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Well, when it's your time, it's your time...

I woke up to a message this morning from a young woman I have been dating for a little while, which said she's happy and very excited that we're now officially a couple. It feels weird and very alien to me after so many years being happy, content and fulfilled as a single man to type this out, but when I think about how similar we are (both love to travel, both fiercely independent, neither of us needy - or in a rush) it does make sense.

It's bittersweet in a way, because there was a woman last year who I built something with (that I thought had a chance) that will now never come to fruition. Unfortunately, her fear, constant blowing hot and cold, and lack of empathy towards me won out in the end. But, this woman now is a natural fit, and balances out my oftentimes stoic nature with empathy, kindness and tolerance (because I can be a bit of a miserable git sometimes :tearsofjoy:)

Sad though it is to close the door on something, you absolutely have to when the bet has no chance of coming off. I couldn't imagine gambling away this bond now to stake it on mission impossible (I'm not stupid.) I was deluding myself for such a long time, that it's a relief to finally end the chapter and move on. (I know what you're thinking, but no - absolutely no infidelities have been committed on my part.)

We went to a Thai festival yesterday - she's Thai, so it goes without saying I learned a lot about all of these different foods I would have never thought to try, and the chemistry was undeniable.

Of course, I'm no spring chicken, I'm nearly 34 and understand what comes next - a lot of challenges to overcome and some compromises to be made, but she's already given me the green light to continue travelling alone and to take care of my busy schedule first and foremost, so we're off to a strong start.

She's been single for almost as long as me, so we've both got a lot of getting used to. That said, we've been brutally honest with each other since day one, so I think we know how to ease each other in.

You're the first people to find out. Not even my own friends or family know yet - haha, they're going to think I'm joking.
 
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