Do YOU have a crush on anyone? (59)

[Vinter]

You're welcome. I hope you hit it off. Trust your instincts. I saw someone's profile the other day and had a good feeling. I read her posts and it didn't relent. She exudes a sweetness I find appealing, she's pretty, and in her twenties.

Those are women I usually take under my wing. She messaged me today and we clicked immediately. She told me she wished she knew someone like me r/t. As it happens, I'm moving in her vicinity next year.

I share this to illustrate God's ability to bring people together. I admitted a couple of weeks ago I should start mentoring again. I didn't have anyone who caught my fancy. But when I saw her I knew she was a possibility. There was something about her that resonated.

Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I wish I could give your post more than one rating, as it is also, Informative, useful, optmistic and a winner.

 

[bèlla]

Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I wish I could give your post more than one rating, as it is also, Informative, useful, optmistic and a winner.

Thank you for the compliment.

 

[bèlla]

Thank you for your kind and encouraging words.

PS. And she's Christian!

 

[MehGuy]

Goldie Hawn.

 

[Vinter]

PS. And she's Christian!

I could tell from the way you described this young lady you have taken under your wing, that when I read your post, In my mind I already thought of her as a Christian.

 

[bèlla]

I could tell from the way you described this young lady you have taken under your wing, that when I read your post, In my mind I already thought of her as a Christian.

I didn't know when I answered earlier. We spoke throughout the day and I noticed something in her profile that prompted the question. I'm not surprised. When the Lord sends someone to walk beside me they pour into me. They aren't seeking my assistance. They're lending a hand. She offered kindness, encouragement, and prayer. He builds my friendships.

 

[Rafael_]

No, it's been a minute since I had a crush on someone.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

I stopped to say hello to a CF ex of mine. It seems she still likes me as much as she ever did, and that was a long time ago. We'll see where this goes...

 

[MrMoe]

I'm in a bit of conundrum. My mom is urging me to join an online dating site. I don't want to do online dating. I've tried the free ones before with no success. There were the obvious catfish accounts and very few Christian women, and none in my area. I don't want to pay for a dating site. That just seems desperate. But my mom won't let it go and I want my parents to see me married. I want to make them happy.

 

[ReesePiece23]

I'm in a bit of conundrum. My mom is urging me to join an online dating site. I don't want to do online dating. I've tried the free ones before with no success. There were the obvious catfish accounts and very few Christian women, and none in my area. I don't want to pay for a dating site. That just seems desperate. But my mom won't let it go and I want my parents to see me married. I want to make them happy.

In my mind, the number one golden rule in the pursuit to becoming your best version is to NOT listen to your mother. Pre-21? maybe. Post-21? Definitely not.

The only reason I'd join a dating site is if I felt the urge to rack some bodies up and boost my ego. I wouldn't do it to find the sort of girl I'd want to marry. I mean, for goodness sake lol...

You'd be better off searching for an online, Australian-based, comic book writers forum or something. Hobbies and careers are where the magic tends to happen; it's all about synergy and proximity. Not even attraction to measure up to those two things.

 

[bèlla]

I want my parents to see me married. I want to make them happy.

I understand that. It’s a feather in your cap.

Describe your ideal. What is she like?

 

[HisGraceAbounds]

I got chatted up yesterday while on an errand. That hasn't happened in years. It caught me by surprise and I stumbled on my words a few times. Awkward.

 

[MrMoe]

I understand that. It’s a feather in your cap.

Describe your ideal. What is she like?

Loving, loyal, faithful, patient, happy, positive, wise, interesting, beautiful, loves pizza and sushi.

 

[HisGraceAbounds]

I got chatted up yesterday while on an errand. That hasn't happened in years. It caught me by surprise and I stumbled on my words a few times. Awkward.

...awkward enough it's still bothering me.

I'm very mindful when I go out in public about my body language and the way I interact with people. I'm not trying to meet new people. There's nothing about my dress or demeanor that says "approachable". I run my errands because I must, and I keep my interactions with people brief, polite, but not friendly.

