Darkhorse
just horsing around
- Aug 10, 2005
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- Married
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- US-Republican
It's easy to make this compatibility stuff more complicated than it really is.
There are a few easy but important things to look for:
Do the two of you agree on humor? Is your partner laughing their head off at some entertainer that you consider crude, or vulgar, or just not funny? That's a big red flag.
Is your partner easy to talk to (the conversation flows without much effort), or do you have to keep "feeding" it?
Do you find yourself repeatedly halting the conversation or changing the subject because you sense disagreement?
How consistent are they from day to day and week to week? How consistent are you?
How "in tune" are the two of you? Does today begin where yesterday left off, or is each day a new improvised creation?
The "obvious" matches don't matter that much (religious denomination, social class) but the hidden ones do (handling money, spiritual worldview).
Some people simply function as opposites of each other. Often that doesn't matter, but in a business relationship it's very difficult, and in a close personal relationship like marriage, it's disastrous.
These aren't the only criteria of course, but you get the idea.
Think of living 30, 40, 50, or 60 years with this person...
And DON'T expect them to change!
There are a few easy but important things to look for:
Do the two of you agree on humor? Is your partner laughing their head off at some entertainer that you consider crude, or vulgar, or just not funny? That's a big red flag.
Is your partner easy to talk to (the conversation flows without much effort), or do you have to keep "feeding" it?
Do you find yourself repeatedly halting the conversation or changing the subject because you sense disagreement?
How consistent are they from day to day and week to week? How consistent are you?
How "in tune" are the two of you? Does today begin where yesterday left off, or is each day a new improvised creation?
The "obvious" matches don't matter that much (religious denomination, social class) but the hidden ones do (handling money, spiritual worldview).
Some people simply function as opposites of each other. Often that doesn't matter, but in a business relationship it's very difficult, and in a close personal relationship like marriage, it's disastrous.
These aren't the only criteria of course, but you get the idea.
Think of living 30, 40, 50, or 60 years with this person...
And DON'T expect them to change!
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