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What would you tell yourself...........

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I would tell myself to listen much more and talk much less.

And I would prioritize finding a Godly man early in life. Bad marriages with unGodly people lead to many, many problems, especially once one has children. It's a lifelong commitment with someone who is nothing like who you truly are and believes not as you believe. It's brutal.

....excruciating....our marriage can be the very cross that we are called to carry for Him. ;) The Lord in His foreknowledge has gone before us. Be encouraged in the Lord, knowing that He is working it all together for your good my sister. This life will be over soon enough and then we will find that it has all been more than worth it, and who knows but that we may save our husbands.
 
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I am 57 and would not boast of my age, for wisdom does not come merely by living. Wisdom may come by studying long and following good advise. Studying the NT is an opportunity one should not miss. If you would want to be healthy, seek information about nutrition, exercise and health. If you would want to end loneliness, be harmless as a dove and meet with others. If you would want to be trusted, learn to be honest and sharing. If you would want God to save you, learn how to find agreement with God. Sometimes I found I was not getting prayers answered because I was not seeking God first. Other times I noticed I had been led to witness miracles.

Jesus taught, in Matthew 7:7 Ask, and it will be given you. Seek, and you will find. Knock, and it will be opened for you. 8 For everyone who asks receives. He who seeks finds. To him who knocks it will be opened. 9 Or who is there among you, who, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, who will give him a serpent? 11 If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!

Some may not have much money, but they have time. Time wisely spent brings improvements. A good course of study will lead to pages beyond the few pages in the Bible.
 
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Some may not have much money, but they have time. Time wisely spent brings improvements. A good course of study will lead to pages beyond the few pages in the Bible.
This is a good one.

We are shepherds of God's gifts to us and one of them is our time.
 
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This question is for those with a little age and experience in life, those people that have been there, done that and got the T-shirt. I am in my 40's, and I am interested in ANY wisdom given, I wanna treasure and make use of every day of my life to the fullest. What would you tell your 40 something-year-old self if you could turn back time? Doesn't matter what it is, or what it's about, what would you tell yourself? Are there any life changes you would warn yourself to make right now?
My advice...never stop learning to trust God...it is an endless quest, never think you have arrived because often times the trials are just beginning.
 
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TRUTH !!!

My advice...never stop learning to trust God...it is an endless quest, never think you have arrived because often times the trials are just beginning.


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Oh, Lawdy I'm 44 you acting like you about to dissipate into thin air. See, I probably wouldn't listen to me either, I don't know if you know, but I am very very head strong, since birth. But that's the good news now, I'm in my forties and I'm ready to listen :clap:

And in 12 days I am going to be 66 years old. I still haven't vanished into thin air, and if I live as long as my father, I will be 91 when I die. That means that God has tons of time to work on me.

If I could go back, with the knowledge I have now stuffed into my head, I would start taking Karate while I was in kindergarten. I would start buying--rather, hoarding, all of the silver change I could get my hands on. I would take that $2.50 gold piece that my brother stole from me, and I would hide it someplace where he would never find it. I would stop my sisters from sneaking into my room at night and stealing my belongings.

Yes, I would begin cooperating with God at a lot younger age. But as far as building a missionary station in Afghanistan, or doing anything like that, no. I would try to listen to God, and try to do what He wanted me to do.

I would also study a lot more. It wasn't that I did not know the material, it was simply that I didn't do the homework. It was boring. I've got that piece of information, let's move on.

I would still end up as a monastic (monk), but I would try my vocation while I was a lot younger.
 
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Blessed by all your posts. I haven't got the tee-shirt either, but still running the race for that prize, and if by the grace of God I get it, I will place it at the feet of Jesus......

Well, I got the t-shirt, the mug, the refrigerator magnet. These are cold comfort if you a living alone.

Love more, not less.
 
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You're old, invest in a walker.

I know that post was not meant for me. However, I already have a walker, and a cane, and even a wheelchair that I use when I am REALLY in pain.
 
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How about forgive...those that don't think this is a big one have never had much to forgive, so forgive always even if you feel the one you need to forgive is God...along with that goes James 1:19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,

With over a thousand passages that talk about listening it is not taught nor practiced nearly enough.
 
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With over a thousand passages that talk about listening it is not taught nor practiced nearly enough.
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God gave us 2 ears that can't close and 1 mouth that can, you think we would learn something huh?

