True but he gives everyone a different measure of grace and that can be seen in people's lives. One person may have a good upbringing, friends, married and still have God. The other abused, lonely, struggling. Why the difference? why would God give one person more blessings and favor than the other. Yes God died for all but the first person I mention has that and a bit more. (Both people are real life examples)
Also, that scripture I mentioned wasn't explained (He has mercy on whom ever he wills) Is that why some people have bad lives and others good lives?
Romans 9:16-18 can be read wrongfully from a Calvinistic perspective.
It says:
“So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy. For the scripture saith unto Pharaoh, Even for this same purpose have I raised thee up, that I might shew my power in thee, and that my name might be declared throughout all the earth. Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he will he hardeneth.” (Romans 9:16-18).
Who or what is this passage in context to? The Jews who rejected their Messiah, and who hold to a false works ALONE based system of religion that did not include being saved by God's grace through Jesus Christ.
“I say the truth in Christ, I lie not, my conscience also bearing me witness in the Holy Ghost, That I have great heaviness and continual sorrow in my heart. For I could wish that myself were accursed from Christ for my brethren, my kinsmen according to the flesh: Who are Israelites; to whom pertaineth the adoption, and the glory, and the covenants, and the giving of the law, and the service of God, and the promises; Whose are the fathers, and of whom as concerning the flesh Christ came, who is over all, God blessed for ever. Amen.” (Romans 9:1-5).
This is the context in reference to who Paul is talking about. He is not referring to any kind of Calvinistic perspective.
Calvinism in my view is as about as bad as believing in a Flat Earth. There is no evidence for it whatsoever. Sure, certain verses can be ripped out of context to defend Calvinism (like
Romans 9), but that does not make it true. Take for example the story of Jonah. Jonah preached that the Ninevites were going to be destroyed in 40 days. But that did not happen. Why? It was because they cried out unto God (i.e. sought forgiveness with Him), and the had forsaken their evil ways. In fact,
Jonah 3 tells us that when God had seen that the Ninevites had forsaken their wickedness, that is when He decided to no longer bring wrath or judgment upon them anymore. So it was the Ninevites changing the situation and it was not God electing them to salvation or electing them to reprobation. Calvinism is crazier than a bag of cats. Why would God give us commands if we are elected to be a certain way? My Bible says draw near to God and he will draw near to you.
Genesis 6 talks about how God was grieved by those who commited sin during Noah's time. Why would God be grieved with His own choice to make them reprobate? These things do not sound consistent with Calvinism. In fact, many of these statements are made in the Bible that you have to actually take a black magic marker and cross out tons of verses like these in order to make Calvinism work.
Take for example 2 Thessalonians 2:10. It says:
“And with all deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish; because they received not the love of the truth, that they might be saved.” (2 Thessalonians 2:10).
What is the reason why certain folks in this above verse are perishing? Is it because God did not elect them to salvation? No. Those who are perishing are doing so because they received not the love of the truth that they MIGHT be saved. So there is a possibility that they can be saved. 2 Thessalonians 2:10 uses the word MIGHT in relation to being saved. In Calvinism, there is no such thing as MIGHT be saved. So we have to look at the whole counsel of God's Word and not just read verses like Romans 9:16-18 out of context. This is why you may be angry at God right now. But you are not angry at the God of the Bible. The God of the Bible does not teach Calvinism.