.

If you suck at Life, find a way to not suck in life.

If you don't know God's Ways, find someone that does and learn from that person.

If you suck in Life, find someone who understands Life and learn from that person.

To learn, you have to empty yourself so that you are not full of yourself. Because if you are full of yourself, you will only know your ways and see life through your eyes.

If you want God to use you, you have to at the very least show interest in Him and His Ways.

You are not showing interest in Him or His Ways by doing this:

I had a bad experience in Church. My Pastor disrespected me so I am abandoning God. I have abandoned The Word and Prayer. It's the Pastor's fault. It's not my fault.

If you know the Gospels, you will see that Pastors of His generation wanted to Stone Him, called Him a Blasphemer, wanted to kill Him but Jesus Christ still went about His Business doing God's Will and bringing Faith, Hope, Love and Miracles to whoever wanted to Listen to Him and Approach Him in Faith.

I hope God Blesses you with so Much Faith, Hope and Love in your heart that it grows Bigger and Stronger so that you can Serve the Lord and everyone who will need your Love.


God bless you, Dear Child and Lady.
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1 Moreover Job continued his parable, and said,
2 Oh that I were as in months past, as in the days when God preserved me;
3 When his candle shined upon my head, and when by his light I walked through darkness;
4 As I was in the days of my youth, when the secret of God was upon my tabernacle;
5 When the Almighty was yet with me, when my children were about me; - Job 29

Study! How did this man use his faith? How did he do well! Find out his secrets! Those who have these secrets can go from rags to riches very quickly!
 
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Smith Wigglesworth went from ordinary plumber to major man of God...
RW Schambach went from boil maker to major man of God....

There is a great deal that a common everyday man can do for God!

 
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1 Moreover Job continued his parable, and said,
2 Oh that I were as in months past, as in the days when God preserved me;
3 When his candle shined upon my head, and when by his light I walked through darkness;
4 As I was in the days of my youth, when the secret of God was upon my tabernacle;
5 When the Almighty was yet with me, when my children were about me; - Job 29

Study! How did this man use his faith? How did he do well! Find out his secrets! Those who have these secrets can go from rags to riches very quickly!
I don't need riches just for god to let me know he's here with me physically. That's all.
 
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