What to do if one of your Christian Children were homosexual?

[SkyWriting]

very shallow application of that passage

Overreaching would be a better complaint.

 

[SkyWriting]

I personally don't think people are born that way but this argument eventually ends with both sides agreeing to disagree.

My wife is a grade-school teacher, and kids are doomed to be gay as children.
And by that I mean they don't fit well, and it's not a choice.
She also knows the parents.

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

If it were my child I'd say I'd love them. BUT lets say I had a son who was gay and 16. Lets say hes wanting to date a guy from his school. I'd tell him no. And he is not allowed to bring his BF to our house. I'd also say if he dates him outside of the house there will be consequences. Loss of use of electronics, no driving, no parties...etc. If he refuses and dates the guy anyways I'd tell him when hes 18 he has to move out then if he wishes to remain in a same sex relationship. Once hes out I would still love him and support him, however I will not support any part of his plans involving his BF. Such as wedding plans, vacation plans....etc. No money either if it means supporting his BF. Now, if he did not move out for some reason then I would kick him out.

Now, obviously before any of this I'd talk to him about his feelings for other men. Talk to him about the bible and what Jesus would think. Have him talk to a pastor. Maybe other people who used to be gay. I'd help him to not be gay. But like I said, once 18 hes on his own if he chooses to keep the lifestyle. Tough love I guess. I do believe (as someone else said) that lifestyle is possibly something to do with bad wiring in the brain. A mental illness. Or maybe something to do with the devil influencing them when they are young. On a side note I would not go to his wedding if he had one. To many parents of children like this who are christian will often accept EVERYTHING the child does. Including letting them bring their same sex partner to home. That teaches your child nothing. Though your child shouldn't be dating as a teen anyways. And sadly many parents become supporters of gay rights and essentially turn against God on this subject. Choosing your child over God is dangerous.

 

[ViaCrucis]

Why does it require you "do" anything? Continue to be a loving, caring parent.

This. As far as I'm concerned this is like asking, "What should I do if my child is a red head?"

-CryptoLutheran

 

[sunlover1]

If you are without sin, then you may judge what is a sin and what is not.

No, then you may cast stones.
He can and should judge what is sin and what is not.
How else can he help said person who asks?

 

[sunlover1]

This. As far as I'm concerned this is like asking, "What should I do if my child is a red head?"

-CryptoLutheran

Not at all the same thing
it would be like asking what if my son is a drunkard or a harlot mongerer.
Redhead is how you're born and your genetic disposition.
SIN on the other hand is choice

 

[sunlover1]

Hi,

There are homosexual Christians out there.

I bump into them online all of the time.

And what I learn from them, is actually quite nice.

When talking to a homosexual Christisn, really you can just listen in.

Those people have a death sentence for eternity, given to them, by lots of Christians.

As they have worked out their Condemnation, from Christianity, many have accepted their fate.

I am transgendered and accepted, not my fate, but the battle before me, and lost.

Never have I lost a battle. Gays, have lost their battle, the one given to them by Christians.

They too though, while fighting that battle, to not be homosexual, studied the laws of God that are against them.

After all, if you were going to be killed, would you not at some point want to understand what the judgement was.

Well, enough LGB, have looked into how much trouble they were in.

And they looked. And they looked. And they kept looking.

When online I bump into them, they say the strangest human possible words to me on their Christian death sentence for eternity.

They say they can find no actual condemnation of themselves. And it seems that confuses each of them.

It seems they are saying, that when they sometimes become scholars of merit Biblically, that scholarship does not support the present understandings of God on the homosexuals.

It supports bad scholarship.

It is still not fun for them, the Christian death sentence given to them.

It seems they are saying, that no matter what is True Biblically, like in 1616, when Galileo was forced to accept the Christian Condemnation of his scholarship, they are still forced to accept the Condemnation by Christianity of their scholarship.

LOVE,

I'd rather tell them the truth and let them be thanking me for all of eternity than
smile at their bondage and watch them burn.

 

[AHH who-stole-my-name]

My daughter is bisexual and has chosen her life. I have chosen mine and while we are here together on this world i will cherish her as long as I can. She knows the implications of her lifestyle and has excepted what lies ahead.

That being said I was pondering the question of will we, when we reach Heaven remember those of our loved one's who failed to enter God's kingdom? It would seem to me, that all such memories would be wiped clean because of the hurt and pain of not having them around.

Revelation 21:4 He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever."

 

[throughfiierytrial]

This. As far as I'm concerned this is like asking, "What should I do if my child is a red head?"

-CryptoLutheran

I disagree. One needs to be strong in the Word and prayer...this is War Room stuff...if you've seen the movie.
I believe one must instruct all the positive, affirmative actions we should take as Christians and believe the Scriptures which point out that we are to overcome evil with good. At some point it may become necessary to be direct.

