Singles room

[ThisIsMe123]

I'm a little wary of doing that as I've heard stories and don't want to come across as one those guys who's hitting on all the new women. So I've only done that once, when it felt like we'd made a really good connection. However, even though she was receptive, she kept cancelling every time we'd arranged to get together, and eventually I gave up on her.

That's why you do it sparingly. I've actually landed dates this way. Heck, I even dated a woman I first saw join a singles Meetup group that never had the intention of going to an in-person event. lol.

 

[busywriting]

So of us just woke up one day and saw our mates getting married and giving birth to kids and all I totally forgot I am getting older!

 

[TheLastGeek]

It's just how life worked out for this season of my existence. I'd like to believe that God has a purpose for it.

 

[DragonFox91]

I am sad today.

 

[peaceful-forest]

I am sad today.

How come (if you don't mind sharing)?

 

[DragonFox91]

How come (if you don't mind sharing)?

I'll never be able to date

 

[peaceful-forest]

I'll never be able to date

How come?

 

[silver_belle]

Why am I single? Because I only date in person and I'm introverted. But mostly because I'm not attracted to the guys who like me.

 

[peaceful-forest]

But mostly because I'm not attracted to the guys who like me.

That has been my problem.

 

[silver_belle]

That has been my problem.

Let's be real here... women are physically more appealing than guys. Unfortunately, appearance is the initial hook for me. If I am turned off or uninterested in a guy's appearance I would be hesitant to date them.

 

[DragonFox91]

I am sad today.

How come?

It hasn't happened so probably won't

 

[DragonFox91]

I suddenly feel very sad. I'll never be able to date. I'm not good enough. It's never happened so it's dumb thinking it ever will. I just can't see a girl ever being interested in me. I'm such a loser. I'm so behind. Other 'late bloomers' are getting dates & I'm still stuck. I'll never 'match' with anyone.

 

[trophy33]

I suddenly feel very sad. I'll never be able to date. I'm not good enough. It's never happened so it's dumb thinking it ever will. I just can't see a girl ever being interested in me. I'm such a loser. I'm so behind. Other 'late bloomers' are getting dates & I'm still stuck. I'll never 'match' with anyone.

What do you think you are missing?

 

[TheLastGeek]

I suddenly feel very sad. I'll never be able to date. I'm not good enough. It's never happened so it's dumb thinking it ever will. I just can't see a girl ever being interested in me. I'm such a loser. I'm so behind. Other 'late bloomers' are getting dates & I'm still stuck. I'll never 'match' with anyone.

If you were a woman, would you be attracted to a man with an attitude like this?

I don't ask that to make you feel criticized, but it's an honest question, and one worth thinking over.

 

[MikeinSeattle]

I suddenly feel very sad. I'll never be able to date. I'm not good enough. It's never happened so it's dumb thinking it ever will. I just can't see a girl ever being interested in me. I'm such a loser. I'm so behind. Other 'late bloomers' are getting dates & I'm still stuck. I'll never 'match' with anyone.

Often when we start praying for a spouse it isnt that God doesnt start sending potentials our way, its that we arent satisfied with the ones he sends our way. Granted it is harder for a man than a woman. Women worth marrying are truly hard to find. But nothing is impossible through prayer. Just start praying at a level of prayer and fasting that is sustainable for a long period of time (just a simple prayer before every meal is enough to start making things happen.) And then as you start seeing things happen you get faith to start praying more. Remember prayer is 3/4 thanksgiving and praise and 1/4 asking. You need to have the scriptures in mind that give you faith to believe God wants you to have what you are asking. And living a holy life with much giving to others will GREATLY increase the power of your prayer.

God bless..

 

[DragonFox91]

I felt really really bad this morning. It hurts. I am feeling a bit better now. Trying to stay busy.

What do you think you are missing?

I'm not good enough.

Often when we start praying for a spouse it isnt that God doesnt start sending potentials our way, its that we arent satisfied with the ones he sends our way. Granted it is harder for a man than a woman. Women worth marrying are truly hard to find. But nothing is impossible through prayer. Just start praying at a level of prayer and fasting that is sustainable for a long period of time (just a simple prayer before every meal is enough to start making things happen.) And then as you start seeing things happen you get faith to start praying more. Remember prayer is 3/4 thanksgiving and praise and 1/4 asking. You need to have the scriptures in mind that give you faith to believe God wants you to have what you are asking. And living a holy life with much giving to others will GREATLY increase the power of your prayer.

God bless..

Thank you. I said a long prayer this morning.

If you were a woman, would you be attracted to a man with an attitude like this?

No I wouldn't. It just hurts sometimes.

 

[trophy33]

I'm not good enough.

I meant what do you miss about having a modern relationship?

Its not like some movie or like marriages/relationships were a decade or even a generation ago. Its totally messed up now, so be glad you are outside of it and give thanks to God that He protects you from it.

 

[DragonFox91]

I know many singles here have expressed the frustration 'expanding your network' never leads
anywhere. I feel like not only are the guy:girl ratios always so bad, but when there are girls, they always show attention to the guy who can dominate the table. Unfortunately not every guy does that. We who don't dominate the table just aren't as good. We say stuff & it just gets ignored & a second later someone else will say it & everyone laughs. & don't count on a situation that's away from the table.

I meant what do you miss about having a modern relationship?

Its not like some movie or like marriages/relationships were a decade or even a generation ago. Its totally messed up now, so be glad you are outside of it and give thanks to God that He protects you from it.

Okay, I wasn't sure which way you meant. No,that is what people who have been burned in the dating process say to convince themselves marriage isn't for them.

I don't know. I feel empty & heartbroken. It's like when you're at a party & having fun but someone you're expecting isn't there yet & you really want them to be there. It's that feeling. It's not a loneliness feeling. I know many singles who express loneliness eventually find a partner. I hope that because I don't have really a loneliness feeling, it doesn't mean it's not for me.

 

[trophy33]

I know many singles here have expressed the frustration 'expanding your network' never leads
anywhere. I feel like not only are the guy:girl ratios always so bad, but when there are girls, they always show attention to the guy who can dominate the table. Unfortunately not every guy does that. We who don't dominate the table just aren't as good. We say stuff & it just gets ignored & a second later someone else will say it & everyone laughs. & don't count on a situation that's away from the table.


Okay, I wasn't sure which way you meant. No,that is what people who have been burned in the dating process say to convince themselves marriage isn't for them.

I don't know. I feel empty & heartbroken. It's like when you're at a party & having fun but someone you're expecting isn't there yet & you really want them to be there. It's that feeling. It's not a loneliness feeling. I know many singles who express loneliness eventually find a partner. I hope that because I don't have really a loneliness feeling, it doesn't mean it's not for me.

Why dont you simply research the real women in the real life a bit? And then decide if its what you really want in your life? Instead of some vague feelings.

If you think that modern women are worth a relationship with them, then "dominate the table", using your words, and make the effort to change your life to serve their desires.

Being stuck "somewhere in the middle", where you just complain about it, is not a solution.

 

[DragonFox91]

Why dont you simply research the real women in the real life a bit? And then decide if its what you really want in your life? Instead of some vague feelings.

If you think that modern women are worth a relationship with them, then "dominate the table", using your words, and make the effort to change your life to serve their desires.

It's not vague feelings. & if that's what I have to do because I can't, my dream is not happening for me ever, sorry.