How about forgive...
And a root of bitterness comes from unforgiveness, its stunts our growth and is a terrible weed of deception, until we cut it down. Yes, forgiveness in going forward with anything in life is key.
 
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Focus on getting to know God/the Lord Jesus through "heart" experience, more than getting to know about God/the Lord Jesus through "head" knowledge.

Pray as Jesus did "forgive them Lord, because they don't know what they're doing" whenever you feel wronged (immediately), so you never allow bitterness or vengeance or anger to grow cankers in your own heart. This includes all the things you think someone should have said or done.) Live in the forgiveness you have received and pass it on freely as you received it. Never wait for a time when you think someone deserves it.

Practice "your will be done on earth as it is in heaven" daily, as one important way to materialise the heavenly kingdom of God here and now, rather than dreaming of eventually "going to heaven" when you die.

Know that God loves you, he trusts and believes in you, his long term plan for you remains firm, even if you have to start moving on from a new point after every time you mess up - he never ever gives up on you. He has already gifted you beyond measure, and definitely beyond your comprehension. Now he wants to partner with you to make you all you can and were meant to be. Let him take the lead. Do not be afraid - he will never ask you to do something he thinks you cannot do, with the resources he has made available.

And if you believe that he loves everyone in the world as much as he loves you, then he is already ahead of you working in the lives of those you meet, and in some way you are part of his plan for them. So listen listen listen to them, and listen listen listen to the Holy Spirit to guide your speech (or silence) and your body language as you interact with others. Gain heart experience of your Lord by responding appropriately and immediately to what the Spirit says. If you are uncertain that the voice is the Spirit's, repond in faith. The result will confirm one way or another if it was. And you will be better able to recognise that voice again.

Promise yourself, and practice "life-giving conversations" at all times and with all those you communicate with. Practice the art of encouragement.

Give people "flowers" before they die or move out of your life, rather than at their funeral. This is one important way of practicing a live-giving conversation.

Let the "joy of the Lord be your strength." This is not your joy in him or in what he has done for you. This is his joy in you. The Lord delights in his people. Let that motivate you. Rejoice in the Lord always (that is your joy) - because he rejoices in you. You love him because he loved you; you trust him because he trusted you. He has always been the initiator of every good thing. If God is for you, who can be against you?

One thing that really shook me and my priorities when I was almost 50 was when I read the question "Do you know of anyone who, on their deathbed, said 'I wish I had spent more time at the office?" * People and relationships are far more important than financial or career success or even fame.

Don't be discouraged by the constant stream of bad news. God is still on the throne. And he will always find a way by which all things (even the bad stuff) will work for the benefit of his loved ones. The only catch: he defines the benefits. But hey, if he gave his only Son for you, what would good would he possible deny you?

These are all things I wish I had understood in my heart, rather than only giving academic assent to in my head, when I was young. I would have been less dogmatic, more sensitive to others, and probably more effective in all aspects of my life.

* (The Big Apple: “No one on their deathbed ever says they wish they had spent more time at the office”)
 
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This question is for those with a little age and experience in life, those people that have been there, done that and got the T-shirt. I am in my 40's, and I am interested in ANY wisdom given, I wanna treasure and make use of every day of my life to the fullest. What would you tell your 40 something-year-old self if you could turn back time? Doesn't matter what it is, or what it's about, what would you tell yourself? Are there any life changes you would warn yourself to make right now?
All that I have suffered over the years has brought me to this most beautiful place in the LORD. The only thing I wish I had done differently...listen to the LORD at his rebuffs, learn quicker from the trial he placed before me and really seek HIM on what it truly means to take every thought captive...because from the vantage point He has brought me to, I can see that was the biggest culprit. Jesus said, "Take no thought..."for a very BIG reason. Much suffering could have been avoided if I had truly sought the meaning of those few words.
 
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What would you tell your 40 something-year-old self if you could turn back time? Doesn't matter what it is, or what it's about, what would you tell yourself? Are there any life changes you would warn yourself to make right now?
"You are not too old"
"Life has just begun"
"You are capable of overcoming back pain"
"Get Jesus Christ asap"
"Study theology"
"You don't need alcohol or cigarettes."
"Read the bible every day."
"Don't be so status conscious"
"Be more worried what God thinks of you than your siblings"
"Stop being so restless. Excitement doesn't equal happiness."
 
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