We all were born in sin. And in sin every one of us has had wrong ways and tendencies and preferences. Homosexuality is just one "item" which can be in each sinner's "package deal" of sin. And you might remember how there were things you yourself could not "help". We all need God. Only with God is is possible to get free from our sin and sin problems. This is the same for all of us.
Our Apostle Paul says "we all once conducted ourselves in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, just as the others," (in Ephesians 2:3)
So, to me this means that Paul is saying that "we all" have been in slavery to some sort of "lusts", and "we all", then, have been the same as homosexuals, but just not specializing in the same lusts.
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w . . . isn't "sexual" really about reproducing, and not only how you get pleasure from sexual sensations? How you lust to get sexual pleasure is not quite the same has God giving you a drive to reproduce godly children for Him. I offer that God's drive is in His love, and is honest to attract you to the person you belong with in order to bring up children for Him. But lusts can be very not specific and unreliable, attracting people to even not humans . . . in order to get sensual pleasure.
"And love does not have us just using someone to get pleasure."
So, the real "preference" of gays and straights could, I consider, not be sexual, really, at all, but simply preference for pleasure which keeps them, unfortunately, away from how we could be enjoying sweet and tender intimacy with God in His very own love which is so better and feels so nicer than mere creature pleasure.
We were all born in sin; so each of us had things which were not right. But I'll "bet" you had items which humans might not like, but which would not be displeasing to God.
Because Adam and Eve fell, they got into a very wrong way of seeing what is good and what is bad. Look at how humans, can so speak badly of rain, for only one example. So, if rain could have feelings
think how rain might feel! So, with God evaluate what really is needing correction, and what is very usable by God. And forgive all the people who did not know how to love you; because they are missing out on so much, if they do not know how to love. And become an example so you can be a true friend to every person, whether they know you are or not
The same as all of us, "they" need to trust in Jesus (Ephesians 1:12) and seek God for His correction. And He changes us out of our nature of sin so we are no longer available to being dominated and controlled by passions and feelings and emotions which just drive and waste us and "enough is not enough". With God, we become content and we are not focused on preferences for pleasure.
"'Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.'" (Matthew 11:29)
So, we do not judge and condemn gays to be unable to change. God is able, easily and breezily and beautifully. Jesus on the cross died with hope for any of us to become children of God in His own holiness > which does come with seeking our Father's correction > Hebrews 12:4-11. So, we do not discriminate against gays, by saying this is not as possible for them as for anyone else of us. And we do not discriminate by saying they don't need forgiveness while the rest of us do.
When you tell children what is for their own good, ones can say you "hate" them, or they can say they "hate" you! This is because of how Adam and Eve fell so they had their perception of good and evil backwards, even calling rain "bad" weather, when rain is so needed for us to have life on this planet. Humans in sin can be so backwards, because of Satan's evil spirit > Ephesians 2:2.
You need to make sure with God about what is really true, then be a good example of how you handle it >
"nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)
Learn how to love with your wife and other Christians, and children can feed on your example. And trust God who alone can make this work. It is not only a copy-cat thing, but how God spreads whatever is really in you to make your children the same way. So, make sure about what is really going in in you, in the sight of God!
"rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." (1 Peter 3:4)
The Bible is very clear, how Jesus calls to "all", with the exact same hope > Matthew 11:28-30. No sinner is some special case. How you prefer to get your pleasure, by the way, is not your true identity. God is able to change each of us, out of our impossible personality things and the torments we have because of our fears and worries. We all have impossible things. And only God is able to cure us, in our nature. So, there is this hope for all of us > love "hopes all things" (in 1 Corinthians 13:7). So, we have compassion for any other person >
"He can have compassion on those who are ignorant and going astray, since he himself is also subject to weakness." (Hebrews 4:15)