There is a name for the way he is treating you. It is called Spiritual Abuse. It is a form of bullying with a religious bent to it. It is like domestic violence which starts with the low level abuse that is now being levelled at you. If you resist, the abuse will intensify, and from what you are saying, he is already become physically rough with you. That is domestic assault and is a criminal offence. You have the right to make a complaint to the police if he assaults you physically. In New Zealand, a violent push is called Common Assault Summary Offences Act, and carries a maximum term of six months in prison; A punch is Common Assault Crimes Act, and that carries a maximum of 2 years in prison. A person convicted of a domestic violence offence is required to undergo an anger management programme.
In your case, it may not be anger, but of power. He is using his brand of religion to exercise power and dominance over you. If your church is male dominated and puts women in second place, I don't think you will get much help from there.
I strongly advise you not to put up with any of it, but to say to your husband, "Lay a hand on me and we are divorced and you will be facing a judge in the Family Violence Court.
I could recommend that you make a formal written complaint to the pastor and elders of your church citing spiritual and domestic abuse, but this could make matters worse for you if the pastor sided with your husband. It depends on what position and status he has in your church.
I advise you to seek counsel and assistance from trusted friends, and to go and see someone from your local organisation that assists victims of Domestic Violence. They have professional and experienced people there who can help you and give you the right type of advice.
I was a Domestic Violence victim advisor in my local District Court for 10 years, and I have seen many cases like yours. I have also known of wives badly injured and sometimes losing their lives at the hands of violence husbands. This is why I am pretty straight in my views about it.
You need expert advice, not from your church, and a safety plan in the event that the abuse starts to escalate into actual violence and assault on you.
Spiritual bullies can be very charming and plausible to everyone around them, especially in the church, but except you as his target. He will never abuse you in front of others in the church because that will "out" him as a spiritual abuser. This is what may make it difficult for your pastor and elders to believe you over him.
You have to put Christ first in your life.
Your husband comes next, and He has an obligation before God to love you, not abuse or disempower you.
Your employment comes next, and you have every right to go and get a job if you wish.
Then your church comes last in your priority list, because the church is not God and God is not the church.