Okay, not that I REALLY want to talk about this, but I will.
I am a long term survivor of sexual abuse (ten years) but multiple persons. The worse of which was my father who actually isolated me from every other person on earth. He, praise God is dead (he did get saved) because if he was here I think I would rip his face off.
You know I forgave him a long time ago which is what makes this anger so startling to me. We had a very strange relationship actually - he worshiped the ground I walked on and thought the sun rose and set on me. He wasn't like a lot of abusers you hear about.
At any rate.
I had a revelation on Sunday about how I didn't really build these walls - HE did - by speaking lies over me about how other people didnt really love me. Well how am I supposed to undo walls I didn't build.
And
I am SO angry.
And I am/have been struggling with suicidal idealogies. I have even set far off dates just to get a break from the pressure of it. My way of dealing with it is to set a date so I don't think about it all the time and then take on things I can do for God AFTER that date and then well, I can't very well disappoint God by checking out.
hey, I am not saying I am all "right" and all "healed" - just telling you what works for me.
All of the above is compounded (possibly started by) the fact that my closest friend's daughter has been molested pretty much parallel as my story by a family member and I have been supporting her and I see so much of myself when I look at her - she's five and she's so brave....
<sigh>
I don't even know where this going other then I feel like I am being completely crushed and I don't want to "talk" to anyone because if mention the word suicide people tend to totally freak out and call the mental health folks - which while i understand that - I don't have time for them - 1) because they always want to whip out the meds (ummm yea I self medicated for years and that doesn't work, 2) they want to pat you on the head and tell you need to learn to live at that broken level because that's as good as it gets (and YES I have had christian counselors tell me that) Excuse me ? Jesus never met anyone he couldn't heal.
I have battled this on and off my whole life - I'm still here and I haven't tried for over twenty years.
I just don't think I can deal with more weeks of feeling this way. It goes away but only after intense prayer.
I would like to be able to "talk" to people in real life, but my "story" is so wretched (even when I tone it WAY down) they tend to run away screaming waving their arms in the air, not very helpful on their part actually.
Thoughts anyone?
I am a long term survivor of sexual abuse (ten years) but multiple persons. The worse of which was my father who actually isolated me from every other person on earth. He, praise God is dead (he did get saved) because if he was here I think I would rip his face off.
You know I forgave him a long time ago which is what makes this anger so startling to me. We had a very strange relationship actually - he worshiped the ground I walked on and thought the sun rose and set on me. He wasn't like a lot of abusers you hear about.
At any rate.
I had a revelation on Sunday about how I didn't really build these walls - HE did - by speaking lies over me about how other people didnt really love me. Well how am I supposed to undo walls I didn't build.
And
I am SO angry.
And I am/have been struggling with suicidal idealogies. I have even set far off dates just to get a break from the pressure of it. My way of dealing with it is to set a date so I don't think about it all the time and then take on things I can do for God AFTER that date and then well, I can't very well disappoint God by checking out.
hey, I am not saying I am all "right" and all "healed" - just telling you what works for me.
All of the above is compounded (possibly started by) the fact that my closest friend's daughter has been molested pretty much parallel as my story by a family member and I have been supporting her and I see so much of myself when I look at her - she's five and she's so brave....
<sigh>
I don't even know where this going other then I feel like I am being completely crushed and I don't want to "talk" to anyone because if mention the word suicide people tend to totally freak out and call the mental health folks - which while i understand that - I don't have time for them - 1) because they always want to whip out the meds (ummm yea I self medicated for years and that doesn't work, 2) they want to pat you on the head and tell you need to learn to live at that broken level because that's as good as it gets (and YES I have had christian counselors tell me that) Excuse me ? Jesus never met anyone he couldn't heal.
I have battled this on and off my whole life - I'm still here and I haven't tried for over twenty years.
I just don't think I can deal with more weeks of feeling this way. It goes away but only after intense prayer.
I would like to be able to "talk" to people in real life, but my "story" is so wretched (even when I tone it WAY down) they tend to run away screaming waving their arms in the air, not very helpful on their part actually.
Thoughts anyone?