I used to flat with a lady that had illegitimate children with a partner and found out the dad had a restraining order wasnt allowed to set foot on her property.
There are no illegitimate children. All children are made in God's image, and he knits them together in the womb... he knew them and called them before they were even conceived. I think calling children illegitimate is calling God's creation illegitimate.
Well with marriage these days people dont seem to take it seriously. I dont know who marries all these incompatible couples that thought it was a good idea at the time.
Couples can be quite compatible at the time of the marriage and then things can change...they can grow apart, situations come up that make them change, or it turns out they are not as compatible as they had thought...there are a whole host of reasons people get married and later divorced. It isn't that they don't take it seriously. I don't know anyone at all who says their vows, thinking "what fun for now, but I think in a few years I'll switch it up and go for a skinny blonde rather than this pretty, plump brunette." or "this one will be a great mother to my offspring and once I'm done procreating I will trade her in for someone young and pretty." People make decisions to marry with the information they have at the time....people change and circumstances can change. It doesn't mean it was a bad idea to get married.
I was thinking well might be hard for her to have children. But i suppose nothing is impossible for God.
Marriage is not just about having children. In fact, when you get older, it is mostly about companionship.
Because she married a cheating man? Is this to punish her for making a stupid decision?
It does not mean she made a stupid decision. How should she have known? If she had known that he was going to cheat and married him anyway, that might be "stupid". But marrying someone is a sign you believe they will be faithful.
For christians that marry each other, and if one cheats youd think the offending party would repent and the other forgive.
Some people feel justified in having affair - for example if the other spouse was not fulfilling their marital sexual obligation. Doesn't make it right, but they may feel justified. And not everyone will own up to, or repent from, their sin against their spouse. And the one who needs to do the forgiving... well, forgiving egregious and possibly repeated sins becomes very hard, and maintaining a soft heart when you are repeatedly sinned against, is nearly impossible.