Do YOU have a crush on anyone? (59)

[Saucy]

So I can definitely say crush like feelings are developing.. but I’m really trying to figure out if I should shut it down before my mind keeps going down this road.

The thing is the guy is very overweight. I find him increasingly attractive as his personality grows on me, so looks aren’t the issue. But I worry about what the lifestyle and habits obesity indicates would mean in a relationship. Would he be willing/able to go on runs and hikes with me? I struggle with binge eating at times, would he encourage me to eat badly so he could eat badly too? Would he never exercise with me? Would he have too low stamina to help around the house and I’d be back in the role of doing 100% of the chores/kids/cooking/shopping? Is he in a pattern of gaining weight where I need to worry that he’s going to get big enough that he’s immobile or unemployable and I’d have to take him on as a dependent in addition to all other duties? On the one hand it’s like “he’s such a great guy, he just has one flaw so get over it,” but that one flaw could have a lot of big implications..

I was in a terrible relationship before that happened entirely because I chose to settle and compromise on a lot of things. I was lucky to get out of it, and I’ve promised myself I would never put myself in a bad situation just to be in a relationship again… thus I over analyze like this.

I'd say give him a chance, but don't get too far with him until you clearly understand where he's at. Is he motivated to lose weight and get healthy? Or is he content staying his size and not motivated to be active? If you find he is not motivated to change so he can be an active part of your life, I suggest moving on. But if he is, then he sounds worth the investment.

 

[Keri]

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[Owlette]

Yeeeesss

 

[mojoboy31]

 

[mojoboy31]

Ach. So close.

 

[TraciDee]

-subscribes-

 

[Elizabeth8393]

I'm sorry, Knight. Did I say something wrong?

 

[Owlette]

Bah. I forgot that you can't quote from an old thread once it splits. We were having a pretty interesting conversation too.

 

[mojoboy31]

Bah. I forgot that you can't quote from an old thread once it splits. We were having a pretty interesting conversation too.

See? lol... You just have to copy and paste into a quote.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

 

[JackofSpades]

Bah. I forgot that you can't quote from an old thread once it splits.

Copypaste old text inside some new quote?

 

[leothelioness]

More crush reveals would generate conversation. Come on now, people.

 

[mojoboy31]

Every time I try to encourage a reveal, someone reveals a crush on food.

 

[leothelioness]

Every time I try to encourage a reveal, someone reveals a crush on food.

Well, I admit I have a crush on apple cobbler.

 

[mojoboy31]

And I've a crush on French press coffee. But these aren't the reveals we're looking for.

 

[Rhamiel]

More crush reveals would generate conversation. Come on now, people.

what is the saying?
be the change you want to see

 

[leothelioness]

And I've a crush on French press coffee. But these aren't the reveals we're looking for.

So do I. I regret to inform I don't have an actual crush to reveal.

 

[Owlette]

Well, according to the tags, apparently someone likes Traci... So perhaps that person could spill...

Or maybe the person who likes Nom.

 

[leothelioness]

what is the saying?
be the change you want to see

Good one. But I unfortunately cannot be that change. Well, not unless you count actors.

 

[SarahsKnight]

I'm sorry, Knight. Did I say something wrong?

Oh, no, Elizabeth. I'm sorry. I realized belatedly that that gif might have given the wrong impression because in it I was shaking my head, which without context might make one think I was saying "NOOO!" .... On the contrary, I welcome it. I meant only to convey the blushing part, as to say I am most flattered. (And I sort of blushed IRL at the moment I saw your post.)