- Mar 28, 2005
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Well, when you get to my age (71), then a lot of things are just happy memories! But the companionship and the respect for each other is priceless. If one marries just for looks and performance in bed, then when those things fade, there is the temptation to trade her in for a younger model; and many men sadly do!Let’s say, hypothetically, I think myself Righteous, and forego praying for that quick gust that moves fabric.... Forego praying for God’s Will, and I decide to be clever and pray the very wind sweeps her my way to have and to hold. In the process I ignore the scripture that says beauty fades... and end up married to the gal. 6 months into marriage, I realize that marrying someone based on looks was a bad idea, as beauty fades, while personality is forever!
Yeah... that sums up my first marriage
That moment when you’re reading through Proverbs and realize you sidestepped all the important verses about marriage.
I could write a book on making Ishmael!![]()
My first wife married me in the hope that she could change me from what I was, and when she realised that she cannot change her husband's personality, she became depressed and couldn't see a future in the marriage. The interesting thing is that after she deserted me, I went on to get two university degrees, became a school teacher, and finally got a third degree (M.Div.). I also became an elder in my church. So I ended up possibly being everything she would have wanted me to me, but missed out through her lack of faith in Christ that He could develop a marriage into something meaningful and blessed. It was my second wife, who believed in me and supported me all the way, that I achieved my two mastorates, and an 18 year leadership role in my church.
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