Hm four parents...if they split up and marry again would you have eight. Are your parents christians why did they divorce? If you dont mind me asking. Did God say to themit was a good idea? Or was it God worked through them depsiteite diovrces.
Im just dealing with the fallout from the many that arent hand,ing it so well. Maybe your parents are well off. Money sems to help in many case for the wealthier marrieds, it can actually be a way to. Move up a class...ive heard of the ohephenomenon of starrter wives.it seem to only work if the ones that split up marry another split up couple. The child then ends up pretty spoiled out of it. But thats really only if the step parents are the wealthy type with cash to spare. I guess depends if you can see that love is more than just having a comfortable lifestyle.
My dad and stepdad are not the sort of men to have "starter wives"; my mom and stepmom are not the type of women to be attracted to men who are. My stepparents have comparable education and socioeconomic statuses to my biological parents. They are all professionals who meaningfully contribute to society, they all have independently earned financial stability, and they are all Christians. They married for love, not for financial or social gain. My parents have been very happily remarried for well over a decade to stepparents I love; I have little concern about them splitting up.
I sort of do mind you asking why my parents divorced, but I'll answer anyway. Catastrophic grief was the primary cause. Their firstborn died, and my prospects for survival had been bleak. Despite taking immaculate care of herself and using all due diligence throughout the pregnancies, my mom went into extremely premature labor with my sister and then later on with me. My sister died as an infant. Time doesn't ever really heal a wound that huge. I was born even earlier than she was, with a host of medical issues, and spent my first few months of life in the hospital. I finally was released and began to slowly flourish. They were given clearance to travel with me to see my grandparents. While there, my older brother's friend exposed me to chickenpox. I was still too young to have received the vaccination for it, so I contracted it from him, and with my body already being weakened it lacked the defenses to fight it off; it had a savage impact. It caused massive sepsis which put me back into the NICU for ages, and caused permanent damage. In addition to that extraordinary stress, my parents also endured multiple miscarriages, both lost very close family members and friends over the course of about seven years, and they dealt with my older brother being in an accident (one he fully recovered from, but was still very draining). All the grief made them sort of like two support beams which had both been severely battered and were weakening; it was hard to hold up the family.
My parents are people of faith, so I'm sure they were in prayer before divorcing. I do feel that my family, with my stepparents and the rest of their extended family as well, is a gift from God. I have no memories of my parents' divorce process, and they've worked together extremely well over the years to ensure that it didn't have a negative impact on my life. I love my stepparents. My stepdad had lost his first wife to cancer many years before he met my mom, and had learned how to find his way through grief. He helped her to make it through as well. My stepmom is very caring and loving, and she's a pediatrician, which has been beneficial with my health problems that plagued me throughout my childhood and are still an issue now in my teens.
I saw that you clicked the prayers button for me. Everyone, and each family can benefit from prayers, so thanks. I promise I don't need any due to my parents' divorce, though. Yes, there are many children who've been devastated by their parents' divorce. There are also many children who've been devastated by their parents' toxic or unhealthy marriage. It's all variable to the family. Money can have an impact on how well kids adapt to divorces and remarriages, but I think what's a greater factor to their peace and stability is the way the parents handle it. There are very wealthy parents who have bitter divorces and hostile custody battles, and there are far less wealthy ones who have amicable divorces and create harmony with their custody arrangements. My parents are genuine friends and have respect for one another. They've always made me and my siblings their priority, and worked together to raise us and provide us with nurturing, happy childhoods.