 

[fromtheAsh]

My wife is a grade-school teacher, and kids are doomed to be gay as children.
And by that I mean they don't fit well, and it's not a choice.
She also knows the parents.

As a gay Christian, I don't know why anyone, especially a Christian, would choose to be gay. It would be like asking to become second class citizen and to be excluded from your friends, family, and church while putting a big giant target on your back for people to tell you what a horrible human being you are.

 

[throughfiierytrial]

My daughter is bisexual and has chosen her life. I have chosen mine and while we are here together on this world i will cherish her as long as I can. She knows the implications of her lifestyle and has excepted what lies ahead.

That being said I was pondering the question of will we, when we reach Heaven remember those of our loved one's who failed to enter God's kingdom? It would seem to me, that all such memories would be wiped clean because of the hurt and pain of not having them around.

Revelation 21:4 He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever."

I say, don't give up on her...love always protects, always hopes. If you loose your hope it will be difficult to pray.

 

[throughfiierytrial]

As a gay Christian, I don't know why anyone, especially a Christian, would choose to be gay. It would be like asking to become second class citizen and to be excluded from your friends, family, and church while putting a big giant target on your back for people to tell you what a horrible human being you are.

If you have read that homosexuality is sin and continue to live that way, you are simply telling God you love your sin more than Him...idolatry. The Apostle Paul gave up all sexual relations for the sake of the Kingdom. Perhaps use him as your example. We put our evil ways ahead of God...practice idolatry...in many ways (smoking, alcoholism, etc) We are all in your shoes/battle in one way or another...I ask you to please leave that lifestyle...ASAP...isn't it all worth it in the end??

 

[sunlover1]

My daughter is bisexual and has chosen her life. I have chosen mine and while we are here together on this world i will cherish her as long as I can. She knows the implications of her lifestyle and has excepted what lies ahead.

That being said I was pondering the question of will we, when we reach Heaven remember those of our loved one's who failed to enter God's kingdom? It would seem to me, that all such memories would be wiped clean because of the hurt and pain of not having them around.

Revelation 21:4 He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever."

I'm so sorry.
She may say that she has accepted what lies ahead, but our God is SO Good, that He is able to
do ANYthing. Look at Saul/Paul! He slapped Him off that ride and blinded his eyes.. Paul sat up
right quick and had a conversion
He can do that for your baby girl too!
There are so many stories, they just don't get much press because the
"powers that be" are trying to blind our youth.
It's in vogue nowadays to be "open" ..
Lord give you comfort and grace to do this.

 

[sunlover1]

As a gay Christian, I don't know why anyone, especially a Christian, would choose to be gay. It would be like asking to become second class citizen and to be excluded from your friends, family, and church while putting a big giant target on your back for people to tell you what a horrible human being you are.

Same way any Christian would "choose" to be an alcoholic, or a gambler or a stalker etc.
none of those things is lauded by Christians or anyone.. but it's bondage and so they
don't know that it's not "who they are"
The devil is real and he's working overtime. He blinds us
OMGosh did he do some numbers on me and now my life is screwed up.
So i have to start over AGAIN!
couldn't believe he got me again but i'm done now!
I wont be fooled again!
Hope you're able to work this out.
It take an incredible person to do it and he only targets incredible peeps.

 

[fromtheAsh]

If you have read that homosexuality is sin and continue to live that way, you are simply telling God you love your sin more than Him...idolatry. The Apostle Paul gave up all sexual relations for the sake of the Kingdom. Perhaps use him as your example. We put our evil ways ahead of God...practice idolatry...in many ways (smoking, alcoholism, etc) We are all in your shoes/battle in one way or another...I ask you to please leave that lifestyle...ASAP...isn't it all worth it in the end??

I understand what you are trying to do and I thank you for your concern, but I do not believe that homosexuality is anymore sinful than heterosexuality.

 

[sunlover1]

I understand what you are trying to do and I thank you for your concern, but I do not believe that homosexuality is anymore sinful than heterosexuality.

I also thought what i was doing was all cool,
til i found out how much it hurt to get whacked upside the head.
Your life, none of my biz what you do.
Don't even know you.
I was just telling my story (well a wee bit of it!)

 

[Audacious]

I would love and support my children, because to do anything else is to abdicate my responsibility as a parent. What matters is that I do my job; it's their job to figure out their role in society, not mine. It's my job to make sure they have a safe space in which to do that.

Edit: note that I'm not actually a parent at this time, and hopefully will not be for many years.

 

[PapaZoom]

Love never fails.

I can't change people's behavior. But I can love them. If it's my kid, I'm just going to love them. No conditions. It's all I've got.

 

[Neogaia777]

Beat them to death.

 

[sunlover1]

Love never fails.

I can't change people's behavior. But I can love them. If it's my kid, I'm just going to love them. No conditions. It's all I've got.

You're right, you can't change anyone.
I love all my kids and not one of them is without sin.