What you’ve done here is given the born again a full access license to sin. You are teaching the exact same version of OSAS that you claimed to reject and your theology sounds exactly like what satan said to Eve in the garden of Eden. “Surely you will not die”. What your saying is that once a person is born again he can go on a wild killing spree, raping and murdering everyone in sight. He can lie, cheat, steal, renounce Christ, worship satan, curse God, everything becomes permissible because God will not charge sin to him.
I think that is a distortion of the OP's message, and can imagine a similar charge against Paul. Paul dealt with this charge in the Romans quote you posted a few replies up: "May it never be!"
Have you considered that you cannot be preaching the same message as Paul if you are NOT accused of this? I don't think so. Many are ashamed of the "gospel of the grace of God" and do not want to be persecuted for it. Just like Paul said of preaching circumcision or "The man who does these things shall live by them" (which he said is "not of faith"), preaching to self-righteous flesh does not bring persecution:
"As many as desire to make a fair shew in the flesh, they constrain you to be circumcised; only lest they should suffer persecution for the
cross of Christ."--Gal. 6:12
Isn't the Cross of Christ what the OP continues to magnify above all else?
I don't see how "free gift", "apart from works", "ye were sealed with that holy Spirit of promise"
means anything in your theology. You've collected all the warnings, assume (incorrectly) they = loss of salvation and then use them to
seemingly nullify the grace of God. I hope that is not the case.
From Romans 5:
"Moreover the law entered, that the
offence might abound. But where sin abounded,
grace did much more abound:
21That as sin hath reigned unto death, even so might grace reign through righteousness unto eternal life by Jesus Christ our Lord."
No, we are not to "sin that grace may abound". And yet...grace
does abound nonetheless. Paradoxical but true.