sonshine234
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Praying for you all. You'll have to decide what is more important to you at this point, having children or being married and really, really, really pray. Pray the Rosary and find a Saint, your first step should always be prayI have thought about this issue long and hard and realize I need to come to a decision. My husband and I have been married a handful of years, with enough time where it is reasonable to expect that as a Catholic couple, we would have 2 or 3 children. We don't have ANY.
Unfortunately my husband has made lots of excuses regarding why we couldn't have them a year or two earlier. Whether it was because we had bad jobs, not enough money, or some other excuse. He keeps pushing it back and I think I should be honest with myself and admit he doesn't want children, ever. We are both in our 30's and got married in our mid-20's, so it does seem awfully ridiculous at this point.
I also have to admit that I don't think I have a truly Catholic marriage. DH refuses to discontinue contracepting and if he had it his way, I'd be on that shot that stops menstruation for years. I won't be on contraception as it violates my faith and my conscience. In short-- we've never had truly procreative and unitive sex. I find this embarrassing as a Catholic, and more embarrassing that others look to me as a Catholic and see zero children. I know I can't be the only one in this situation, except the fact is I have to do something about it. I know a lot of other women just let it slide hoping their husbands will change and then they get divorced and get an annulment.
I know I need to confront him on this issue but I don't know what to do. I have two choices-- leave my marriage or deal with it, don't I? If I choose to stay I have to accept the fact he doesn't actually want children, but if I leave I have to accept the consequence that he will find a reason to not take me back and even worse, divorce me. I honestly have no idea what to do anymore. Lots of people have given me advice that I need to leave or accept a life of never being a mother, others have told me to pray, and others have told me to try to reason with him. I am sorry to say, but I have no control over my husband's emotions nor am I responsible for his feelings. I still am left with making a choice, both which have serious ramifications.
What should I do?
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