I totally agree with you. If the parents show respect and decency towards each other the kids will adjust. So many parents unfairly use their kids to hurt the other parent which is so selfishAs one who is the child of divorced parents and who is also divorced (very amicably), I can tell you from direct experience that the impact of divorce depends entirely on how it's handled. While it's never easy even under the best of circumstances, I think the more traumatic ones are due to the fact that those involved couldn't handle it with any dignity. Too much selfishness, too much ego, and even too much calling the cops on each other (and this is in Christian split-ups).
I even know a Promise Keeper (remember those?) who's been divorced twice and married 3 times.
Back when we were first married, my ex and I didn't believe in divorce at all, and I felt quite judgmental of anyone who would even consider divorce. Hah! Little did I know how things would be 21 years later.
We are still there for each other, though, and even do things together with the kids. The family bond is still there, even if the documentation is different (oh -- and the sleeping arrangements are different, obviously ). He's done the dating-after-marriage thing (I even met one of his girlfriends -- really nice lady). I, on the other hand, am very, very content to never date again. I've forgotten how to do that.
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