Then I get chatted up by someone who apparently didn't bother to see the 'signs' that said 'keep away, no joy here'. I can't imagine why she would have bothered to even try talking to me given how wholly self-absorbed and aloof I am...I am not that good looking.

 

[bèlla]

Then I get chatted up by someone who apparently didn't bother to see the 'signs' that said 'keep away, no joy here'. I can't imagine why she would have bothered to even try talking to me given how wholly self-absorbed and aloof I am...I am not that good looking.

Maybe your assumption's wrong and you don't appear as aloof and self-absorbed as you imagine. You've got kind eyes and don't look menacing. Nice try.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

I'm in a bit of conundrum. My mom is urging me to join an online dating site. I don't want to do online dating. I've tried the free ones before with no success. There were the obvious catfish accounts and very few Christian women, and none in my area. I don't want to pay for a dating site. That just seems desperate. But my mom won't let it go and I want my parents to see me married. I want to make them happy.

Has your family specified a subscription site, or would a free one satisfy?

 

[HisGraceAbounds]

Maybe your assumption's wrong and you don't appear as aloof and self-absorbed as you imagine. You've got kind eyes and don't look menacing. Nice try.

I don't try to look menacing. There's enough toxic masculinity running around already without me contributing to it.

When you go years...literally...without anyone talking to you in any other capacity than 'just being polite', it can (and did) cause a lot of confusion. I've been treated like a leper by women most of my life...and now all of a sudden.

It's suspicious.

 

[JustSomeBloke]

I got chatted up yesterday while on an errand. That hasn't happened in years. It caught me by surprise and I stumbled on my words a few times. Awkward.

It's a terrible, tired, old cliche, but love and romance come when you least expect it.

...awkward enough it's still bothering me.

I'm very mindful when I go out in public about my body language and the way I interact with people. I'm not trying to meet new people. There's nothing about my dress or demeanor that says "approachable". I run my errands because I must, and I keep my interactions with people brief, polite, but not friendly.

Then I get chatted up by someone who apparently didn't bother to see the 'signs' that said 'keep away, no joy here'. I can't imagine why she would have bothered to even try talking to me given how wholly self-absorbed and aloof I am...I am not that good looking.

She probably just thought you looked busy, and being busy and having a purpose and objective isn't unattractive. And for some go-getter type people it's an incentive to make a move before the chance passes.

I don't try to look menacing. There's enough toxic masculinity running around already without me contributing to it.

When you go years...literally...without anyone talking to you in any other capacity than 'just being polite', it can (and did) cause a lot of confusion. I've been treated like a leper by women most of my life...and now all of a sudden.

It's suspicious.

Don't overthink it. Just go with the flow. Que sera, sera.

 

[HisGraceAbounds]

The logical part of me says it was just a 'because' thing. Most folks around my area get the notion that another full-tilt lockdown is on the horizon, and I kind of think folks are trying to make new connections before that happens.

The kinds of connections most of them seem interested in making are not for me. I don't necessarily think that was the intent of the chat-up (and to be honest I'm so inexperienced I wouldn't recognize those signs if I did see them), but so far in life, no woman has ever chatted me up just because she thought I'd make a nice friend.

It makes me giggle. This whole 'love thing' is really quite silly. I'm glad I don't deal with it and it's better for me to be like Waldorf or Statler and just watch and heckle from the viewing box.

 

[bèlla]

I don't try to look menacing. There's enough toxic masculinity running around already without me contributing to it.

When you go years...literally...without anyone talking to you in any other capacity than 'just being polite', it can (and did) cause a lot of confusion. I've been treated like a leper by women most of my life...and now all of a sudden.

It's suspicious.

Do you remember what you said to me? I was shocked. Pleasantly so.

And that's the point. You don't know what anyone's thinking or how you affect them unless they tell you.

I suspect you're experiencing the result of holiness. He changes and beautifies us. You've softened a lot and your openness is admirable. You're not unattractive and you're physically fit. I expect women to look your way. Heck, even @ReesePiece23 complimented you. Hello?