...I don't think there is any reason to take offense when a woman says she wants to meet a 'manly man' whatever her definition of such may be. Its her right to decide what qualities she wants in a partner
Likewise I can't really take offense when I see or hear a guy talk about wanting a 'girly girl' for a wife, whatever his definition of girly girl may be. I don't see how it takes away from my identity or my individuaity if I should happen to fit that guys personal definition of a 'girly girl'. I would still be the somewhat strange girl I have always been
It's not really objectifying, unless they're getting into graphic conversation, then I would say thats objectifying. But deciding the qualities I want in my future hubby is not what I would consider objectifying. I would actually be surprised to meet even one person who didn't have some idea of what qualities or characteristics they would like to see in their future spouse.